Obnoxious comments from MIL that we should "stop at 2" kids

[Anonymous]

Thank her for her opinion, say that you might have more children down the line but that right now, more kids are not planned because you're giving her son BJs to completion every night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank her for her opinion, say that you might have more children down the line but that right now, more kids are not planned because you're giving her son BJs to completion every night.

Haha! Thanks pp

[Anonymous]

Why do you even discuss having a 3rd with her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you could look straight at her, once, and say firmly, "I think that is something for DH and me to decide."

And then ignore.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you even discuss having a 3rd with her?

Because she's part of the family. Obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you even discuss having a 3rd with her?

Because she's part of the family. Obviously.

We dont bring it up - she does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you even discuss having a 3rd with her?

Because she's part of the family. Obviously.

I don't usually discuss reproductive choices with family other than my spouse, I thought OP was an adult, not a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you even discuss having a 3rd with her?

Because she's part of the family. Obviously.

I don't usually discuss reproductive choices with family other than my spouse, I thought OP was an adult, not a child.

As I said above, we don't bring it up, but she offers these thoughts unsolicited.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I said above, we don't bring it up, but she offers these thoughts unsolicited.

I'd be interested to know what other unsolicited questions and/or nuggets of wisdom she shares with you, if you're willing to share here. She sounds like a real peach.

[Anonymous]

Are your kids brats?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Three is selfish.

Please tell that to women in developing countries with no running water.

??? women in developing countries with no running water have more children in part because they don't expect them all to survive.

It's not the same thing here. I agree with PP, I think at some point it is selfish to keep having children. Just because other people do doesn't make it okay. We are reaching a point where the farming practices that enable us to have enough food to feed the population growth are simply no longer sustainable. From a big picture perspective, it would be better longer term if families only had replacement rate (i.e. 2 children per couple). This is looking beyond the social security issue; it's about resources. At some point, it just isn't going to work.

I am always tempted to roll my eyes at people who claim to be fervent environmentalists but have more than 2 kids. The two positions are simply not compatible.

But I get that it would be a very politically messy and emotional thing trying to tell people not to keep breeding. I do find it amusing, though, when people on here are completely fine telling poor people not to have more kids but give rich people a pass. When it comes to natural resources, it doesn't matter whether the increased population is rich or poor -- there still won't be enough in natural resources to comfortably sustain that growth.

You could move to china, problem solved!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are your kids brats?

Irrelevant to the discussion.

[Anonymous]

lots of people say that when you have one of each.

[Anonymous]

Nope, my MIL is a sweetheart. It would be MY mother who would say some stupid ass stuff like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should listen to her. No need for a third.

+1.