Help me understand my husband - - going back to work for no reason other than jealousy?

[Anonymous]

OP, also know if he threatens to take the kids because of your "crazy" pill - an attorney told me that moms on prescriptions for that kind of thing is VERY common and no big deal.

If he's been leaving you home with the kids for 7 months he can't suddenly claim you are an unfit parent....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, also know if he threatens to take the kids because of your "crazy" pill - an attorney told me that moms on prescriptions for that kind of thing is VERY common and no big deal.

If he's been leaving you home with the kids for 7 months he can't suddenly claim you are an unfit parent....

I know And he also can't go for much more than standard custody arrangements (if that) because he's always on standby. I mean, if he tells me I have to be available by phone 24/7 to drop whatever I'm doing (working, travel, hair salon...) to rush home so he can scramble a bag and get to the airport - - um, how's he going to keep the kids on the weekends? I *certainly* will not be at his beck and call to play me (and he would...) if we're divorced. Though I would take care of my kids, but I'd damn sure document each time he called me in for backup.

[Anonymous]

So what are you saying? Are you getting a divorce after the holidays? That's a long way from your original post about understanding where he is coming from about working...

Just wondering.

[Anonymous]

OP, you need a lawyer and your own therapist. Also, can you do something with the kids long enough (school? get an arrangement with a neighbor or friend to reciprocate?) to go to near where he works for couples counseling? Even if you can't get the couples counseling, do get somebody for yourself. if they are good, they help you see things more clearly.

Sounds like if you divorce you will have to go back to work no matter what. There are definitely some power struggle issues going on here that are going to blow up your marriage. I know; I'm in a similar boat and will likely separate after Christmas myself.

[Anonymous]

Well, I'm beginning to suspect the "discussions" he's asking for have more to do with him planning for a divorce (and being resentful to boot) than anything else. I'm not going to be in a position of weakness if I can avoid it. I think it explains his behavior more than anything else.

With our marriage being tenuous at best, my biggest reason for staying in it is that I'm able to stay home with the kids. If he ups the ante and forces my hand about returning to work, well... I really have no reason to stay in a bad marriage any longer.