Constantly disrespected by my Father...

[Anonymous]

Your dad sounds like a hard worker and great provider. You sound ungrateful and lost in a TV-land fantasy of childhood.

Your dad has made an extraordinarily generous offer to you and has indicated that he believes you capable of handling things yourself. You are supposed to be an adult. Take his gift and build a house without nagging him about every little detail.

Then get yourself some serious therapy and grow up. Your dad wants a relationship with you, if you could let go of your kooky fairy tale vision and see him for who he is.

[Anonymous]

Your OP doesn't detail any efforts you made to create a functional relationship, so I don't think you have much to complain about.

[Anonymous]

Your dad gave you land. You wrote that he explicitly stated that you were not to bother him about building your house on the gifted land. You then wrote in your OP that you tell your father every detail about what's going on so he can help bc he's done this before so you think he should help. Do you see what's wrong with this picture?

You need to grow up, OP.

[Anonymous]

You didn't deserve to get cursed at but I wouldn't pay for a child's wedding if they got knocked up either. Neither of my parents paid or offered to pay towards my wedding and my husband and I weren't even living together. Your nuts to expect to have a paid for wedding when you got pregnant first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what they may be trying to say is that your expectations of your dad seem to be a little over the top. You didn't give his age but he sounds like he is not an emotional man, probably served in the military, is self-made and isn't inclined to show emotions. Just my hunch. And I don't see why he should pay for a wedding after you've had your first child out of wedlock - I didn't expect my parents to pay for any wedding, in or out of wedlock. My father certainly didn't give my husband any kind of lecture about his expectations of him taking care of me (that would have been sexist, especiallys since I made more than my husband) and finally I suspect your dad is getting up in years and doesn't care about - or can't keep straight in his own head - all the facts about the land deal and expect you to run it if you want it. I would. That's the very least you could do since it's a gift. Your expectations of him just seem to be a little creepy and out of whack, which is what I think the others were trying to convey. Time to grow up, take on the land deal, figure it out, thank your dad (wish my parents would give me some land) and forgive. This may be the only way he knows how to say "I love you".

Completely agree with the bolded parts. I think that you need to try and work to transition your relationship to one of two adults. You're acting as if you are still a child.