Yet another thanksgiving vent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here- to me, there's some stuff to do in Vegas with kids during daytime; but to truly enjoy it I would need a babysitter for the night. I would much rather save a little more and go by plane, do the heli tour of the Grand Canyon, go to a show with just H, etc. it's not like we are kicked out of the country tomorrow and need to see it all before that.

You and DH both sound like selfish losers. I feel sorry for you kid. Vegas is no place for a child. See PP above. You will be the loser family towing your 3-year-old around at 11PM because you are too selfish and ignorant to care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here- to me, there's some stuff to do in Vegas with kids during daytime; but to truly enjoy it I would need a babysitter for the night. I would much rather save a little more and go by plane, do the heli tour of the Grand Canyon, go to a show with just H, etc. it's not like we are kicked out of the country tomorrow and need to see it all before that.

You and DH both sound like selfish losers. I feel sorry for you kid. Vegas is no place for a child. See PP above. You will be the loser family towing your 3-year-old around at 11PM because you are too selfish and ignorant to care.

You are cray cray.
And I think you ARE "the PP above". If not, you lack reading comprehension skills big time. Now, have a great holiday time!

[Anonymous]

I can not imagine driving to Vegas over this weekend...10 hrs, must be from the Bay area....10 hours without the kids. Actually, I would not mind driving 10 hrs without the kid or wife...quiet...

But, there are closer places....You can tour beautiful Sacramento.

[Anonymous]

I am w/you on this one OP.

Your hubby has the mentality that he can still do whatever he wants whenever he wants like he is still a youngster. He is no longer able to do that.

He is a married man who is also a father now. Other things must be taken into consideration now.
Decisions must be made w/more thought now.

It's life.

He needs to deal w/it.

[Anonymous]

I would never driver further than 5 hours with a toddler !! That reason a lone is enough to cancel. He isn't being considerate of you or the child because you're the one lugging the kid around & then heading back to work Monday!!! Sounds like your marriage is failing anyway so nothing will really please your husband

[Anonymous]

OP here.
I stopped all his guilt tripping with one phrase -you know, I really understand, you are tired of staying home on the weekends, why don't you go alone and have fun there.
He went alone, said I did right by not going with him -road too difficult for newish drivers like us and for the child.
I am also happy that I stayed - I got a break, we had a couple of fun day trips with the kid. Since I do the majority of childcare anyway, it wasn't much more difficult for me than usual.
He is planning to come back late tonight and go to work tomorrow - I don't know how I could have done that.
I am just a bit sad for the kid. I don't think H will come back early enough to play with him before bedtime. I don't want to ask him as I think this is something that a father either wants or doesn't want to do.

[Anonymous]

OP here again- even if he tricked me into going alone, I don't care. He is sensible enough not to gamble, as for the rest, I just don't care anymore.
My strategy now is to avoid fighting; if he wants divorce, then so be it.

[Anonymous]

Damn. You women pick some pathetic losers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn. You women pick some pathetic losers.

How is he a loser? he is able to do basically what he wants and I don't go running to get a divorce for a number of reasons.
I am the loser here I think. - OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see why other posters are insulting this poor OP - it seems perfectly reasonable to want a day off at home (buying the turkey etc) and at other times planning vacations well so that everyone can enjoy them. Whereas her husband seems to be more "spontaneous" and frankly much too impulsive and self-centered. Then he guilt-trips her into going and pretending she's enjoying it? What a waste of family time and money.

Agree. It's not the (now) 5-hour one-way trip so much as the last minute nature of it and acting like it's unreasonable for OP to be upset at a last minute change in plans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I stopped all his guilt tripping with one phrase -you know, I really understand, you are tired of staying home on the weekends, why don't you go alone and have fun there.
He went alone, said I did right by not going with him -road too difficult for newish drivers like us and for the child.
I am also happy that I stayed - I got a break, we had a couple of fun day trips with the kid. Since I do the majority of childcare anyway, it wasn't much more difficult for me than usual.
He is planning to come back late tonight and go to work tomorrow - I don't know how I could have done that.
I am just a bit sad for the kid. I don't think H will come back early enough to play with him before bedtime. I don't want to ask him as I think this is something that a father either wants or doesn't want to do.

Glad you were able to get a break over the holiday. Sorry that it ended up this way but at least you didn't let yourself be guilt tripped into a trip you didn't want to take.

[Anonymous]

OP here - H just called, he got into a car accident about 4 hours from here. Luckily he is relatively OK, just something with his leg.
I envision me having to drive him to work and us having to pay for car repair (he only has liability insurance, its a cheap car but still). I cannot even bring myself to feeling sorry for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people post on this site from CA?

This. Clearly there is a need for LAUM , SFUM, OUM, and ... Well that's all that really matters over there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do people post on this site from CA?

This. Clearly there is a need for LAUM , SFUM, OUM, and ... Well that's all that really matters over there.

Have I missed something in this forum's rules? People from other states than DMV are not allowed to post?

[Anonymous]

With children, you need to plan things out in advance. I think your DH does not understand this. Also, he needs to take into consideration your toddler's age and needs. No way can a toddler do long hours in the car.

I totally agree with you. And I don't think your hubby should go to Vegas without you. he has a family now and he shouldn't be taking single man type trips and leaving you alone to care for your child. you are a family now.