How do you feel about really stylish moms?

[Anonymous]

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I'm from Paris, and was initially shocked when I came here and found everyone going about their business in sweatpants. Not that there's anything wrong with that

However, there is chic, and there is vulgar.
A faux-fur gilet with skinny jeans and sky-high heels is the latter. A mother I know from Russia dresses exactly like that.

Slim slacks, narrow booties, a dashing trench, colorful silk scarf and quality leather handbag is a more elegant outfit. No logos anywhere, of course.

Haha pp, can I invite you to tea?!

Ooh yes! Earl Grey, with a little scone and some jam. I'm an Anglophile.

[Anonymous]

I feel intimated by really stylish people -- but I finally figured out that I want to assess them (subtlely, w/o being noticed) and see what I can gleam from it.

It seems obvious when I see a person -- but not so obvious to me when I need to figure out what to buy at a store, or what to put on when at home.

So, I treat these people as a 60-second (or whatever) study project for myself!

Why is it so easy for some, and not for others? (Like me).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I'm from Paris, and was initially shocked when I came here and found everyone going about their business in sweatpants. Not that there's anything wrong with that

However, there is chic, and there is vulgar.
A faux-fur gilet with skinny jeans and sky-high heels is the latter. A mother I know from Russia dresses exactly like that.

Slim slacks, narrow booties, a dashing trench, colorful silk scarf and quality leather handbag is a more elegant outfit. No logos anywhere, of course.

Lol! Even on anonymous forums the French are intolerable and arrogant. A trench? How about some bateau stripes! Yawn!

[Anonymous]

I wonder how they have time for such perfection. I am trying not to drop something every day...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'm from Paris, and was initially shocked when I came here and found everyone going about their business in sweatpants. Not that there's anything wrong with that

However, there is chic, and there is vulgar.
A faux-fur gilet with skinny jeans and sky-high heels is the latter. A mother I know from Russia dresses exactly like that.

Slim slacks, narrow booties, a dashing trench, colorful silk scarf and quality leather handbag is a more elegant outfit. No logos anywhere, of course.

Haha pp, can I invite you to tea?!

I would not. She'd find something wrong with you as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think "oh good, I've found my people."

I love you, PP.

+1

[Anonymous]

I think, "Wow, that's a great outfit." And then I might assess whether there is something that I could "borrow" for myself, like the way she tied a scarf or how she matched two colors or patterns in a way I wouldn't have thought of. Or I might think, "Nice, but not my style." Or I'm not intimidated, it doesn't make me feel bad about myself, and I don't assume she's judging me. Maybe that's just her thing: I'm a voracious reader, she's into fashion, someone else is training for a marathon, another woman likes to knit.

[Anonymous]

OP, you never know, she could be envious of you for some reason. Maybe you are really patient with your kids, in good shape, or have an interesting job, or maybe you and your spouse have a lot of fun together. I find that as moms we always think everyone else has it together but we are all struggling with one thing or another and no one has it together!

Agree with PPs about complimenting her on her style and asking for tips (or even, "I love your taste, could you pick out a necklace for me and help me style it?" Yes, you are sticking your neck out and risking rejection, but you may make a stylish friend who can make you over!

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I think "trying too hard" or "all about me". In other words, insecure or shallow & self-centered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I'm from Paris, and was initially shocked when I came here and found everyone going about their business in sweatpants. Not that there's anything wrong with that

However, there is chic, and there is vulgar.
A faux-fur gilet with skinny jeans and sky-high heels is the latter. A mother I know from Russia dresses exactly like that.

Slim slacks, narrow booties, a dashing trench, colorful silk scarf and quality leather handbag is a more elegant outfit. No logos anywhere, of course.

Lol! Even on anonymous forums the French are intolerable and arrogant. A trench? How about some bateau stripes! Yawn!

"dashing."

What is stylish can also be quite boring. Personally, I like to see people mixing it up a bit. No, not sweats, of course, but I prefer an edgier, more interesting, unique look look over yet another boring pair of slim pants and a nice structured bag. Sadly, the edgier looks popular in NYC and SF are given the side-eye here.

[Anonymous]

If some one is a SAHM to one elementary school child and her husband is a high earner, then what else is she supposed to do with her time? I'd work out a lot, go shopping, and do my hair each day too. Even if you only work out MWF, do your hair every other day, you've still got a lot of other time in the week to do other charity work and feel fulfilled in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I think "trying too hard" or "all about me". In other words, insecure or shallow & self-centered.

I'm one of those people. It's not "hard" for me to get dressed in a well put-together outfit. I throw on a skirt and sweater just as quickly as you throw on your yoga pants and husband's t-shirt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I think "trying too hard" or "all about me". In other words, insecure or shallow & self-centered.

I'm one of those people. It's not "hard" for me to get dressed in a well put-together outfit. I throw on a skirt and sweater just as quickly as you throw on your yoga pants and husband's t-shirt.

You don't seem to understand what "trying too hard" means. Maybe I should add "obtuse" to my list.

And I have never once left my house in yoga pants or any of my husband's clothing. LOL. Try again.

[Anonymous]

I think you all are missing out. Here's the thing. I've been on both ends...being less than fashionable...and being fashionable. I need to be more fashionable for my job. People treat you differently...trust me. And guess what, it takes me LESS time now to get ready in the morning than it did before. You know why??? Because I've gotten rid of all the ugly clothes in my closet. I cleaned it out. I only have things that go with other things (not that they all go together) and that fit me well. Everything else is out. If you are organized you can dress fashionably and get dressed in less time.

I used to sit in front of my closet, not be able to see anything, and then just grab stuff that didn't work well together to just have clothes on my body. I felt disheveled and I didn't like to feel that way. Now that my closet is more organized I can get dressed in about 5 minutes because I already know what works together. I do the same for weekend clothes now too and I can be super comfortable at the part but still be put together. Its really not that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you all are missing out. Here's the thing. I've been on both ends...being less than fashionable...and being fashionable. I need to be more fashionable for my job. People treat you differently...trust me. And guess what, it takes me LESS time now to get ready in the morning than it did before. You know why??? Because I've gotten rid of all the ugly clothes in my closet. I cleaned it out. I only have things that go with other things (not that they all go together) and that fit me well. Everything else is out. If you are organized you can dress fashionably and get dressed in less time.

I used to sit in front of my closet, not be able to see anything, and then just grab stuff that didn't work well together to just have clothes on my body. I felt disheveled and I didn't like to feel that way. Now that my closet is more organized I can get dressed in about 5 minutes because I already know what works together. I do the same for weekend clothes now too and I can be super comfortable at the part but still be put together. Its really not that hard.

more people need to do this! Get a great easy haircut/style, nothing but put together outfits in your closet along with cute shoes, a little powder/concealer, blush, mascara and gloss....literally people, takes all of about 5-10 mins! And I am a SAHM of 3 under 6......