What's up with the stink eye?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I would do this but only if there is no one else behind me. I'd be pretty annoyed if I was behind you and ended up with melted ice cream because of your shopping lesson. In fact, I might even tell on you. You know, have a word with the manager. It is bad enough that the avereage cashier is slow as molasses - so customers really need to show some appreciation for the rest of us fools stuck in endless lines.

How much more time does this really take, honestly? One minute? You'd really have a word with the manager to tell that I made you wait one minute longer in line than you should have? People need to relax a little.

I don't want to give you one minute of my life so your kid can scan groceries. Be considerate! I'd love to be ahead of you one day and whip out a stack of coupons and then proceed to write a check to pay. How would you like that?

You know those posts asking when is it time for medication? This is it. It's time. Because you're mean in a crazy kind of way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I would do this but only if there is no one else behind me. I'd be pretty annoyed if I was behind you and ended up with melted ice cream because of your shopping lesson. In fact, I might even tell on you. You know, have a word with the manager. It is bad enough that the avereage cashier is slow as molasses - so customers really need to show some appreciation for the rest of us fools stuck in endless lines.

How much more time does this really take, honestly? One minute? You'd really have a word with the manager to tell that I made you wait one minute longer in line than you should have? People need to relax a little.

I don't want to give you one minute of my life so your kid can scan groceries. Be considerate! I'd love to be ahead of you one day and whip out a stack of coupons and then proceed to write a check to pay. How would you like that?

You know those posts asking when is it time for medication? This is it. It's time. Because you're mean in a crazy kind of way.

I don't know, I thought her last post was confirming that her position was just a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I would do this but only if there is no one else behind me. I'd be pretty annoyed if I was behind you and ended up with melted ice cream because of your shopping lesson. In fact, I might even tell on you. You know, have a word with the manager. It is bad enough that the avereage cashier is slow as molasses - so customers really need to show some appreciation for the rest of us fools stuck in endless lines.

How much more time does this really take, honestly? One minute? You'd really have a word with the manager to tell that I made you wait one minute longer in line than you should have? People need to relax a little.

I don't want to give you one minute of my life so your kid can scan groceries. Be considerate! I'd love to be ahead of you one day and whip out a stack of coupons and then proceed to write a check to pay. How would you like that?

You know those posts asking when is it time for medication? This is it. It's time. Because you're mean in a crazy kind of way.

It's not all about you. I'll kindly smile as your precious angel learns how to check-out groceries if you stop honking your horn while I teach my daughter how to apply make-up at stop lights!

[Anonymous]

Close your eyes and imagine a world where EVERY mother let EVERY three year old do BS like help them pay, push 400 elevator buttons, use credit cards???!?!?!?!? Good God, we would not make it to our own funerals.

To those of you doing it, be grateful there are people who just MOVE LIFE ALONG.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Close your eyes and imagine a world where EVERY mother let EVERY three year old do BS like help them pay, push 400 elevator buttons, use credit cards???!?!?!?!? Good God, we would not make it to our own funerals.

To those of you doing it, be grateful there are people who just MOVE LIFE ALONG.

Yeah, life would be so much better if we all just MOVED ALONG!!! Not.

[Anonymous]

Move life along. Now that's one philosophy I can do without!

Take it from a mom whose youngest child is about to turn three. I just wish I could freeze time - or turn back the clock and just slow down and savor every moment like teaching my child how to press the button on the elevator!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move life along. Now that's one philosophy I can do without!

Take it from a mom whose youngest child is about to turn three. I just wish I could freeze time - or turn back the clock and just slow down and savor every moment like teaching my child how to press the button on the elevator!

Close your eyes and imagine it. That should be enough for you.

[Anonymous]

I give people the stink eye when they just cannot leave their kids alone. Like, they take them to a diner for breakfast and then quiz them the whole time. The kid is trying to color or play with a toy and the parents are sitting there saying (loudly, of course, everyone knows children can't hear you unless you yell) "mmm, they have eggs here, just like at grandma's. do you like your eggs scrambled or fried, ella? do you remember what scrambled is? grandma was stirring the eggs, remember?....AND ON AND ON AND ON). please leave the child in peace and assume that they are enjoying the silence a little bit, or at least learning the lesson that they need not be engaged at every single moment of the day to feel ok with themselves. sheesh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I give people the stink eye when they just cannot leave their kids alone. Like, they take them to a diner for breakfast and then quiz them the whole time. The kid is trying to color or play with a toy and the parents are sitting there saying (loudly, of course, everyone knows children can't hear you unless you yell) "mmm, they have eggs here, just like at grandma's. do you like your eggs scrambled or fried, ella? do you remember what scrambled is? grandma was stirring the eggs, remember?....AND ON AND ON AND ON). please leave the child in peace and assume that they are enjoying the silence a little bit, or at least learning the lesson that they need not be engaged at every single moment of the day to feel ok with themselves. sheesh.

Yeah but what I don't get is why you can't just think that's wacky to yourself and not do that with your own kid and leave it at that. Maybe the kid *IS* hard of hearing. Maybe the kid has language problems and the parent is diligently trying to follow the suggestions of a speech/language therapist by saying what they're saying the way they're saying it. The point is, in a diner - which is not exactly like enjoying a quiet dinner at the Inn at Little Washington - can you really not just focus on your own family/newspaper/self and manage not to give dirty looks to strangers?

[Anonymous]

AMEN to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I give people the stink eye when they just cannot leave their kids alone. Like, they take them to a diner for breakfast and then quiz them the whole time. The kid is trying to color or play with a toy and the parents are sitting there saying (loudly, of course, everyone knows children can't hear you unless you yell) "mmm, they have eggs here, just like at grandma's. do you like your eggs scrambled or fried, ella? do you remember what scrambled is? grandma was stirring the eggs, remember?....AND ON AND ON AND ON). please leave the child in peace and assume that they are enjoying the silence a little bit, or at least learning the lesson that they need not be engaged at every single moment of the day to feel ok with themselves. sheesh.

Yeah but what I don't get is why you can't just think that's wacky to yourself and not do that with your own kid and leave it at that. Maybe the kid *IS* hard of hearing. Maybe the kid has language problems and the parent is diligently trying to follow the suggestions of a speech/language therapist by saying what they're saying the way they're saying it. The point is, in a diner - which is not exactly like enjoying a quiet dinner at the Inn at Little Washington - can you really not just focus on your own family/newspaper/self and manage not to give dirty looks to strangers?

Oh boy. I have not yet heard of helping kids with language delays or speech problems with constant, inane, stupid, repetitive questions, nor am I sure how that helps the hard of hearing. Questions like that deserve MAJOR stink eye, plus a scowl, PLUS audible sighing until the offender shuts up.

[Anonymous]

I'd much rather hangout with the mom who is overly doting, totally engaged with her kids and overly proud than the catty bully who stands around arching her eyebrows, rolling her eyes and looking most unattractive.

I give the stink eye to the stink eye!

I maybe the first mom...

[Anonymous]

Wait, stink eye to the stink eye? This could be major fight...I am feeling some snapping coming on (a la West Side Story). It is a stink eye-off!!!

Bring it.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I'm trying to convey empathy without butting in, but I'm afraid it comes off as the stinkeye.

[Anonymous]

OP here. This discussion is what I was asking! I guess it comes down to who is loud...but if I'm not being loud? Do people just stare a lot here?