"What do you look for in a man?"

[Anonymous]

I'd want him to enjoy his job. People are generally happier, more content, and emotional stable when they enjoy their jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When a person matures, hopefully they value other things besides money or hotness.

At least, that seems to be the case when a woman matures. I am sure it is the same for men. That's why you see rich older men with average looking urban shrews with 10 extra pounds so often. Right?

Nobody wants a "mature" woman

you're an imbecile - and hope you never have the opportunity to enjoy the pleasures of a mature woman - they know what to do in the bedroom and it's such a thrilling ride when you properly take care of their needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When a person matures, hopefully they value other things besides money or hotness.

At least, that seems to be the case when a woman matures. I am sure it is the same for men. That's why you see rich older men with average looking urban shrews with 10 extra pounds so often. Right?

Women tend to "peak" in terms of sexual attractiveness in men pretty early on. Men look for many things in long-term partners; but their desire to have sex with a woman is primarily based on physical qualities more normally associated with younger women. The fact that their peak sexual attractiveness coincides with a time of relative immaturity makes it tough to determine whether a pretty young thing is picking the unkind, impolite jock asshole a couple years older than her because: a) that's what she likes when she has the option to land whoever she wants; or b) because, regardless of options, attraction to assholes is present when she's immature but is not present when she matures.

Men tend to "peak" in sexual attractiveness later on. It's not just a function of physical appearance but also tends to be correlated with things like social status, money, and power. The latter tend to take longer for a guy to acquire. But, very often, by the time men peak, they are already legally entangled with a woman and having children with her. Which would explain why a man with better options now is with one of those "urban shrews." He struck a deal when she was peaking and he was at a relatively low mark for the "market."

This is all very simplistic of course. I think there is plenty of truth in this way of looking at things; but it's not the whole truth. My "value" on such a scale has probably increased and my wife's has probably decreased since we got married. But, I love her and the life and family we have created. Sexually, my main knock against her is not her appearance but her relative lack of effort.

So, a man who 1) has reached his "peak" and is at the same time 2) mature, would know better than to select a mate based solely on her sexual attractiveness, correct?

I am not referring to the middle aged, fabulously sexy men you talk about who are with their ball-and-chain urban shrews, but rather the balding, middle aged fella in the red convertible with the hot blonde. How do you explain their stereotypical mate choices, Dr. Joyce Brothers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not referring to the middle aged, fabulously sexy men you talk about who are with their ball-and-chain urban shrews, but rather the balding, middle aged fella in the red convertible with the hot blonde. How do you explain their stereotypical mate choices, Dr. Joyce Brothers?

Probably they are the sorts of guys who the hot girls wouldn't give the time of day when they were younger. Bonus points if they hit a mid-life crisis and dumped a shrew before picking up the convertible and the hot blonde. To me, the more interesting question is how the hot blonde would explain her attraction to the guy. Probably she wouldn't come right out and say "money." Maybe she'd talk a big game about how "kind" he was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When a person matures, hopefully they value other things besides money or hotness.

At least, that seems to be the case when a woman matures. I am sure it is the same for men. That's why you see rich older men with average looking urban shrews with 10 extra pounds so often. Right?

Nobody wants a "mature" woman

Hi, Caveman!

[Anonymous]

Whats wrong with balding? Its a sign of high testosterone.

[Anonymous]

"This is all very simplistic of course. I think there is plenty of truth in this way of looking at things; but it's not the whole truth. My "value" on such a scale has probably increased and my wife's has probably decreased since we got married. But, I love her and the life and family we have created. Sexually, my main knock against her is not her appearance but her relative lack of effort."

But she gets away with her decreased value, so who's the sucker now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not referring to the middle aged, fabulously sexy men you talk about who are with their ball-and-chain urban shrews, but rather the balding, middle aged fella in the red convertible with the hot blonde. How do you explain their stereotypical mate choices, Dr. Joyce Brothers?

Probably they are the sorts of guys who the hot girls wouldn't give the time of day when they were younger. Bonus points if they hit a mid-life crisis and dumped a shrew before picking up the convertible and the hot blonde. To me, the more interesting question is how the hot blonde would explain her attraction to the guy. Probably she wouldn't come right out and say "money." Maybe she'd talk a big game about how "kind" he was.

"Good Provider" is code for money. Pay attention!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here are things that I made sure my boyfriend had when he started talking about marriage so I would know how to steer that conversation:

1. Education
2. Drive
3. Financial stability. He didn't have to be well-off, but did have to be capable of budgeting and make good financial decisions, had to have financial restraint, and make long-term financial goals
4. Clean nails
5. No bad breath
6. Likes dogs
7. Had to be funny. Humor lessens stress.
8. Has to be mentally stable. I know my limits.
9. Has to be better with kids than I am (I'm not good).
10. Has to have confidence. Not the cocky arrogant confidence.

Why would a guy marry a woman whos not good with kids?

I asked my husband, the better parent, your question. He said I had a lot of other characteristics that were important to him, and that I'm better with kids than I think. (He readily admits he is the better parent.)

[Anonymous]

You want someone who will support the things that are important to you in life. For instance - if you know you may be caring for aging parents in future years, you don't want someone for whom family is not a priority. This did not ever occur to me when I was dating in my 20s, but in my 30s has become apparent.

Think about what you will want/need in 10 or 20 years - yes, things can change and life can and will throw you curve balls, but many things can be predicted. In addition to the aging parent example, do you/will they prioritize saving for early retirement, or enjoying life as it comes by travelling more? Is a higher income more important, or work/life balance?

[Anonymous]

Lord. Yet, if his mom were part of the deal - run like hell!!!

Such a crystal clear double standard here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not referring to the middle aged, fabulously sexy men you talk about who are with their ball-and-chain urban shrews, but rather the balding, middle aged fella in the red convertible with the hot blonde. How do you explain their stereotypical mate choices, Dr. Joyce Brothers?

Probably they are the sorts of guys who the hot girls wouldn't give the time of day when they were younger. Bonus points if they hit a mid-life crisis and dumped a shrew before picking up the convertible and the hot blonde. To me, the more interesting question is how the hot blonde would explain her attraction to the guy. Probably she wouldn't come right out and say "money." Maybe she'd talk a big game about how "kind" he was.

"Good Provider" is code for money. Pay attention!

Hmm, I am a woman and I am the good provider compared to DH. Does that mean that I can get a hot blonde?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not referring to the middle aged, fabulously sexy men you talk about who are with their ball-and-chain urban shrews, but rather the balding, middle aged fella in the red convertible with the hot blonde. How do you explain their stereotypical mate choices, Dr. Joyce Brothers?

Probably they are the sorts of guys who the hot girls wouldn't give the time of day when they were younger. Bonus points if they hit a mid-life crisis and dumped a shrew before picking up the convertible and the hot blonde. To me, the more interesting question is how the hot blonde would explain her attraction to the guy. Probably she wouldn't come right out and say "money." Maybe she'd talk a big game about how "kind" he was.

"Good Provider" is code for money. Pay attention!

Hmm, I am a woman and I am the good provider compared to DH. Does that mean that I can get a hot blonde?

yes of course...as long as the hot blonde is another woman...and you'll have to post the pictures/videos here for verification

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not referring to the middle aged, fabulously sexy men you talk about who are with their ball-and-chain urban shrews, but rather the balding, middle aged fella in the red convertible with the hot blonde. How do you explain their stereotypical mate choices, Dr. Joyce Brothers?

Probably they are the sorts of guys who the hot girls wouldn't give the time of day when they were younger. Bonus points if they hit a mid-life crisis and dumped a shrew before picking up the convertible and the hot blonde. To me, the more interesting question is how the hot blonde would explain her attraction to the guy. Probably she wouldn't come right out and say "money." Maybe she'd talk a big game about how "kind" he was.

"Good Provider" is code for money. Pay attention!

Hmm, I am a woman and I am the good provider compared to DH. Does that mean that I can get a hot blonde?

Absolutely. Anna Nicole got together with that ancient billionaire. I have to think girl-on-girl is more economical than girl-on-geezer.

[Anonymous]

I think all women would be wise to consider getting wives instead of husbands. For real.