My husband won't see a dentist or doctor

[Anonymous]

My husband would not see a dentist or doctor and in the end finally did not sure why probably because he was having symptoms is a dad of three young children and was diagnosed with stage four kidney cancer non operatable so sad please tell your husband to go see a doctor my husband was too stubborn and is now on chemo fighting to stay alive to see his grow up. I have nothing but regret that I wasn't more forceful with him I knew something was wrong in my gut

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Schedule the appointment and take him if you have to. I schedule all appointments or it would not get done.

This. I schedule everything with lots of reminders.

[Anonymous]

Would he be willling to take Xanax? It sounds like a pretty severe phobi - either take him to a harpist and work on the phobia, a psychiatrist and get him some Xanax, or book a GP and explain major phobia so intro exam is only in an office and not exam room - no tests just chatting and see if he would prescribe a Xanax for a further exxam

[Anonymous]

Therapist not harpist (that image is funny though!!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

this is me! I am 27 and haven't been in almost ten years. it is so embarrassing. I just got good health insurance though with a new job and need to find a good dentist. I am mortified- not because I'm scared, but because I'm so embarrassed.

That was me, too, but I also had a dental phobia. Saw a therapist for the phobia, found a dentist who had experience with dental phobias and have been fine ever since.

Just go for it, they have seen everything!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went an embarassingly long time without seeing a dentist. I had a horrible dentist when I was a kid and I would have anxiety for weeks before a cleaning. Once I got into college, I just stopped going. Then it got to a point where I was scared about how much money I would probably end up spending to fix my teeth.

What finally scared me into going was hearing about people dying from poor oral hygeine that had spread to their internal organs. My dentist is great and really calmed my nerves when I met him. Yes, I had a number of problems that needed fixing once I finally went (multiple cavities, 2 root canals), but really it wasn't as bad as I imagined.

I don't know what to tell you OP besides suggesting that your DH is being a poor example to his children. The fear is quite real.

this is me! I am 27 and haven't been in almost ten years. it is so embarrassing. I just got good health insurance though with a new job and need to find a good dentist. I am mortified- not because I'm scared, but because I'm so embarrassed.

Don't be. My husband is a dentist and he does not judge.

[Anonymous]

The lack of doctor is a serious issue. Knew someone who never went to Dr until he was very sick. Dr found all sorts of issues (high blood pressure, diabetes, etc). Dr focused on those issues but he got worse. By the time the doctor figured out what was wrong, it was too far along and he passed away. I always thought that if the Dr already knew about and treated the chronic issues, he would have found the new/terminal issue much more quickly. Very sad.

[Anonymous]

This thread is three years old. I'm the OP-- not sure why someone bumped it. Update: he still hasn't gone!