Holiday quandary!

[Anonymous]

Ok, so SIL has tickets at a presumably more affordable price.

SIL gets to suck it. The plans are made and you have no reason to change them.

[Anonymous]

Since the plans were made in January specifically to make everyone's schedule easier I would stick to the original plan. No emergency happened that would require a change I plans. Just because the sister wants to have it at her house now doesn't trump prior plans. If they're building the house wouldn't it be so much better to hate Christmas there the first year they are in it to build new memories anyway?? (Instead of having a sad holiday saying goodbye to it?)

[Anonymous]

Hate = have.

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't get it. When you tell your sister that it'll cost you guys $12,000 in airfare to accommodate a change in plans, what does she say? Is there really no way to get cheaper flights??

How long have they bern in their current house? Can't you get her to by into the idea that they'll want to host for the first Christmas in the new house? Lastly, if it comes to it, would you choose (1) celebrating separately or (2)
sucking it up and psyinv for expensive flights to go there?

[Anonymous]

I agree with you OP, but it sounds like maybe money just isn't a concern for anyone involved, so your sis doesn't get the principle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand...clearly they aren't very attached to the house since they are selling and building a new one.

I agree she's going to want you to come again next year for their first Christmas in the new house.

I say stick to the schedule or it sounds like you are going to get walked all over and end up shelling out for tickets multiple times when it's your family's turn not to travel.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear Lord Sis! It's not like you are going from nice house to homelessness! You are building a new, potentially nicer house, Christmas will be just as nice in the new house, maybe nicer. Kind of silly and selfish for her to screw up everyone's plans.

Well, isn't it nice that you get to determine what emotional connections other people are allowed to have. Your friends and family must love you.

Do you really think I treat my friends and family this way? Or even people face to face? Heck no! This is the internet, snark intended! I was telling the OP what she wanted to hear, as did many many other folks.

[Anonymous]

Can you change your family Xmas dates so the rates aren't as expensive. Maybe fly out there Dec. 26/27 and stay through new year's. They can celebrate on Dec. 25 and then again with you on the 26/27, or they can fly to your house the day after Xmas.

[Anonymous]

It gets tricky when families grow to do this kind of thing. We used to do something similar but it became next to impossible to juggle 16 different schedules. Now we meet as an extended family over the summer...easier time!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, to clarify...we alternate every year. Every year in Jan we confirm whose house we are going to. This past Jan. we all agreed it was our house. Now as of last week she wants to change it because of them moving out at some point.No she does not have a young baby. I mentioned the high airfare and that it just seems like a waste and her response was "you can't put a price on being together for Christmas"! That is true but we are a family of six and that's almost 12,000 just for tickets for four days.

My husband as some of you asked does not celebrate Christmas so we spend Thanksgiving with his family. That part at least works out just swell. Thanks for your varied responses, right now we are in limbo. I left a message for her earlier and am waiting for her to get back to me. With each day we wait the more the airfare goes up!

That right there would be it for me. No way I would spend that for four days anywhere.