what is it like to be in your mid-thirties in DC single with a child?

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Anonymous wrote:I find it curious how everyone's been affirming her choice without questioning why she is prepared to abandon her husband and her child ... all in the hope of finding a new husband that'll really honestly give her more babies within a 5-7 year window.

I mean, she may be 100% justified, but I'm missing the "he beats me, cheats on me, drinks too much" or even the "he yells all the time, works all the time, and can't be arsed to pick up after himself."

+1
In fact, she said he was a great father and a nice peron. But my guess is, she is not attracted to him. So she is going to find someone better and have children with him, amd all that at the age of 38, and with a small child. Yeah right.

Ok, then what are the options? Stay as it is, unhappy and carry on? Are you saying that there is no hope either way?

Hope for what? A fantasy husband?

OP here. What are you talking about? You don't even know my situation to pass judgements. The intent of this post was not for me to discuss my marital problems, I wanted to hear account from people that have been in my situation and looking for a partner. And many people have shared their experiences, which I do appreciate.

And yes, I am content with staying single. But not forever. No one would want that.

well, you will take what you can get here because we are not your servants and will address topic as we please.

it's very clear what your intent is. it is also clear that you are, at the very least, very foolish. i know several very attractive and accomplished women in their late thirties early forties who haven't been able to find a suitable man despite dating intensely. the reason for that, as they say, is that "all the good ones have been taken". men available at at age group are, basically, garbage, and so are women (though not to the same extent, which makes it even harder), unless they are widows (who get snatched within a week). good and desirable people found mates long time ago. but sure, leave your husband and jump right in. when you are 45 and still single, at least you will know you gave it a try.

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Anonymous wrote:I find it curious how everyone's been affirming her choice without questioning why she is prepared to abandon her husband and her child ... all in the hope of finding a new husband that'll really honestly give her more babies within a 5-7 year window.

I mean, she may be 100% justified, but I'm missing the "he beats me, cheats on me, drinks too much" or even the "he yells all the time, works all the time, and can't be arsed to pick up after himself."

+1
In fact, she said he was a great father and a nice peron. But my guess is, she is not attracted to him. So she is going to find someone better and have children with him, amd all that at the age of 38, and with a small child. Yeah right.

Ok, then what are the options? Stay as it is, unhappy and carry on? Are you saying that there is no hope either way?

Hope for what? A fantasy husband?

OP here. What are you talking about? You don't even know my situation to pass judgements. The intent of this post was not for me to discuss my marital problems, I wanted to hear account from people that have been in my situation and looking for a partner. And many people have shared their experiences, which I do appreciate.

And yes, I am content with staying single. But not forever. No one would want that.

well, you will take what you can get here because we are not your servants and will address topic as we please.

it's very clear what your intent is. it is also clear that you are, at the very least, very foolish. i know several very attractive and accomplished women in their late thirties early forties who haven't been able to find a suitable man despite dating intensely. the reason for that, as they say, is that "all the good ones have been taken". men available at at age group are, basically, garbage, and so are women (though not to the same extent, which makes it even harder), unless they are widows (who get snatched within a week). good and desirable people found mates long time ago. but sure, leave your husband and jump right in. when you are 45 and still single, at least you will know you gave it a try.

you really need to STFU and just go away.

OP - there are plenty of good men (and women) in the 30s and 40s - single, divorced, etc. - I say this as single dad and currently dating.

to find someone "good" you need to be good yourself - clear headed, know what you want and what you don't want, lead a fulfilling and happy life, and be open to meeting people - online, through friends, etc. and don't pay attention to the idiots and naysayers out there. (they're mouth-breathers so, you know)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friends and I found it difficult to find decent men to date and marry when we were in our thirties and child-free. And it's much much harder in their forties, both with and without children. You may be lucky and find a hidden gem, but please be really sure you will be happy being a single parent before you divorce. From what I've seen, it's ugly out there and there's a lot of competition for a few fish. None of my friends who are single parents with children have remarried.

+100

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Anonymous wrote:I find it curious how everyone's been affirming her choice without questioning why she is prepared to abandon her husband and her child ... all in the hope of finding a new husband that'll really honestly give her more babies within a 5-7 year window.

I mean, she may be 100% justified, but I'm missing the "he beats me, cheats on me, drinks too much" or even the "he yells all the time, works all the time, and can't be arsed to pick up after himself."

+1
In fact, she said he was a great father and a nice peron. But my guess is, she is not attracted to him. So she is going to find someone better and have children with him, amd all that at the age of 38, and with a small child. Yeah right.

Ok, then what are the options? Stay as it is, unhappy and carry on? Are you saying that there is no hope either way?

Hope for what? A fantasy husband?

OP here. What are you talking about? You don't even know my situation to pass judgements. The intent of this post was not for me to discuss my marital problems, I wanted to hear account from people that have been in my situation and looking for a partner. And many people have shared their experiences, which I do appreciate.

And yes, I am content with staying single. But not forever. No one would want that.

well, you will take what you can get here because we are not your servants and will address topic as we please.

it's very clear what your intent is. it is also clear that you are, at the very least, very foolish. i know several very attractive and accomplished women in their late thirties early forties who haven't been able to find a suitable man despite dating intensely. the reason for that, as they say, is that "all the good ones have been taken". men available at at age group are, basically, garbage, and so are women (though not to the same extent, which makes it even harder), unless they are widows (who get snatched within a week). good and desirable people found mates long time ago. but sure, leave your husband and jump right in. when you are 45 and still single, at least you will know you gave it a try.

you really need to STFU and just go away.

OP - there are plenty of good men (and women) in the 30s and 40s - single, divorced, etc. - I say this as single dad and currently dating.

to find someone "good" you need to be good yourself - clear headed, know what you want and what you don't want, lead a fulfilling and happy life, and be open to meeting people - online, through friends, etc. and don't pay attention to the idiots and naysayers out there. (they're mouth-breathers so, you know)

Do you even have hair? How tall are you? Weight?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it curious how everyone's been affirming her choice without questioning why she is prepared to abandon her husband and her child ... all in the hope of finding a new husband that'll really honestly give her more babies within a 5-7 year window.

I mean, she may be 100% justified, but I'm missing the "he beats me, cheats on me, drinks too much" or even the "he yells all the time, works all the time, and can't be arsed to pick up after himself."

+1
In fact, she said he was a great father and a nice peron. But my guess is, she is not attracted to him. So she is going to find someone better and have children with him, amd all that at the age of 38, and with a small child. Yeah right.

Ok, then what are the options? Stay as it is, unhappy and carry on? Are you saying that there is no hope either way?

Hope for what? A fantasy husband?

OP here. What are you talking about? You don't even know my situation to pass judgements. The intent of this post was not for me to discuss my marital problems, I wanted to hear account from people that have been in my situation and looking for a partner. And many people have shared their experiences, which I do appreciate.

And yes, I am content with staying single. But not forever. No one would want that.

well, you will take what you can get here because we are not your servants and will address topic as we please.

it's very clear what your intent is. it is also clear that you are, at the very least, very foolish. i know several very attractive and accomplished women in their late thirties early forties who haven't been able to find a suitable man despite dating intensely. the reason for that, as they say, is that "all the good ones have been taken". men available at at age group are, basically, garbage, and so are women (though not to the same extent, which makes it even harder), unless they are widows (who get snatched within a week). good and desirable people found mates long time ago. but sure, leave your husband and jump right in. when you are 45 and still single, at least you will know you gave it a try.

you really need to STFU and just go away.

OP - there are plenty of good men (and women) in the 30s and 40s - single, divorced, etc. - I say this as single dad and currently dating.

to find someone "good" you need to be good yourself - clear headed, know what you want and what you don't want, lead a fulfilling and happy life, and be open to meeting people - online, through friends, etc. and don't pay attention to the idiots and naysayers out there. (they're mouth-breathers so, you know)

OP is already married to a good man. But she wants a full package. Do you have it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it curious how everyone's been affirming her choice without questioning why she is prepared to abandon her husband and her child ... all in the hope of finding a new husband that'll really honestly give her more babies within a 5-7 year window.

I mean, she may be 100% justified, but I'm missing the "he beats me, cheats on me, drinks too much" or even the "he yells all the time, works all the time, and can't be arsed to pick up after himself."

+1
In fact, she said he was a great father and a nice peron. But my guess is, she is not attracted to him. So she is going to find someone better and have children with him, amd all that at the age of 38, and with a small child. Yeah right.

Ok, then what are the options? Stay as it is, unhappy and carry on? Are you saying that there is no hope either way?

Hope for what? A fantasy husband?

OP here. What are you talking about? You don't even know my situation to pass judgements. The intent of this post was not for me to discuss my marital problems, I wanted to hear account from people that have been in my situation and looking for a partner. And many people have shared their experiences, which I do appreciate.

And yes, I am content with staying single. But not forever. No one would want that.

well, you will take what you can get here because we are not your servants and will address topic as we please.

it's very clear what your intent is. it is also clear that you are, at the very least, very foolish. i know several very attractive and accomplished women in their late thirties early forties who haven't been able to find a suitable man despite dating intensely. the reason for that, as they say, is that "all the good ones have been taken". men available at at age group are, basically, garbage, and so are women (though not to the same extent, which makes it even harder), unless they are widows (who get snatched within a week). good and desirable people found mates long time ago. but sure, leave your husband and jump right in. when you are 45 and still single, at least you will know you gave it a try.

you really need to STFU and just go away.

OP - there are plenty of good men (and women) in the 30s and 40s - single, divorced, etc. - I say this as single dad and currently dating.

to find someone "good" you need to be good yourself - clear headed, know what you want and what you don't want, lead a fulfilling and happy life, and be open to meeting people - online, through friends, etc. and don't pay attention to the idiots and naysayers out there. (they're mouth-breathers so, you know)

OP is already married to a good man. But she wants a full package. Do you have it?

OP here- why are you so mean? Is that how you get away from the issues in your marriages/ or non- marriages? What kind of person are you to become so nasty just in an effort to prove your point? How far would this get you I wonder.

[Anonymous]

"And yes, I am content with staying single. But not forever. No one would want that."

Staying single is exactly what I want. You aren't very bright.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"And yes, I am content with staying single. But not forever. No one would want that."

Staying single is exactly what I want. You aren't very bright.

Good luck.

Lord knows whom are you responding to.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it curious how everyone's been affirming her choice without questioning why she is prepared to abandon her husband and her child ... all in the hope of finding a new husband that'll really honestly give her more babies within a 5-7 year window.

I mean, she may be 100% justified, but I'm missing the "he beats me, cheats on me, drinks too much" or even the "he yells all the time, works all the time, and can't be arsed to pick up after himself."

+1
In fact, she said he was a great father and a nice peron. But my guess is, she is not attracted to him. So she is going to find someone better and have children with him, amd all that at the age of 38, and with a small child. Yeah right.

Ok, then what are the options? Stay as it is, unhappy and carry on? Are you saying that there is no hope either way?

Hope for what? A fantasy husband?

OP here. What are you talking about? You don't even know my situation to pass judgements. The intent of this post was not for me to discuss my marital problems, I wanted to hear account from people that have been in my situation and looking for a partner. And many people have shared their experiences, which I do appreciate.

And yes, I am content with staying single. But not forever. No one would want that.

well, you will take what you can get here because we are not your servants and will address topic as we please.

it's very clear what your intent is. it is also clear that you are, at the very least, very foolish. i know several very attractive and accomplished women in their late thirties early forties who haven't been able to find a suitable man despite dating intensely. the reason for that, as they say, is that "all the good ones have been taken". men available at at age group are, basically, garbage, and so are women (though not to the same extent, which makes it even harder), unless they are widows (who get snatched within a week). good and desirable people found mates long time ago. but sure, leave your husband and jump right in. when you are 45 and still single, at least you will know you gave it a try.

you really need to STFU and just go away.

OP - there are plenty of good men (and women) in the 30s and 40s - single, divorced, etc. - I say this as single dad and currently dating.

to find someone "good" you need to be good yourself - clear headed, know what you want and what you don't want, lead a fulfilling and happy life, and be open to meeting people - online, through friends, etc. and don't pay attention to the idiots and naysayers out there. (they're mouth-breathers so, you know)

OP is already married to a good man. But she wants a full package. Do you have it?

OP here- why are you so mean? Is that how you get away from the issues in your marriages/ or non- marriages? What kind of person are you to become so nasty just in an effort to prove your point? How far would this get you I wonder.

You should have kneeled before me and said a thousand thank yous because, if you followed through what I told you, it would have been the biggest favor you were ever going to get. remember this when, at 43, you are going to your thousandth date on okcupid with some fifty yr old bald guy who claims to be five feet taller than he is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it curious how everyone's been affirming her choice without questioning why she is prepared to abandon her husband and her child ... all in the hope of finding a new husband that'll really honestly give her more babies within a 5-7 year window.

I mean, she may be 100% justified, but I'm missing the "he beats me, cheats on me, drinks too much" or even the "he yells all the time, works all the time, and can't be arsed to pick up after himself."

+1
In fact, she said he was a great father and a nice peron. But my guess is, she is not attracted to him. So she is going to find someone better and have children with him, amd all that at the age of 38, and with a small child. Yeah right.

Ok, then what are the options? Stay as it is, unhappy and carry on? Are you saying that there is no hope either way?

Hope for what? A fantasy husband?

OP here. What are you talking about? You don't even know my situation to pass judgements. The intent of this post was not for me to discuss my marital problems, I wanted to hear account from people that have been in my situation and looking for a partner. And many people have shared their experiences, which I do appreciate.

And yes, I am content with staying single. But not forever. No one would want that.

well, you will take what you can get here because we are not your servants and will address topic as we please.

it's very clear what your intent is. it is also clear that you are, at the very least, very foolish. i know several very attractive and accomplished women in their late thirties early forties who haven't been able to find a suitable man despite dating intensely. the reason for that, as they say, is that "all the good ones have been taken". men available at at age group are, basically, garbage, and so are women (though not to the same extent, which makes it even harder), unless they are widows (who get snatched within a week). good and desirable people found mates long time ago. but sure, leave your husband and jump right in. when you are 45 and still single, at least you will know you gave it a try.

you really need to STFU and just go away.

OP - there are plenty of good men (and women) in the 30s and 40s - single, divorced, etc. - I say this as single dad and currently dating.

to find someone "good" you need to be good yourself - clear headed, know what you want and what you don't want, lead a fulfilling and happy life, and be open to meeting people - online, through friends, etc. and don't pay attention to the idiots and naysayers out there. (they're mouth-breathers so, you know)

Do you even have hair? How tall are you? Weight?

only b/c it's Friday, the kid is fast asleep, I'll indulge you -

42, 5'11, 187 lbs, black hair with touches of gray coming in and yes, I have all my teeth. what else would you lie know?

[Anonymous]

You should have kneeled before me and said a thousand thank yous because, if you followed through what I told you, it would have been the biggest favor you were ever going to get. remember this when, at 43, you are going to your thousandth date on okcupid with some fifty yr old bald guy who claims to be five feet taller than he is.

Wow...lay off the OP, huh? You made your point. No need to derail her thread.