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Awkward Playdate Rejection Question
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Anonymous
| Are playdates really that necessary? My DD is in school 5 mornings a week (Pre-K). Does she really need to see these kids outside of school too? It just seems like weekends should provide some down time and/or time to be with family. Also, coordinating the dates for the playdates can be so annoying.... |
Anonymous
I wonder about this too. DC is in all-day kindergarten--would love to hear from others parents of kindergarteners about how often their children have playdates? |
Anonymous
| I guess it all depends on your child's school. Is it a play based preschool/K program? If so, they probably have ample time to play w/ each other esp if they are in school everyday. If it is like a lot of public K programs, there isn't much time for social interaction other than recess and lunch (where it is usually sooooo loud, the kids can barely hear one another). Some kids would rather spend time w/ their parents on the weekends than have more time to be w/ friends. If so, take advantage of that since it won't last! |
Anonymous
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I am the poster who rejected playdates. I ought to explain. I never reject a first playdate. But when a child is too aggressive or has some serious behavior issues, I politely reject offers of more playdates. It's not fair to subject my child to a playdate that's unpleasant or even dangerous. One child grabbed a framed photo off a table in my living room and threw entirely unprovoked it at my DD. Fortunately the glass didn't break, and it didn't hit my child, but it scared me. I told the mother about the incident, politely, but there were no more playdates with that child.
Oh, and I think a parent with a drinking problem would raise a concern to me. Perhaps you can have playdates at your house only. How well would a parent like that supervise a playdate? And what else does a parent with a drinking problem not have control of? It would make me vigilant, at least. Better safe than sorry. |
Anonymous
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okay Ill pipe uo I would reject a drio of playdate for my 5 year old if I didnt know the family Id be dropping him at well...
maybe she knows the other parents with whom she excepts playdates... and she doesnt know youros have you ever invited the family or a couple femilys to a barbecue or apicnuic or even just a lets catch up at the park on saturday? is the invite always for just him?? becasue honestly I would continue saying no thanks |
Anonymous
No truer words were ever spoken! I, too, cannot stand playdates! They've gotten out of control in my opinion, and my daughter is in pre-K with the same kids M-F from 9-12. That should be enough stimulation. |
Anonymous
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OP - I posted a while back about having a play date with a child my daughter likes. Unfortunately, the mother drives me nuts. I received some great responses in terms of strategies in coping with these play dates, but I chose to just drop the play date issue altogether with this parent/child.
Maybe it was small of me, but it's not worth wasting precious time with someone who drove me nuts. (I work PT, too. So my off days are golden.) So if you're sensing hostility from this parent, move on. Your child can play with him at school. There's no need to push it past the school dismissal bell, so to speak. I believe that as parents, we should set boundaries for ourselves, too. Yes, we need to teach tolerance and good manners and social graces, but we shouldn't have to go overboard to ensure that our children are entertained 24-7, especially if it's with a parent who isn't "your style." Life's too short! |
Anonymous
I have an unusual family in this day and age. We are a large family all live close to each other, lots of young cousins, and we are always together. My son is just about always around other children and attends pre-school as well. Personally, I think it is really good for him to be around so many people all the time. He just loves it, the chaos the crazyness and being around younger cousins and older cousins. He learns so much from the other kids and plays so hard. I think this desire to have lots of playdates might fill a void that family use to occupy. It think its a good thing. |