Are you friends with your SIL?

[Anonymous]

Yes, my husband's sister is awesome and I love her! She's been a true comrade in dealing with my pill of a MIL.

[Anonymous]

My SIL is like an older sister to me. She and my brother divorced a few years ago but we still travel together, I stay at her house, etc.

[Anonymous]

I have one SIL - married to my husband's brother. We are not friends. I am seriously hoping that she forges a relationship with our MIL so MIL can leave me the hell alone.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 and I think we would be friends if I lived closer to them. They both live in California.

[Anonymous]

I really like my SIL (my husband's sister). We get along really well, though though we don't live close to each other so we don't get to spend a lot of time together.

My husband's brother isn't married, but I like the woman he's dating now. She's the first person he's dated in a long time who isn't batshit crazy. I couldn't stand his previous longtime girlfriend/mother of his child (they never married).

[Anonymous]

SIL married to my brother - yes, would call her my 3rd sister and she feels the same about my sisters and I

SIL married to DH's brother #1 - friendly acquaintances who can make enough small talk to pass a family event

SIL married to DH's brother #2 - no, we rarely see them and our beliefs on politics, religion and social issues are way, way different

[Anonymous]

No, it was pretty obvious we hated each other.
Best day of my life was when my BIL filed for divorce.
I couldnt stop laughing.

[Anonymous]

Cant stand my judgemental, spoiled, bitchy SIL. Don't hate her, though. Just cant stand her at all.

[Anonymous]

No. We get along fine, but she's young, newly married, living the life of a carefree young person in the big city....drinking, spending money, shopping... Just immature and shallow in general. Not a bad person, just not someone I would befriend.

[Anonymous]

For DH's bros wife- I like her a whole lot and we get along great when together but we don't really have a relationship outside of family visits- we don't email or chat or anything like that. But I would definitely be friends with her if I met her by chance. We also live about 1000 miles apart.

For my sister's partner- she feels like family, and has for years so we don't hang out that much independently of my sister or anything but its not remotely awkward when we do- I'll drop her emails or texts about specific things too without hesitation

I had a good example though- with my mom's family, they each have their own circle of friends of course but her bros and sisters are all genuinely each other's very good friends- they do a lot together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you think it is sisters in law who are married to brothers, as opposed to sisters in law who are connected through a sibling - like a woman marries a man and he has a sister wh becomes her sister in law - are more likely to get along?

This is certainly true in my case.

I really like my brother's wife and wish we lived closer together. We are friends, work together sometimes and would see each other a lot more, I think, if we could. My husband's sisters are another story altogether. One I like OK, but we have virtually nothing in common , so we have little to discuss outside of the weather and meaningless family drivel. The other sister I truly do not care for.

[Anonymous]

My brother's wife, we are cordial to each other and for the sake of our kids who love to be in each other's company we chat and set up time to spend together. We have different beliefs about marriage equality and gay people in general. Sometimes she and my brother start talking negatively about gay people and I either tell them to stop for the sake of my kids or just leave.

My husband's sister. I could see us being friends, but she lives on the west coast while we reside in VA. I do text her sometimes, to see how she's doing, etc. We don't have the bond because we are far away.

My husband's brother's wife. She too lives out west and while she is nice, we have nothing in common at all. She's a nice woman and I can tolerate a long weekend. I don't pick up the phone to call her and she doesn't pick up the phone to call me.

[Anonymous]

My husband's wife can't stand me. I don't know why. We live far apart and have only seen each other a handful of times.

I get along well with my brother's wife. We usually don't text or call just to say "hi." But when we do see each other, we have a good time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband's wife can't stand me. I don't know why. We live far apart and have only seen each other a handful of times.

I get along well with my brother's wife. We usually don't text or call just to say "hi." But when we do see each other, we have a good time.

[Anonymous]

No.

My husband's sister is pretty cold and closed-off. She doesn't reach out ever, and when we see each other it's like being in an elevator with someone you work with and don't like or dislike but don't know well. We try to chit chat, but it never goes anywhere. I have tried and tried to ask her questions and make inroads, but she gives the most cursory, boring answers and hardly reciprocates. Hellos and goodbyes are like cold fish hugs.

She gifts small things to my son on appropriate occasions but is generally the same with him and makes no effort to call or write or skype with him or us. I don't think she likes or wants kids, so we can't bond over that. To be honest, we don't really make an effort to communicate with her and her DH either. I could try but it would be pointless. DH doesn't really care to but likes her and has a fine relationship, just not a close one.

It is sad to me because I have no siblings and thought this might be a chance to "have" one. But when I see her it's just like being stuck with an unfamiliar classmate who I have to work with on this group project, that project being "Christmas" or whatever the reason for getting together is.