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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When a person matures, hopefully they value other things besides money or hotness.

At least, that seems to be the case when a woman matures.  I am sure it is the same for men.  That's why you see rich older men with average looking urban shrews with 10 extra pounds so often.  Right?[/quote]

Women tend to "peak" in terms of sexual attractiveness in men pretty early on. Men look for many things in long-term partners; but their desire to have sex with a woman is primarily based on physical qualities more normally associated with younger women. The fact that their peak sexual attractiveness coincides with a time of relative immaturity makes it tough to determine whether a pretty young thing is picking the unkind, impolite jock asshole a couple years older than her because: a) that's what she likes when she has the option to land whoever she wants; or b) because, regardless of options, attraction to assholes is present when she's immature but is not present when she matures.

Men tend to "peak" in sexual attractiveness later on. It's not just a function of physical appearance but also tends to be correlated with things like social status, money, and power. The latter tend to take longer for a guy to acquire.  But, very often, by the time men peak, they are already legally entangled with a woman and having children with her. Which would explain why a man with better options now is with one of those "urban shrews." He struck a deal when she was peaking and he was at a relatively low mark for the "market."

This is all very simplistic of course. I think there is plenty of truth in this way of looking at things; but it's not the whole truth. My "value" on such a scale has probably increased and my wife's has probably decreased since we got married. But, I love her and the life and family we have created. Sexually, my main knock against her is not her appearance but her relative lack of effort. [/quote]

So, a man who 1) has reached his "peak" and is at the same time 2) mature, would know better than to select a mate based solely on her sexual attractiveness, correct?

I am not referring to the middle aged, fabulously sexy men you talk about who are with their ball-and-chain urban shrews, but rather the balding, middle aged fella in the red convertible with the hot blonde.  How do you explain their stereotypical mate choices, Dr. Joyce Brothers?

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