Should I call the coach or not?

[Anonymous]

If this was a blatant oversight and your son is one of the star players on the team and wrong information was presented that I think you every right to talk to the coach and a very friendly nonconfrontational way. My husband coaches basketball and believe me has gotten his share of calls and emails over the years and he is always welcome hearing from parents as long as it's done in a nonconfrontational way.

[Anonymous]

I think we're all sensitive when it comes to her kids we want to see them being celebrated maybe the way that we want to celebrate our kids sometimes we might see them as being better than they are and it's possible Neil piece case that this kid really is outstanding and just got shortchange by the coaches for whatever reason- I don't necessarily think that by speaking up you're really going to change things but it's going to make you feel better and you can say so in a respectful way I see no problem with it and in fact have spoken up on various issues in my four kids in recent years but I always do so in a very low-key subtle kind of a way. Think with sensitive matters like this the delivery is the most important part

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:THe coach who spoke of my son was a newer coach and when he presented his info...it was wrong!! He said my son played on varsity for 1 year whereas he was the only one who has played for 4 years. He has been recruited and made no mention of that but the other coaches spoke of that about other kids on the team were recruited, we were really disappointed that at least he did not take the time to get his information straight and I know since this was the last hurrah my son was upset too.

I want to reach out to the coach about this (main coach) and tell him so they make sure to do their fact checking before hand, it was not the high note my son wanted to end on and we were really disappointed given what he has done for the team.

First, I'll say that I agree with others, that you should let it go. You and your son have to learn that sometimes life isn't fair. As a person who has been involved in many competitive activities, including semi-professional theater, you never know all of the criteria that goes into a decision. What may seem obvious to you, may only be a portion of what the coaches have to consider for awards, etc. If your son has already been recruited college athlete, then it isn't worth pursuing. All you're looking for is the external recognition and with the annual award event passed, you aren't going to get the public recognition.

That said, if you want to pursue this, you can go to the coach (either the new coach or the head coach) and tell them that you were disappointed that at the awards ceremony that so many details were missing or incorrect. You can review with them what information was presented at the awards ceremony. If the coach can do anything this will let him know that the coaching staff had incorrect information. He should offer if there is anything he can do other than extend his apologies for the oversight.

[Anonymous]

I think as some have said there is a way to go about it. If you can have a calm conversation NOT a confrontation with the coach I see nothing wrong with it, but is your son upset over what happened? If he is not, I would let it go. Don't sweat the small stuff.
However if he is bothered by it and I realize some kids are more sensitive than others than do it but do it tactfully, good luck. I know we are all so sensitive when it comes to our kids but if its going to bug you then best to tackle it head on.