Date nights: does your DH ever schedule them?

[Anonymous]

Saturday movie date for years. Took turns picking a movie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is this "date night" of which you speak?

In all seriousness, I am very sad about the fact that DH cannot be bothered to plan a night out for the two of us. My birthday has now become a family outing.

For our anniversary, I secured the sitter and reservations. DH didn't even take the time to get a card and sign it. It is the thought that counts. I would like there to be some indication that spending time with me is important to him. One way to do that is to arrange time together without kids or other couples.

It is somewhat reassuring to read that my DH isn't the only thoughtless a$$.

He can't read your mind. We talk about birthdays, NYE, Valentines and our anniversary in advance. We ask each other "How would you like to celebrate your birthday? Should we go out, do you want me to arrange a party with your friends?" We also discuss gifts - if we will exchange them - in advance. No disappointments because expectations are set. No cards ever - unless we are apart for some reason like a business trip.

[Anonymous]

No. Not one.

[Anonymous]

I almost always organize the babysitter since our main was is my cousin. DH will organize it if it is his parents or sister. We have a couples date night once a month and a going out with friends date night once a month . For the friends date night I tend to be the one who organizes it. For the couples date night, Dh will organize it every couple of months and all of the plans are a total surprise.

[Anonymous]

My BFF once texted me. She had signed my kids up for parents night out and made manicure appointments. She then told me we would be having dinner after our manicures in the shopping center. Best Date! My DH was ticked off when he found out the kids were to PNO and I wasn't going out with him. He could have arranged it as easily as she did, but he chooses not to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He does on occassion - espccially for birthdays. He is always willing to go and we have a great time. He is just not the best date planner. I plan it, we go to dinner and a movie. He plans it, we go to the Nats game or the casino. Most of our date nights result from mutual brainstorming.

Frankly, I do not get into who plans it. We are not dating any more and he does not need to try to impress me or prove that he can be spontaneous. I look forward and enjoy the QT with him away from the kids. If I had to plan every single date to make that happen, I would.

Maybe you don't think spontaneity is important anymore, but is is hugely important. Being spontaneous brings back butteries for us and makes us remember why we married each other. We've never stopped dating each other.

NP here. I couldn't care less about spontaneity. As long as we have fun date nights.

[Anonymous]

We go on a date night every week. My husband plans them. Sometimes I well email suggestions during the week but he gets the tickets, reservations, etc. No kids yet but we hope to keep the tradition!

[Anonymous]

No.
Our dd is 14 months old and he just now suggested we go out to a movie - but we have to be done before his soccer game

[Anonymous]

Never.

It always falls on me, but I don't mind.

Occasionally he will suggest where we will eat at or what we will do, but that is like 50% of the time.

I usually schedule the babysitter and the actual evening/time we will go out.

[Anonymous]

Almost never. Only if there is something specific he wants to see or attend, and even then i usually make the reservations and book the sitter.

The fact that he doesnt make the plans doesnt bother me. The fact that i always have to be the one to suggest that we need a date night because we havent been out in ages does. If he ever suggested them, i feel like we would go out more often, which would be better for our marriage. I only suggest them once every while and If i didnt, we would never go out.