Help me stop ruminating over expensive mistake

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should learn what the word "ruminate" means and how to use it properly. You sound like a doofus trying to use her big word of the day.

What are you prattling on about? She used the word correctly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should learn what the word "ruminate" means and how to use it properly. You sound like a doofus trying to use her big word of the day.

What are you prattling on about? She used the word correctly.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should learn what the word "ruminate" means and how to use it properly. You sound like a doofus trying to use her big word of the day.

Actually, OP used "ruminating" perfectly in the psychological sense -- if not the agricultural sense.

Go grammar police somewhere else, bucko. Try 4chan.

do they need grammar police there?

[Anonymous]

OP, what was the instrument? There is a big difference between hanging onto a harp or tuba no one is going to play vs a grand piano.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Easy one! Give her a six-month morning that you're going to downgrade the dulcimer or news food or whatever. Then, in six months, sell it, and buy a used instrument similar to the one she had before (you might even be able to work it into the deal with the person you sell it to, who will probably be upgrading). And don't lose a moment's sleep about it.

I once turned the wrong dial and borked our whole house steam boiler. $10,000 later… Mistakes happen, you know? And this one was a totally reasonable one.

Oh Sweet Bejesus! 10k?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Easy one! Give her a six-month morning that you're going to downgrade the dulcimer or news food or whatever. Then, in six months, sell it, and buy a used instrument similar to the one she had before (you might even be able to work it into the deal with the person you sell it to, who will probably be upgrading). And don't lose a moment's sleep about it.

I once turned the wrong dial and borked our whole house steam boiler. $10,000 later… Mistakes happen, you know? And this one was a totally reasonable one.

Oh Sweet Bejesus! 10k?

OMG ouch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should learn what the word "ruminate" means and how to use it properly. You sound like a doofus trying to use her big word of the day.

You should move out of your mother's basement and get a life.

[Anonymous]

Mistakes sometimes cost money. 2.5% of the annual income is not that much. I did something stupid which (if insurance did not cover it) would have been 17% of my income (mishap while cooking).

And the time I did not see the other car coming....that was 100% of my annual income.

I have a Piano which DD does not play.

thirty years ago I made a mistake....got really angry at some teens that kicked in my front door...chased them down and cornered them with a weapon (BB Gun). That cost me 40% of my then meager income (8k/year). (I was acquitted of all charges, but had to pay a lawyer....911 tapes and neighbors talking about the vandalism that had been happening because of those kids. It helped that the kids were caught breaking into a vacant house 2 weeks later. If I had been convicted, it would have been really bad; I would not hold my high security clearance job that I have today).

Mistakes happen. The nice thing about reasonably well off is that

[Anonymous]

OP, believing in your child is never a mistake! And as others have said, she may change her mind again in the future. There never are guarantees with kids and their interests, they change constantly.
The best part is she knows her parents support her and are willing to help her advance in whatever she does decide to do.
Not a bad payoff, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Easy one! Give her a six-month morning that you're going to downgrade the dulcimer or news food or whatever. Then, in six months, sell it, and buy a used instrument similar to the one she had before (you might even be able to work it into the deal with the person you sell it to, who will probably be upgrading). And don't lose a moment's sleep about it.

I once turned the wrong dial and borked our whole house steam boiler. $10,000 later… Mistakes happen, you know? And this one was a totally reasonable one.

Oh Sweet Bejesus! 10k?

Right? But it was really old and not in good shape (the auto feed was broken) so it would have failed some time anyway.... Or at least that's what I keep telling myself.

Regrets, I've had a few, but life goes on.

[Anonymous]

I was your DD as a teen.
My parents upgraded to a wonderful, expensive piano instead of our old beaten-up tinkler.
No advice really, but sympathy. I felt a ton of guilt that I wasn't using the instrument, and my parents hesitated between making me play and leaving me alone. In the end, I gave it up, and my piano teacher nearly had apoplexy.

I do regret it now, but it would have been difficult to continue anyway, playing 4 hours a day minimum, and getting all the high school grades I was expected to get.

Anyway, it's not your fault. And it's not really hers either. Let it go.
And my parents still have the piano! Maybe my kids can play

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should learn what the word "ruminate" means and how to use it properly. You sound like a doofus trying to use her big word of the day.

Actually, you should learn what it means because she is using it completely correctly.

[Anonymous]

If that is your worst financial mistake, consider yourself lucky! Not even sure it counts as a mistake.

[Anonymous]

No need to blame yourself!

1. Keep it to see if she changes her mind. Once she does, problem solved!
2. Sell it. And get a quote from a professional first so you actually get the money you deserve. Problem solved!

See...either way no money wasted!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that is your worst financial mistake, consider yourself lucky! Not even sure it counts as a mistake.

I agree with this. This wasn't a mistake. You are probably "ruminating" because as another PP pointed out, you're still making the same choice on a daily basis. It made sense to buy the instrument when you did. But now, a year later, you still have the choice to sell the instrument and get most if not all of the money back. Now it makes less sense to keep it, so it weighs on you.

So, just make your decision again (keep or sell) and then decide to be at peace with that decision. (I say this as someone who is terribly indecisive, so I do relate)