Met the boyfriend's parents and OMG...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My in-laws are wealthier than my parents. I'm not a gold-digger (I make my own money, own my own house, and my parents are comfortable), but I admit, it's comforting to know that if something happened to my ex, his parents would likely pick up the slack while we waited for insurance to kick in. And comforting to know that if there was a shortfall in our college savings, they could probably help out their only grandchild.

Not relying on that stuff, and I certainly didn't choose their son because of it, but it is definitely a plus. (What I did definitely like: my ex has the refined but not pretentious tastes of someone who was raised upper middle class. He appreciates classical music and good wine and has good, non-flashy tastes in cars, clothes and furniture. I'm similar so that appealed to me.)

That's gold digging

No it's not. If you think so, you must be financially unstable.

[Anonymous]

Why are you overthinking this? Just go with the flow and keep going like you were.

Why does this change anything....dont be weird about it and just be happy in your relationship/

[Anonymous]

"The more significant thing is that he has a good relationship with his parents and wanted you to meet them"++

[Anonymous]

All men are going to have some issues. All relationships have issues. You might not know yours yet, but the question will become is it worth it. Don't sign a prenump unless you get a phat check. You obviously weren't in it for the money. You don't want to sign on for his unknown issues and then get left with nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all assuming the boyfriend's parents will share the wealth?

Seriously. Unless you plan on marrying dear old dad, the wealth of the parents doesn't mean anything beyond the possibility of your husband expecting the same, which it sounds like he's mature enough to not do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous



"The more significant thing is that he has a good relationship with his parents and wanted you to meet them"++

And they are rich!

[Anonymous]

OP here - The suggestions to marry him quickly are pretty hilarious.

We had a conversation about why he didn't tell me about the lifestyle and he just didn't want it to be a factor either for better or worse. He busted up laughing saying "It was time you went so you could see what you're getting yourself into!". His mother sent me flowers and a note saying that they really enjoyed having me there and look forward to having me back soon for an extended visit. I'm guessing that I made a decent impression. Wealthy or not he's a keeper and I like his parents so I hope things continue to go well.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in NYC on Park Avenue, my parents obviously have plenty of money. Like others said, that doesn't mean they help me, they don't. I don't get handouts, pay my own way in everything. My husband comes from the worst kind of outhouse-no running water poverty We love each other and are happy together despite our different upbringings. It really doesn't matter much in the end.

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OP

If the parents are good people, they may donate their money to various charities and leave the money to them as well. There is no guarantee that their son will get any money from them. It sounds like they raised him to be a decent person who is self-supporting. That is their obligation to him. But do enjoy those visits to their home.

[Anonymous]

13:46 - absolutely not a gold-digger. But if something were to happen to my ex, I didn't get child support and the insurance didn't kick in for awhile, I'd be pretty financially strapped. I'm sure his parents would help out until insurance came through so that I didn't lose my house or decimate my emergency savings. I also assume they'd help HIM out if something happened to me and he had to wait until MY insurance kicked in.

For the record, I have more assets than my ex, but I don't make so much money that the loss of child support wouldn't affect me. I imagine many people would say that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:13:46 - absolutely not a gold-digger. But if something were to happen to my ex, I didn't get child support and the insurance didn't kick in for awhile, I'd be pretty financially strapped. I'm sure his parents would help out until insurance came through so that I didn't lose my house or decimate my emergency savings. I also assume they'd help HIM out if something happened to me and he had to wait until MY insurance kicked in.

For the record, I have more assets than my ex, but I don't make so much money that the loss of child support wouldn't affect me. I imagine many people would say that.

The training wheels never come off, rely on mommy and daddy forever!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:13:46 - absolutely not a gold-digger. But if something were to happen to my ex, I didn't get child support and the insurance didn't kick in for awhile, I'd be pretty financially strapped. I'm sure his parents would help out until insurance came through so that I didn't lose my house or decimate my emergency savings. I also assume they'd help HIM out if something happened to me and he had to wait until MY insurance kicked in.

For the record, I have more assets than my ex, but I don't make so much money that the loss of child support wouldn't affect me. I imagine many people would say that.

The training wheels never come off, rely on mommy and daddy forever!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - The suggestions to marry him quickly are pretty hilarious.

We had a conversation about why he didn't tell me about the lifestyle and he just didn't want it to be a factor either for better or worse. He busted up laughing saying "It was time you went so you could see what you're getting yourself into!". His mother sent me flowers and a note saying that they really enjoyed having me there and look forward to having me back soon for an extended visit. I'm guessing that I made a decent impression. Wealthy or not he's a keeper and I like his parents so I hope things continue to go well.

Sounds like they're not just rich, they're classy. That was lovely of his mom: apparently they see that their son is happy and therefore they like you, irrespective of your wealth/upbringinh. Not all rich people are like this - they sound like keepers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:get knocked up asap.

Classy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
get knocked up asap.


Classy.

Ignore the pp, she just wants what you have...that's why you she get knocked up now!