A very flirty husband and now a very flirty friend

[Anonymous]

OP, I have a friend with a very friendly husband - I am sure some people see him as flirty. Personally I find him very attractive, and thankfully hardly ever see him, and only at parties.

Avoid seeing too much of this friend. That's all.

[Anonymous]

Just tell her and tell him. To her - "Please don't flirt with my DH because it bothers me."

To him - "Please don't flirt with my friend because it bothers me, especially because she is single and flirts right back. I have asked her the same. If either of you continue this, I will have to drop her as our friend and ask other friends to make sure that we are not invited to the same parties together"

[Anonymous]

As a DW whose husband is a major flirt I can tell you it is not harmless. Do not trust your friend to not take it a step farther. I was the trusting wife & friend and they ended up having an affair. Cut her loose, sever all ties, now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a DW whose husband is a major flirt I can tell you it is not harmless. Do not trust your friend to not take it a step farther. I was the trusting wife & friend and they ended up having an affair. Cut her loose, sever all ties, now!

I am sorry this happened to you. I feel bad, as I defended flirty spouses up above. However, I am a DW who is flirty and I know that it would never come to anything, I have no interest in that. It creeps me out to think that other people's flirty DHs might have a different idea! Mostly, though, I think a lot of my friends' husbands are alcoholics who get a few in them, get goofy, and half the time don't even remember who they talked to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ex was a big flirt too. The problem can be when a vulnerable needy woman comes along who will do anything for him and his attention. Sorry but at the end of the day nearly all men are driven by their d****s. Yes I just said it and firmly believe it. So don't let it escalate, that dynamic can be intoxicating to both parties....and not in a way that will make you very happy.

Keep his balls empty and his stomach full and there will be no escalation.

Really hate that saying, so crude and classless. Are you talking about men or a cow?

Learn to critically read.

A cow is female cattle-they don't have balls.

However the statement is very true. Like it or not, fuck them and feed them and you keep them, oldest trick in the book.

[Anonymous]

I work with a lot of successful flirty men and they back it up. Truth.

[Anonymous]

Maybe I am also a killjoy but I do not think married people should flirt and I do not think single people should flirt with married people. In my mind there is a fine but clear line between flirting and being friendly and fun. My husband and I both agreed on this point and we were both big flirts before we committed to each other, and now we do not flirt except with each other!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're attracted to him because he's a flirt. You're probably also attracted to him because he's the kind of guy other women want to be with, and, nevertheless, he chose you. You probably can't change this aspect of him without also diminishing your attraction to him.

Best you can do is decide whether you trust him or not and leave it at that.

agree