Do I talk to my brother or not?

[Anonymous]

To anyone who wants "examples" of new girl taking advantage in case it was missed-

OK you want examples let me give a few to you- he lives in an apt worth about 1.5 million (moved out to this apt after his divorce). She said she didn't like it and has talked him into selling it and he is buying a more expensive apt. that SHE found.

They were going to Italy for her best friends wedding and she decides to turn their 4 day stay into a 15 day extended trip all over Europe, staying in the best hotels, of course all on his dime.

She wanted a new car and talked him into getting her a very expensive car as a "birthday gift".

Need I go on?

[Anonymous]

OP, stop trying to control your brother. What he does with his money and who he spends his time with are truly none of your g.d. business.

What's with all the meddling, control freak, busybody adult sisters on DCUM lately? Leave your brothers alone! Just because your family treated you as some special princess growing doesn't give you the right to boss everyone around now.

[Anonymous]

Your brother is an adult. Apparently he's managed pretty well up to this point and it's his money. He gets to decide how he wants to spend it -- maybe it makes him happy to buy things for her? Honestly nothing good will come of pooing on his choice of a girl friend. If you want to alienate him, then go ahead and tell him she's a lousy choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To anyone who wants "examples" of new girl taking advantage in case it was missed-

OK you want examples let me give a few to you- he lives in an apt worth about 1.5 million (moved out to this apt after his divorce). She said she didn't like it and has talked him into selling it and he is buying a more expensive apt. that SHE found.

They were going to Italy for her best friends wedding and she decides to turn their 4 day stay into a 15 day extended trip all over Europe, staying in the best hotels, of course all on his dime.

She wanted a new car and talked him into getting her a very expensive car as a "birthday gift".

Need I go on?

It is absolutely none of your business how your brother chooses to spend his money. We get it, you think she's a gold digger. Maybe she is and maybe she isn't. Maybe she'll be his trophy wife. As long as they're both happy, why the hell is it your concern?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To anyone who wants "examples" of new girl taking advantage in case it was missed-

OK you want examples let me give a few to you- he lives in an apt worth about 1.5 million (moved out to this apt after his divorce). She said she didn't like it and has talked him into selling it and he is buying a more expensive apt. that SHE found.

They were going to Italy for her best friends wedding and she decides to turn their 4 day stay into a 15 day extended trip all over Europe, staying in the best hotels, of course all on his dime.

She wanted a new car and talked him into getting her a very expensive car as a "birthday gift".

Need I go on?

It is absolutely none of your business how your brother chooses to spend his money. We get it, you think she's a gold digger. Maybe she is and maybe she isn't. Maybe she'll be his trophy wife. As long as they're both happy, why the hell is it your concern?

Agreed. And who told you she forced him into this? DH did something similar to the Italy trip when we were dating. It was something we both wanted to do but when we looked into it more, I realized it was out of my budget. He chose to pay for the whole trip since it was a once in a lifetime opportunity. A friend did something similar with his girlfriend this past year. We were all traveling to visit a friend who lives abroad and his gf is a
CNA and couldn't afford to go. He paid for her to go because didn't want her to miss out.

My point is, you are doing a lot of assuming which really just makes you sound petty and bitchy

[Anonymous]

Op, your brother is a grown man. He can say NO IF he wanted to. IF she is a gold digger, FUTURE trophy wife or just a future wife, it is HIS choice and HIS life. He is getting something out of this relationship too.

As for the ex, why do you care if she didnt cook dinner? Nothing wrong with your brother cooking every night. So what if she went out during the week? When men do it, it is perfectly acceptible in society. Mind your own business and focus on your marriage. You think a wife should stay home and cook, then do so. Do not criticize other people for how they live their lives / how their marriage works.

22 years is a long time to be married. That is saying a LOT, considering you are such a busybody and I am sure butted in where you do NOT belong.

How much of your brother's spending do you know vs. Assume?

[Anonymous]

Your concern doesn't seem healthy OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are not to give an opinion unless it's asked for. TO ANYONE. ABOUT ANYTHING. Even if someone asks your opinion and you were going to say something as bold as not liking her - well.. it better be that your opinion was asked for during a real heart-to-heart talk. It's not the same if someone uses "how do you like her?" as a casual conversation starter.

Unless I missed something - you opinion was not asked for.

Nice try. I do not take orders. Got that?

OP is a troll. This response makes it clear. Entertaining one, OP!

[Anonymous]

I think the examples given are fair, everyone asked for them, they were given.
OP I can see your area of concern BUT he is a grown man, it is his money and really its only his business as to how and where he spends it.
I can understand why you are concerned, those reasons are valid but I think your meddling will cause strife in your relationship and I am sure you wouldn't want that. I say stay out of it and hope that you sized her up wrong and that she comes out of this pleasantly surprising you!