newly single dad in NW DC, how to meet women for casual or enduring relationship?

[Anonymous]

To the PP who said she's not have much luck striking up conversations -- beware that some insecure wives out there are going to think you're trying to pick up their husbands. Being friendly ans striking up conversations is all it takes. If I get that jealous vibe, I'm out of there. I'm a friendly, talkative person -- always. To married men, single men and all of the women. I need female friends too. It can be lonely as a single mom.

Anyway, I have a 2-3 good couple friends. Women who know I'm not out to get their husbands and husbands who just present a different perspective socially. I go out with them as the third wheel sometimes. No biggie.

I've met most of the men I've dated online. When I'm at kid activities, I'm focused on the kids and it's hard to tell someone's situation. I know a lot of the other parents don't realize we're divorced unless it comes up.

Not sure how the PP thinks this is her newly ex H." There are a lot of them out there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP...do you prefer single with kids or no kids?

with kids is always good so we're at the same stage in life/have similar situations.
but open to without kids...it always comes down the the individual of course.
currently dating someone with kids, although they are older so it is different.

[Anonymous]

OP - Did you find a lady friend yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Why aren't you complaining about the single dad who is trying to take time away from his kids to focus on finding a woman? Shouldn't he wait until his kids are grown ?"

Yes, why is it that single dad is getting helpful advice, while single moms are told to not think about dating until their kids are grown?

Yup, where are those hags that said that to a female pp a while back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Why aren't you complaining about the single dad who is trying to take time away from his kids to focus on finding a woman? Shouldn't he wait until his kids are grown ?"

Yes, why is it that single dad is getting helpful advice, while single moms are told to not think about dating until their kids are grown?

Completely agree. Dad should be more focused on his kids than ever. He only sees them part time now, you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Why aren't you complaining about the single dad who is trying to take time away from his kids to focus on finding a woman? Shouldn't he wait until his kids are grown ?"

Yes, why is it that single dad is getting helpful advice, while single moms are told to not think about dating until their kids are grown?

Completely agree. Dad should be more focused on his kids than ever. He only sees them part time now, you know.

He can't get laid when the mother has the kids?

[Anonymous]

Do you have a hobby you love?

[Anonymous]

Single mom of a toddler here...I second the park idea. We're there a lot and I often strike up conversations with the other moms/dads. Agree with PP that most of the dads are married (and genuinely seem unnerved when I strike up a friendly conversation) so you'd be welcome!

Maybe it's because they think you are trying to hit on them.

Then they'd be mistaken, PP. If you're wearing a wedding ring, you can safely assume that most of us single ladies (and all the sane ladies) aren't interested. Sometimes a friendly conversation is just a friendly conversation, you know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a gut feeling that OP is legit and also my "newly" ex-H in "nwdc."

Well, is he cute? Are you psycho? These are things we need to know.

[Anonymous]

dumb question, but what does pp and op mean? original post?

[Anonymous]

serious question - are there playgrounds or parks in n. arlington with more single moms than others? I never seem to run into single moms when I take my DD out.

admittedly, like another PP, I'm focused on my DD but even just casually noticing folks around, it seems like only married folks where we usually hang out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who said she's not have much luck striking up conversations -- beware that some insecure wives out there are going to think you're trying to pick up their husbands. Being friendly ans striking up conversations is all it takes. If I get that jealous vibe, I'm out of there. I'm a friendly, talkative person -- always. To married men, single men and all of the women. I need female friends too. It can be lonely as a single mom.

Anyway, I have a 2-3 good couple friends. Women who know I'm not out to get their husbands and husbands who just present a different perspective socially. I go out with them as the third wheel sometimes. No biggie.

I've met most of the men I've dated online. When I'm at kid activities, I'm focused on the kids and it's hard to tell someone's situation. I know a lot of the other parents don't realize we're divorced unless it comes up.

Not sure how the PP thinks this is her newly ex H." There are a lot of them out there!

But wouldn't they be right in thinking you are trying to pick up their husbands given that you are suggesting meeting people to date at a park, so your reason for "striking up conversations" is to meet people to date?

I'm not saying don't be chatty at the park, but you can't on the one hand flat out admit that you try to meet people to date at the playground and then accuse wives of suspecting you're hitting on men at the park!

If people didn't try to date at the park, it would be a nonissue. And then no one would have to be suspicious of casual chatting.

A kid's playground really shouldn't be seen as a place to find dates. It creates unnecessary tension and, yes, suspicion.

[Anonymous]

Unless you're a widow you shouldn't have been stuck with the kids. Sorry. Men with the kids are betas.

[Anonymous]

*widower

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the PP who said she's not have much luck striking up conversations -- beware that some insecure wives out there are going to think you're trying to pick up their husbands. Being friendly ans striking up conversations is all it takes. If I get that jealous vibe, I'm out of there. I'm a friendly, talkative person -- always. To married men, single men and all of the women. I need female friends too. It can be lonely as a single mom.

Anyway, I have a 2-3 good couple friends. Women who know I'm not out to get their husbands and husbands who just present a different perspective socially. I go out with them as the third wheel sometimes. No biggie.

I've met most of the men I've dated online. When I'm at kid activities, I'm focused on the kids and it's hard to tell someone's situation. I know a lot of the other parents don't realize we're divorced unless it comes up.

But wouldn't they be right in thinking you are trying to pick up their husbands given that you are suggesting meeting people to date at a park, so your reason for "striking up conversations" is to meet people to date?

I'm not saying don't be chatty at the park, but you can't on the one hand flat out admit that you try to meet people to date at the playground and then accuse wives of suspecting you're hitting on men at the park!

If people didn't try to date at the park, it would be a nonissue. And then no one would have to be suspicious of casual chatting.

A kid's playground really shouldn't be seen as a place to find dates. It creates unnecessary tension and, yes, suspicion.

Good Lord, PP. No one is suggesting rolling up to the playground in a sheath dress and Louboutin platforms. And not all single people who talk to other single people are interesting in those particular people. But most single parents want to meet other single parents. And where do parents with kids meet other parents with kids? In places where parents with kids hang out. You know, common interests, etc. Kind of like when you met your DH, remember? Again, a wedding ring is a great way to steer clear of any potential lurking mates. We single parents have plenty of drama in our lives...we don't need any more, thanks.