Fired my mom as DD's caretaker

[Anonymous]

Folks, this is one of the sobering realizations of parenthood -- your own parents aren't parents anymore.

We remember all they did for us, and it seems like not that long ago, right? It, literally, was a generation ago. They've aged, they don't have the energy and the skill set to do the job again (this is true most of the time, but not all the time, of course, there may be exceptions).

Everyone has an idea how it will work out with grandparents, and its not always the case. Sometime grandparents have an idea in their own mind, and it doesn't mesh with ours.

Its a tough lesson, but keeping grandparents as grandparents, and not caregivers, is generally the best advice one can give. The cost and effort of finding other care for your children is less than the stress created in the family.

[Anonymous]

Too much scrutiny - yuk - take care of you own kid then.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you mean that your family doesn't believe that a thing such as daycare can exist?

That's silly. Not believing in daycare means that someone doesn't believe that daycare is an acceptable choice for a child.

Sort of a comeuppance for OP. She thought that daycare was unacceptable, but I can't think of a daycare, even a bad one that would have been a worse choice than her own mother, the child's grandmother. I actually know several friends and acquaintances who believe that grandparents are superior to daycare and from what they've told me, they are all wrong. Every one of the grandparents use TV as a child care alternative, many of them feed their grandchildren less healthy meals than daycares and many of them allow and encourage poor disruptive behavior (several of these children are ones who hit, bite and throw objects at people and other children, which is discouraged in all of the daycares that I know).

While staying at home and raising your children is a valid choice, I have only rarely found situations where grandparents, even well meaning ones, do a good job raising their grandchildren.

and your experiences anecdotally are no different than someone else's negative experiences with daycare. You see grandparents are unacceptable based on personal experience, others see daycare as unacceptable based on personal experience. You can't assume your personal experience defines all experience. there are many, many fantastic grandparents raising kids.

Mine is one! She doesn't take DD in the car, but does take her for walks, and no day care teacher would love her like her grandma does. I understand some people have no problem with day care for babies and absolutely don't judge them for it, but I think I would have been a basket case leaving my infant with anyone but my mom.