had children via gestational surrogate - how did you explain to them?
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Anonymous
Well, don't you sound charming?! (Please read that in a tone dripping with sarcasm.) Every child should absolutely believe they are special. Life will shoot them down plenty - and apparently you like to be part of that process. |
Anonymous
OH, please DON'T! I am an ES school teacher. Every adopted kid comes up to me on day one, tells me their special adoption story and lets me know how they are much more "special" than every other kid in the class. Boy are they let down when they find out they are just like everyone else, and that everyones else's mom loves them just as much or more. Big shocker. Oh please God, never let my child have you as a teacher. You teach in an elementary school? REALLY? When a kid excitedly tells you about their new green belt in Karate or the big part they got in the play, or their new baby brother, do you try to knock them down then, too? What a horrid attitude you seem to have about small children. |
Anonymous
Oh please God, never let my child have you as a teacher. You teach in an elementary school? REALLY? When a kid excitedly tells you about their new green belt in Karate or the big part they got in the play, or their new baby brother, do you try to knock them down then, too? What a horrid attitude you seem to have about small children. |
Anonymous
How odd. Finally something gay parents don't have to worry about and straight parents do. Our kids never presumed that their gay fathers carried them . Surrogacy is only abnormal if that isn't your background. For our kids they thought up until recently that everyone was born via surrogacy. Truthfully they didn't care at all. They love their birth story.
The concept of a c section, however, that they were disgusted by and asked me not to talk about anymore
All 3 of my kids are 5 and under. All gestational surrogacy. |
Anonymous
Did you stumble over here from general parenting? Go away. |
Anonymous
+1000000000000000 |
Anonymous
Bitch, you creepy. |
Anonymous
totally agree that I hope my children never run into this teacher & that all kids are special and should be made to feel that way.... but there is a weirdness to the books on gestational surrogacy that stress that the kids are MORE special than all the other special darling children of the world - vs. that is it normal special.... if that makes sense. |
Anonymous
OP here - thanks for your comment, made me smile - will go forth with the attitude that their birth story is just another cool/fun chapter in the story of their lives
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Anonymous
Wish I could kiss you! I'm adopted (gay dad, straight mom) and this is how I've been feeling reading all these silly posts. GS is normal. What's to explain? Tell the the truth and keep truckin'. If you don't sweat it, they won't. |
Anonymous
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I love this piece...
Whose Belly Did I Come From? http://www.huffingtonpost.com/amy-blumenfeld/whose-belly-did-i-come-from_b_3102282.html |
Anonymous
(Huge eye roll here) BELLY. Whose belly did I come from? Ugh, I didn't come from a belly and neither did you or anyone else. Perhaps I am alone in. This battle, but I detest "belly" or "tummy" or "stomach" to be used in the contest of pregnancy. A baby is not growing in your BELLY or your stomach or whatever cutesy word you use...why not say womb or uterus? |
Anonymous
I'm with you on stomach/tummy, but belly actually refers to the abdomen more generally, and (at least until someone develops a uterine replicator) I think it's fair to say a baby grows there. |
Anonymous
Because it is unnatural and disgusting. |