Help- I have just been forced to resign in VA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP check out The Law on Constructive and wrongful Termination- before you start crying...... just saying.

She wasn't constructively terminated. That would indicate an ongoing pattern of making OP's life difficult until she quit. A write-up for breaking rules that OP freely admits she broke does not qualify.

[Anonymous]

OP here, I meant Virginia NOT VA(Veteran affairs)

[Anonymous]

Does anyone think they were going to fire OP over this write-up? I don't.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:COBRA is ridiculously expensive.
Did you talk this over with your partner beforehand? Can you claim temporary insanity and beg for your job back?

I'dbe having a panic attack if I were you unless you're independently wealthy and/or DH is so p*ssy-whipped he doesn't care about you making extreme financial decisions for the family.

That's enough to tell us you are so insecure and crazy.....OP.please don't even consider these kind of people's advice.move forward.

People who have panic attacks are insecure and crazy, but resigning rather than signing a letter of reprimand is sane.

+100 YES This OP should have been given a chance to respond without signing.

I doubt her only choices were "Sign or resign". She could have faked nausea, run to the bathroom, and called HR to ask what her rights were.
Plus, a reprimand could possibly have been removed from her file if she greatly improved her job performance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP check out The Law on Constructive and wrongful Termination- before you start crying...... just saying.

She wasn't constructively terminated. That would indicate an ongoing pattern of making OP's life difficult until she quit. A write-up for breaking rules that OP freely admits she broke does not qualify.

But employer probably made life so difficult and OP has reason to believe that He/She was going to be terminated anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP check out The Law on Constructive and wrongful Termination- before you start crying...... just saying.

She wasn't constructively terminated. That would indicate an ongoing pattern of making OP's life difficult until she quit. A write-up for breaking rules that OP freely admits she broke does not qualify.

But employer probably made life so difficult and OP has reason to believe that He/She was going to be terminated anyway.

What basis do you have for that? So far all OP has said is that she broke a rule twice and got written up for it so she took her ball and went home. Nothing indicates that life was difficult for the OP - on the contrary, she seemed surprised by the write-up, which wouldn't be the case if they had been treating her badly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:COBRA is ridiculously expensive.
Did you talk this over with your partner beforehand? Can you claim temporary insanity and beg for your job back?

I'dbe having a panic attack if I were you unless you're independently wealthy and/or DH is so p*ssy-whipped he doesn't care about you making extreme financial decisions for the family.

That's enough to tell us you are so insecure and crazy.....OP.please don't even consider these kind of people's advice.move forward.

People who have panic attacks are insecure and crazy, but resigning rather than signing a letter of reprimand is sane.

+100 YES This OP should have been given a chance to respond without signing.

I doubt her only choices were "Sign or resign". She could have faked nausea, run to the bathroom, and called HR to ask what her rights were.
Plus, a reprimand could possibly have been removed from her file if she greatly improved her job performance.

Just Wow!

[Anonymous]

If she had been fired, wouldn't that have been with cause so she wouldn't have been eligible to collect unemployment?

I don't understand OP what kind of response was going to days to prepare. You could have written comments on the back side of the paper if need be. I mean you either were late or you were not. At some point the excuses wear thin and yes, even being 5 minutes late becomes a problem for some employers when its chronic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP check out The Law on Constructive and wrongful Termination- before you start crying...... just saying.

She wasn't constructively terminated. That would indicate an ongoing pattern of making OP's life difficult until she quit. A write-up for breaking rules that OP freely admits she broke does not qualify.

But employer probably made life so difficult and OP has reason to believe that He/She was going to be terminated anyway.

What basis do you have for that? So far all OP has said is that she broke a rule twice and got written up for it so she took her ball and went home. Nothing indicates that life was difficult for the OP - on the contrary, she seemed surprised by the write-up, which wouldn't be the case if they had been treating her badly.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she had been fired, wouldn't that have been with cause so she wouldn't have been eligible to collect unemployment?

I don't understand OP what kind of response was going to days to prepare. You could have written comments on the back side of the paper if need be. I mean you either were late or you were not. At some point the excuses wear thin and yes, even being 5 minutes late becomes a problem for some employers when its chronic

When is behaviour considered "CHRONIC"?

[Anonymous]

I guess the very best thing OP could have done was to quit her job when the last thing entered in her employment file was a letter of reprimand for being late.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If she had been fired, wouldn't that have been with cause so she wouldn't have been eligible to collect unemployment?

I don't understand OP what kind of response was going to days to prepare. You could have written comments on the back side of the paper if need be. I mean you either were late or you were not. At some point the excuses wear thin and yes, even being 5 minutes late becomes a problem for some employers when its chronic

When is behaviour considered "CHRONIC"?

Even 5 minutes late every day was considered bad form when I worked for a Fortune 500 Co.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP check out The Law on Constructive and wrongful Termination- before you start crying...... just saying.

She wasn't constructively terminated. That would indicate an ongoing pattern of making OP's life difficult until she quit. A write-up for breaking rules that OP freely admits she broke does not qualify.

But employer probably made life so difficult and OP has reason to believe that He/She was going to be terminated anyway.

What basis do you have for that? So far all OP has said is that she broke a rule twice and got written up for it so she took her ball and went home. Nothing indicates that life was difficult for the OP - on the contrary, she seemed surprised by the write-up, which wouldn't be the case if they had been treating her badly.

+1

-1. In later post, OP wrote, "I am scared but ready to dust off my resume and move on.There was so much going on and I sensed that if I didn't resign then it was only a matter of time before I would get fired." Clearly, there is a greater context to what happened.

[Anonymous]

Okay, enough bashing on OP. She made a mistake for whatever reason, but doesn't want to look back at what seems to have been a stressful position and wants to look forward towards something better. I know that when I was asked to resign from a position last year, that I was rather resentful about how things had panned out, but after about 2 weeks out of the position, I realized how much the very negative and stressful atmosphere of that job was poorly affecting my health and my life. Even unemployed, I felt less stressed and more positive about my life and was interacting with my family so much better. I got a new job about 8 weeks later and it has been so much better for our whole family.

In any event, OP, this article came on my FB feed and it made me think of you. Best wishes for your future.
http://www.businessinsider.com/best-job-interview-questions-2014-6

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, enough bashing on OP. She made a mistake for whatever reason, but doesn't want to look back at what seems to have been a stressful position and wants to look forward towards something better. I know that when I was asked to resign from a position last year, that I was rather resentful about how things had panned out, but after about 2 weeks out of the position, I realized how much the very negative and stressful atmosphere of that job was poorly affecting my health and my life. Even unemployed, I felt less stressed and more positive about my life and was interacting with my family so much better. I got a new job about 8 weeks later and it has been so much better for our whole family.

In any event, OP, this article came on my FB feed and it made me think of you. Best wishes for your future.
http://www.businessinsider.com/best-job-interview-questions-2014-6

Nobody asked her to resign. She bristled at being reprimanded in any way, despite willingly and knowingly breaking company policy on two occasions and admitting to such.