I want to fall out of love with a married man.

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Anonymous wrote:The man is married, already in a LTR - he is unavailable. Every time he is with you he is CHEATING on his wife, which is not admirable and not noble on his part.

If you love this man, you will not enable this low behavior in him. If he loves YOU he will divorce his wife and try to woo you back as a single and available man.

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She's in lust, nothing to do with love. OP should move on, find her independence and self worth. So many door mats on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Obviously he is still holding on to his wife for some reason. He could very well be using you for sex and perhaps just a little life excitement but have zero intention of marrying you or being with you in public.

Tell his wife. How he respouunds will tell you what his intentions are for your relationship. I know someone who has been with a married man for ten years, so 3.5 years means nothing.

I am not going to tell her. I just found out she recently had a baby. No need to hurt her. I have the opportunity to move this summer and I think I will. I am in my 20's so 3.5 yrs isn't nothing to me. As for public we are always out in public and he takes me on vacation, pays my bills etc. But thank you for all of your input.

What is hurting her is that her husband is sleeping around with other women, betraying her, and possibly bringing diseases home and giving them to her and maybe to her baby.

Woman not women. We are always safe, and I have no sti's. We both got tested before we had s e x. How is he giving anything to the baby?

You are in denial. You say you didn't even know he was married and just learned about a baby. He could be sleeping with who knows how many women. If he will sleep with one woman outside his marriage he will sleep with others. Who knows what he or you has picked up over the years since you started having sex. And if he give it to her some STIs can be passed to a baby during delivery. This is a man who is fine with lying, deceiving, betraying, hurting the woman he committed to. You really thin he is honest with you?

Hopefully she knows, seeing as you have been out in public. If not inevitably she will find out, hopefully someone lets her know so she can make informed decisions about her marriage rather than living a lie that everyone around her knows except her. Obviously neither of you are too concerned about her being hurt or else you wouldn't be having an affair behind her back .

I believe the wife doesn't know, otherwise, why would she have a child with the guy who's so blatantly cheating on her?

Could have been unplanned. Could have been an attempt to make him want her, or maybe she doesn't know. Hopefully someone tells her soon. Everyone knowing but her is just so cruel.

Could've been a neighbor's baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow.

OP is sad and pathetic. She is his whore. Side piece.

Get some therapy because you think this is "compatible," clearly you do not know about truly being loved and cared for. That would mean you are his one and only - and never lies to you.

This man does not love you, no matter what you tell yourself.

He loves only himself.

Wow. Who cheated on you? It never ceases to amaze me how much hatred some women have for other women. There is a special place in hell waiting for you, honey.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow.

OP is sad and pathetic. She is his whore. Side piece.

Get some therapy because you think this is "compatible," clearly you do not know about truly being loved and cared for. That would mean you are his one and only - and never lies to you.

This man does not love you, no matter what you tell yourself.

He loves only himself.

Wow. Who cheated on you? It never ceases to amaze me how much hatred some women have for other women. There is a special place in hell waiting for you, honey.

It's blunt and hurtful but sadly true.

OP sounds very dependent and kept seeing him when she found out he was married and probably with a family. A special place in hell isn't for the poster you refer too. I'd reserve that judgement to people who knowingly maliciously set out to destroy a family.

Maybe therapy could help OP to find out more about her poor judgment so she won't make that mistake again.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow.

OP is sad and pathetic. She is his whore. Side piece.

Get some therapy because you think this is "compatible," clearly you do not know about truly being loved and cared for. That would mean you are his one and only - and never lies to you.

This man does not love you, no matter what you tell yourself.

He loves only himself.

Wow. Who cheated on you? It never ceases to amaze me how much hatred some women have for other women. There is a special place in hell waiting for you, honey.

It's blunt and hurtful but sadly true.

OP sounds very dependent and kept seeing him when she found out he was married and probably with a family. A special place in hell isn't for the poster you refer too. I'd reserve that judgement to people who knowingly maliciously set out to destroy a family.

Maybe therapy could help OP to find out more about her poor judgment so she won't make that mistake again.

No, it is not. Saying someone is dependent or misguided is not the same as resorting to name calling. There is nothing wrong with calling that level of nasty by its ugly name. The way PP projects her issues on OP is weird and obviously sick. Talk about need for therapy.

OP's been nothing but polite and low-key. She doesn't deserve to be treated like that even anonymously.

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Wow this is an old thread. I am the op and I haven't posted since I made the thread.

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OP is sad and pathetic. She is his whore. Side piece.

Get some therapy because you think this is "compatible," clearly you do not know about truly being loved and cared for. That would mean you are his one and only - and never lies to you.

This man does not love you, no matter what you tell yourself.

He loves only himself.

Wow. Who cheated on you? It never ceases to amaze me how much hatred some women have for other women. There is a special place in hell waiting for you, honey.

It's blunt and hurtful but sadly true.

OP sounds very dependent and kept seeing him when she found out he was married and probably with a family. A special place in hell isn't for the poster you refer too. I'd reserve that judgement to people who knowingly maliciously set out to destroy a family.

Maybe therapy could help OP to find out more about her poor judgment so she won't make that mistake again.

No, it is not. Saying someone is dependent or misguided is not the same as resorting to name calling. There is nothing wrong with calling that level of nasty by its ugly name. The way PP projects her issues on OP is weird and obviously sick. Talk about need for therapy.

OP's been nothing but polite and low-key. She doesn't deserve to be treated like that even anonymously.

You can't fix a problem with denial. I only see calling out the behavior for what it is, and OP has to take ownership of that. I don't see any PP personal issues at all, merely calling it like it was imo.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow this is an old thread. I am the op and I haven't posted since I made the thread.

If you are OP then why didn't you post the outcome?????

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Anonymous wrote:Wow this is an old thread. I am the op and I haven't posted since I made the thread.

If you are OP then why didn't you post the outcome?????

I forgot all about this thread. I have a life outside of dcum

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Anonymous wrote:Wow.

OP is sad and pathetic. She is his whore. Side piece.

Get some therapy because you think this is "compatible," clearly you do not know about truly being loved and cared for. That would mean you are his one and only - and never lies to you.

This man does not love you, no matter what you tell yourself.

He loves only himself.

Wow. Who cheated on you? It never ceases to amaze me how much hatred some women have for other women. There is a special place in hell waiting for you, honey.

It's blunt and hurtful but sadly true.

OP sounds very dependent and kept seeing him when she found out he was married and probably with a family. A special place in hell isn't for the poster you refer too. I'd reserve that judgement to people who knowingly maliciously set out to destroy a family.

Maybe therapy could help OP to find out more about her poor judgment so she won't make that mistake again.

No, it is not. Saying someone is dependent or misguided is not the same as resorting to name calling. There is nothing wrong with calling that level of nasty by its ugly name. The way PP projects her issues on OP is weird and obviously sick. Talk about need for therapy.

OP's been nothing but polite and low-key. She doesn't deserve to be treated like that even anonymously.

You can't fix a problem with denial. I only see calling out the behavior for what it is, and OP has to take ownership of that. I don't see any PP personal issues at all, merely calling it like it was imo.

PP is c*nt, and you know it. See how it works with "calling out the behavior for what it is"?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow this is an old thread. I am the op and I haven't posted since I made the thread.

If you are OP then why didn't you post the outcome?????

I forgot all about this thread. I have a life outside of dcum

Why bother posting in the first place? It is selfish to post asking for help, then never come back. Many people took the time to respond helpfully. Narcissist, maybe?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow this is an old thread. I am the op and I haven't posted since I made the thread.

If you are OP then why didn't you post the outcome?????

I forgot all about this thread. I have a life outside of dcum

Why bother posting in the first place? It is selfish to post asking for help, then never come back. Many people took the time to respond helpfully. Narcissist, maybe?

Eh, I've been called worse. I responded because I think some of the posters were getting a pp confused with me ( op). This is a very old thread, like I said I had completely forgotten about it jeez.

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Op here.

I broke it off with MM after this post and ended up going back to him. I ignored him for several months we were both miserable. A lot of time went by and I cut off physical contact. I told him if he was as miserable as he said and wanted to be with me then he would make it happen. I had a hard time cutting off all communication( text, email, phone), but I did. I went 3 months without seeing him and after 1.5 weeks of refusing to talk to him he moved out and got a lawyer. He's currently going through a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you two deserve each other good luck. With you two together, at least it will prevent both of you from finding two normal people and breaking their hearts and screwing them up too.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you two deserve each other good luck. With you two together, at least it will prevent both of you from finding two normal people and breaking their hearts and screwing them up too.

Why do people assume the spouse was some kind of angel? Lol