I want to fall out of love with a married man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously he is still holding on to his wife for some reason. He could very well be using you for sex and perhaps just a little life excitement but have zero intention of marrying you or being with you in public.

Tell his wife. How he respouunds will tell you what his intentions are for your relationship. I know someone who has been with a married man for ten years, so 3.5 years means nothing.

I am not going to tell her. I just found out she recently had a baby. No need to hurt her. I have the opportunity to move this summer and I think I will. I am in my 20's so 3.5 yrs isn't nothing to me. As for public we are always out in public and he takes me on vacation, pays my bills etc. But thank you for all of your input.

What is hurting her is that her husband is sleeping around with other women, betraying her, and possibly bringing diseases home and giving them to her and maybe to her baby.

Woman not women. We are always safe, and I have no sti's. We both got tested before we had s e x. How is he giving anything to the baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously he is still holding on to his wife for some reason. He could very well be using you for sex and perhaps just a little life excitement but have zero intention of marrying you or being with you in public.

Tell his wife. How he respouunds will tell you what his intentions are for your relationship. I know someone who has been with a married man for ten years, so 3.5 years means nothing.

I am not going to tell her. I just found out she recently had a baby. No need to hurt her. I have the opportunity to move this summer and I think I will. I am in my 20's so 3.5 yrs isn't nothing to me. As for public we are always out in public and he takes me on vacation, pays my bills etc. But thank you for all of your input.

What is hurting her is that her husband is sleeping around with other women, betraying her, and possibly bringing diseases home and giving them to her and maybe to her baby.

Woman not women. We are always safe, and I have no sti's. We both got tested before we had s e x. How is he giving anything to the baby?

You are in denial. You say you didn't even know he was married and just learned about a baby. He could be sleeping with who knows how many women. If he will sleep with one woman outside his marriage he will sleep with others. Who knows what he or you has picked up over the years since you started having sex. And if he give it to her some STIs can be passed to a baby during delivery. This is a man who is fine with lying, deceiving, betraying, hurting the woman he committed to. You really thin he is honest with you?

Hopefully she knows, seeing as you have been out in public. If not inevitably she will find out, hopefully someone lets her know so she can make informed decisions about her marriage rather than living a lie that everyone around her knows except her. Obviously neither of you are too concerned about her being hurt or else you wouldn't be having an affair behind her back .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously he is still holding on to his wife for some reason. He could very well be using you for sex and perhaps just a little life excitement but have zero intention of marrying you or being with you in public.

Tell his wife. How he respouunds will tell you what his intentions are for your relationship. I know someone who has been with a married man for ten years, so 3.5 years means nothing.

I am not going to tell her. I just found out she recently had a baby. No need to hurt her. I have the opportunity to move this summer and I think I will. I am in my 20's so 3.5 yrs isn't nothing to me. As for public we are always out in public and he takes me on vacation, pays my bills etc. But thank you for all of your input.

What is hurting her is that her husband is sleeping around with other women, betraying her, and possibly bringing diseases home and giving them to her and maybe to her baby.

Woman not women. We are always safe, and I have no sti's. We both got tested before we had s e x. How is he giving anything to the baby?

You are in denial. You say you didn't even know he was married and just learned about a baby. He could be sleeping with who knows how many women. If he will sleep with one woman outside his marriage he will sleep with others. Who knows what he or you has picked up over the years since you started having sex. And if he give it to her some STIs can be passed to a baby during delivery. This is a man who is fine with lying, deceiving, betraying, hurting the woman he committed to. You really thin he is honest with you?

Hopefully she knows, seeing as you have been out in public. If not inevitably she will find out, hopefully someone lets her know so she can make informed decisions about her marriage rather than living a lie that everyone around her knows except her. Obviously neither of you are too concerned about her being hurt or else you wouldn't be having an affair behind her back .

I believe the wife doesn't know, otherwise, why would she have a child with the guy who's so blatantly cheating on her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously he is still holding on to his wife for some reason. He could very well be using you for sex and perhaps just a little life excitement but have zero intention of marrying you or being with you in public.

Tell his wife. How he respouunds will tell you what his intentions are for your relationship. I know someone who has been with a married man for ten years, so 3.5 years means nothing.

I am not going to tell her. I just found out she recently had a baby. No need to hurt her. I have the opportunity to move this summer and I think I will. I am in my 20's so 3.5 yrs isn't nothing to me. As for public we are always out in public and he takes me on vacation, pays my bills etc. But thank you for all of your input.

What is hurting her is that her husband is sleeping around with other women, betraying her, and possibly bringing diseases home and giving them to her and maybe to her baby.

Woman not women. We are always safe, and I have no sti's. We both got tested before we had s e x. How is he giving anything to the baby?

You are in denial. You say you didn't even know he was married and just learned about a baby. He could be sleeping with who knows how many women. If he will sleep with one woman outside his marriage he will sleep with others. Who knows what he or you has picked up over the years since you started having sex. And if he give it to her some STIs can be passed to a baby during delivery. This is a man who is fine with lying, deceiving, betraying, hurting the woman he committed to. You really thin he is honest with you?

Hopefully she knows, seeing as you have been out in public. If not inevitably she will find out, hopefully someone lets her know so she can make informed decisions about her marriage rather than living a lie that everyone around her knows except her. Obviously neither of you are too concerned about her being hurt or else you wouldn't be having an affair behind her back .

I believe the wife doesn't know, otherwise, why would she have a child with the guy who's so blatantly cheating on her?

Could have been unplanned. Could have been an attempt to make him want her, or maybe she doesn't know. Hopefully someone tells her soon. Everyone knowing but her is just so cruel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously he is still holding on to his wife for some reason. He could very well be using you for sex and perhaps just a little life excitement but have zero intention of marrying you or being with you in public.

Tell his wife. How he respouunds will tell you what his intentions are for your relationship. I know someone who has been with a married man for ten years, so 3.5 years means nothing.

I am not going to tell her. I just found out she recently had a baby. No need to hurt her. I have the opportunity to move this summer and I think I will. I am in my 20's so 3.5 yrs isn't nothing to me. As for public we are always out in public and he takes me on vacation, pays my bills etc. But thank you for all of your input.

What is hurting her is that her husband is sleeping around with other women, betraying her, and possibly bringing diseases home and giving them to her and maybe to her baby.

Woman not women. We are always safe, and I have no sti's. We both got tested before we had s e x. How is he giving anything to the baby?

You are in denial. You say you didn't even know he was married and just learned about a baby. He could be sleeping with who knows how many women. If he will sleep with one woman outside his marriage he will sleep with others. Who knows what he or you has picked up over the years since you started having sex. And if he give it to her some STIs can be passed to a baby during delivery. This is a man who is fine with lying, deceiving, betraying, hurting the woman he committed to. You really thin he is honest with you?

Hopefully she knows, seeing as you have been out in public. If not inevitably she will find out, hopefully someone lets her know so she can make informed decisions about her marriage rather than living a lie that everyone around her knows except her. Obviously neither of you are too concerned about her being hurt or else you wouldn't be having an affair behind her back .

Thanks for reading all of the above before commenting. You have been super helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously he is still holding on to his wife for some reason. He could very well be using you for sex and perhaps just a little life excitement but have zero intention of marrying you or being with you in public.

Tell his wife. How he respouunds will tell you what his intentions are for your relationship. I know someone who has been with a married man for ten years, so 3.5 years means nothing.

I am not going to tell her. I just found out she recently had a baby. No need to hurt her. I have the opportunity to move this summer and I think I will. I am in my 20's so 3.5 yrs isn't nothing to me. As for public we are always out in public and he takes me on vacation, pays my bills etc. But thank you for all of your input.

What is hurting her is that her husband is sleeping around with other women, betraying her, and possibly bringing diseases home and giving them to her and maybe to her baby.

Woman not women. We are always safe, and I have no sti's. We both got tested before we had s e x. How is he giving anything to the baby?

You are in denial. You say you didn't even know he was married and just learned about a baby. He could be sleeping with who knows how many women. If he will sleep with one woman outside his marriage he will sleep with others. Who knows what he or you has picked up over the years since you started having sex. And if he give it to her some STIs can be passed to a baby during delivery. This is a man who is fine with lying, deceiving, betraying, hurting the woman he committed to. You really thin he is honest with you?

Hopefully she knows, seeing as you have been out in public. If not inevitably she will find out, hopefully someone lets her know so she can make informed decisions about her marriage rather than living a lie that everyone around her knows except her. Obviously neither of you are too concerned about her being hurt or else you wouldn't be having an affair behind her back .

Thanks for reading all of the above before commenting. You have been super helpful.

Given you have no integrity or character - your criticism is laughable. I did read the above. I don't believe your naive responses.

[Anonymous]

Also I should have said when we firs t met ( ONLINE) I didn't know he was married. He told me on our first date. I had never dated someone separated, and honestly was naive about the situation. When we first met he was clear about not wanting a relationship. We started off as fwbs and then I fell in love with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously he is still holding on to his wife for some reason. He could very well be using you for sex and perhaps just a little life excitement but have zero intention of marrying you or being with you in public.

Tell his wife. How he respouunds will tell you what his intentions are for your relationship. I know someone who has been with a married man for ten years, so 3.5 years means nothing.

I am not going to tell her. I just found out she recently had a baby. No need to hurt her. I have the opportunity to move this summer and I think I will. I am in my 20's so 3.5 yrs isn't nothing to me. As for public we are always out in public and he takes me on vacation, pays my bills etc. But thank you for all of your input.

What is hurting her is that her husband is sleeping around with other women, betraying her, and possibly bringing diseases home and giving them to her and maybe to her baby.

Woman not women. We are always safe, and I have no sti's. We both got tested before we had s e x. How is he giving anything to the baby?

You are in denial. You say you didn't even know he was married and just learned about a baby. He could be sleeping with who knows how many women. If he will sleep with one woman outside his marriage he will sleep with others. Who knows what he or you has picked up over the years since you started having sex. And if he give it to her some STIs can be passed to a baby during delivery. This is a man who is fine with lying, deceiving, betraying, hurting the woman he committed to. You really thin he is honest with you?

Hopefully she knows, seeing as you have been out in public. If not inevitably she will find out, hopefully someone lets her know so she can make informed decisions about her marriage rather than living a lie that everyone around her knows except her. Obviously neither of you are too concerned about her being hurt or else you wouldn't be having an affair behind her back .

Thanks for reading all of the above before commenting. You have been super helpful.

Given you have no integrity or character - your criticism is laughable. I did read the above. I don't believe your naive responses.

If you read the above then why the comments about sti's? If you don't believe me why are youstill on this thread?

[Anonymous]

Doesn't it bother you that he had a baby with his wife???
And you just found out? Isn't that enough to perceive him and your relationship differently?

[Anonymous]

Falling out of love: no context and expect to grieve.

It will get better with time. Distract yourself until it does.

[Anonymous]

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Autocorrect fail

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Doesn't it bother you that he had a baby with his wife???
And you just found out? Isn't that enough to perceive him and your relationship differently?

yes. You're right. It makes me sick, and it makes me sad.
I feel pathetic, which is why I posted. I cry about this all the time. I still love him, but I know this needs to end. I worry that Ill never find someone I am so compatible with ever. Again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Falling out of love: no context and expect to grieve.

It will get better with time. Distract yourself until it does.

I think this is giod advice. I have been avoiding him and living in the gym. When Im done I sit in my car and cry. This situation sucks.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

"Tell his wife"? For what? That is the dumbest advice I've ever heard.

Just move on with your life. No need to destroy his or hers.