Why do people feign friendliness?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It is not really "friendliness", but wanting to "socialize", OP.

Your post should be more clear.

Not ALL friendly people are fake, FYI. Some people merely have a good life and are happy, and may assume that others don't have a shitty life.

sorry-- but you don't make any sense.

[Anonymous]

Seemed like a good idea at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It is not really "friendliness", but wanting to "socialize", OP.

Your post should be more clear.

Not ALL friendly people are fake, FYI. Some people merely have a good life and are happy, and may assume that others don't have a shitty life.

sorry-- but you don't make any sense.

Seriously. What does that even mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just flaky and that's why.

Some people don't actually want to be your friend but don't know how to say no.

Some people had a free moment to respond to your first inquiry about the day but then were no longer free when you pinged again about the time. In this situation, either you're too impatient and getting worked up over nothing, or it was just really low on the priority list by the time they got to sit down again and now had several messages to respond to.

You have it completely wrong. This is something completely initiated by the other person. I have nothing to do with it other than being, coincidently, in their presence. I say hi and they say "HI!!!!! Let's get coffee next week." I could take them or leave them. I'm not getting worked up, I'm just confused as to why someone would say they want to get together, contact me about it, and then flake out. They don't have to say they want to get together. they can just say hi and leave... like I would have done.

[Anonymous]

When i first moved to DC (6 years ago) I would get taken aback by this all the time. People would say, "I'll call you!", "we should get a drink!", "let's get the kids together!" and I'd believe them and get hurt when it didn't happen. Now 6 years later and I throw all those expressions around as well. It's almost unconscious. I mean it---(I don't say it to people that I wouldn't actually enjoy seeing) but it doesn't mean that I'll ever actually make a call.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just flaky and that's why.

Some people don't actually want to be your friend but don't know how to say no.

Some people had a free moment to respond to your first inquiry about the day but then were no longer free when you pinged again about the time. In this situation, either you're too impatient and getting worked up over nothing, or it was just really low on the priority list by the time they got to sit down again and now had several messages to respond to.

You have it completely wrong. This is something completely initiated by the other person. I have nothing to do with it other than being, coincidently, in their presence. I say hi and they say "HI!!!!! Let's get coffee next week." I could take them or leave them. I'm not getting worked up, I'm just confused as to why someone would say they want to get together, contact me about it, and then flake out. They don't have to say they want to get together. they can just say hi and leave... like I would have done.

Okay, in that case just send them a calendar invite through google. They can accept or reject it. If you get no reply, let them know you don't plant to attend since you haven't heard back.

[Anonymous]

I always mean it when I say it. It's a DC thing..."I'm more important than you are".

[Anonymous]

I think a lot less of someone who initiates and doesn't following through. Big negative.

[Anonymous]

Cuz they are fake beeyoches.. Have some coworkers like this!