Met the boyfriend's parents and OMG...

[Anonymous]

The more significant thing is that he has a good relationship with his parents and wanted you to meet them. If your BF isn't making an issue if the money thing then you shouldn't either - the only way this will become an issue is if you make it one. Your boyfriend is still the same guy he was yesterday before you knew about his background. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The more significant thing is that he has a good relationship with his parents and wanted you to meet them. If your BF isn't making an issue if the money thing then you shouldn't either - the only way this will become an issue is if you make it one. Your boyfriend is still the same guy he was yesterday before you knew about his background. Let it go.

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He sounds like a lovely person. It's important to note that he is living frugally enough that you didn't have any idea of his parent's wealth. He is comfortable without all the trappings of wealth and does not feel the need to flaunt it to impress you.

The hardest thing is not to feel "less than" or awkward when you are with his family. I grew up without money and then ended up in circles with lots of money and class. It has been my experience that people with real wealth are generally very nice -- just like anyone else. Most of the time, if people have made snarky comments or let me know that I don't have the type of upbringing that they had, it has been the people with less wealth (desperately trying to climb the social ladder). Just as you wouldn't judge someone else for being poor or not having attended the best schools, don't prejudge those with wealth. Take the time to see them as individuals. It sounds like his parents did a great job raising him.

I wish you all the luck in the world. Sometimes good things just happen -- accept it and enjoy it. I suspect that he knows that you are a keeper for all that you offer to the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, so many gold diggers on here.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:not that big of a deal OP - it would be more awkward if the roles were switched and the guy couldn't provide the same lifestyle you were accustomed to growing up with.

Golddigger extraordinaire!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, so many gold diggers on here.

+1

-2. People are being funny.

[Anonymous]

"But really what it boils down to is who people are not how much money they have. So don't let the difference freak you out."

I disagree. I think that your views about money need to be discussed when the time is right and before you make any commitments. You say he has good taste - can he pay for this with his salary? do his parents pay for it? are there expectations in exchange for that? what lifestyle does he expect - what you can afford or what his parents can afford? would you be comfortable with them giving you money? for what purpose - a house, childcare, private schools? does he have a trust and if so how does he plan to use it?

[Anonymous]

My in-laws are wealthier than my parents. I'm not a gold-digger (I make my own money, own my own house, and my parents are comfortable), but I admit, it's comforting to know that if something happened to my ex, his parents would likely pick up the slack while we waited for insurance to kick in. And comforting to know that if there was a shortfall in our college savings, they could probably help out their only grandchild.

Not relying on that stuff, and I certainly didn't choose their son because of it, but it is definitely a plus. (What I did definitely like: my ex has the refined but not pretentious tastes of someone who was raised upper middle class. He appreciates classical music and good wine and has good, non-flashy tastes in cars, clothes and furniture. I'm similar so that appealed to me.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, so many gold diggers on here.

+1

-2. People are being funny.

I think we'd all like to believe the posts were facetious, but based on many postings on this forum, it's more likely to be true.

[Anonymous]

get knocked up asap.

[Anonymous]

OP, your BF sounds like a great person. Soak in the relationship and make the best of it. I wouldn't discuss future with him, as it may be a turn off especially since you just met this parents for the first time. Continue on the relationship as you had before you knew his parents. Be genuine, be yourself and most of all enjoy life. All the other things will fall into place if they have to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, so many gold diggers on here.

+1

-2. People are being funny.

I think we'd all like to believe the posts were facetious, but based on many postings on this forum, it's more likely to be true.

And? A rich guy on top of a good relationship is icing on the cake, not the damn cake. Plenty of men have superficial preferences as well, mostly in looks.

[Anonymous]

Why are you all assuming the boyfriend's parents will share the wealth?

[Anonymous]

Pretend to be on birth control

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My in-laws are wealthier than my parents. I'm not a gold-digger (I make my own money, own my own house, and my parents are comfortable), but I admit, it's comforting to know that if something happened to my ex, his parents would likely pick up the slack while we waited for insurance to kick in. And comforting to know that if there was a shortfall in our college savings, they could probably help out their only grandchild.

Not relying on that stuff, and I certainly didn't choose their son because of it, but it is definitely a plus. (What I did definitely like: my ex has the refined but not pretentious tastes of someone who was raised upper middle class. He appreciates classical music and good wine and has good, non-flashy tastes in cars, clothes and furniture. I'm similar so that appealed to me.)

That's gold digging

[Anonymous]