Is it okay to skip my kid's college graduation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is easy. go to the graduation. your child will graduate from college only once in her life, while the son's cousin will likely get married two or more. just skip the first wedding and enjoy the second. win win

+1, If the cousin is like my cousin, +2!

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. It's just a graduation. What's the big deal?

What about the siblings? Should they go too, or is it okay for them to go to the wedding?

Did you graduate college?

Her family should be there to celebrate her moment.

That's my point. Maybe OP doesn't realize it's a big deal because she never went to college.

Maybe if the event had been catered, OP would reconsider.

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Yes, we all went to college and graduate school.

My youngest went to a much less prestigious school than the rest of us (same alma mater) and she is saying that we don't want to come because it isn't prestigious enough, which is not true. We visited her other siblings more since it was our alma mater, but we would go to her graduation if it wasn't for the wedding.

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OP - Do you live in the South?

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There's no way this is real.

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I'm sure this is a troll, too, but this actually happened to me. My father wasn't going to attend my law school graduation because he wanted to go to....wait for it....work. No big presentation, no big deal closing on that day. He just didn't want to miss a day of work. In the end I booked him a plane ticket so he could fly in at the last minute (we are not rich). It was ridiculous. In retrospect I wish I'd just let him miss it and live with it since it was such a huge hassle for me.

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Oh fuck no...I was very close to believing somebody could be so messed up, but the prestigious bit just set the bridge to trembling...trip trap, trip trap.

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Must be a troll. But as someone who went through college graduation by myself, I want to make sure everyone knows that kid's college graduation wins out.

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I don't see the big deal. I never attended any of my graduations.
Not high school, not for by BSc, not for my MBA.

I don't need to put a gown on, they MAIL you your diploma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the big deal. I never attended any of my graduations.
Not high school, not for by BSc, not for my MBA.

I don't need to put a gown on, they MAIL you your diploma.

Yes, I know people like that myself. But if the graduation ceremony is important to the graduate - then parents of the grad should go. If the graduate is blowing the whole thing off, feel free to miss it, of course.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see the big deal. I never attended any of my graduations.
Not high school, not for by BSc, not for my MBA.

I don't need to put a gown on, they MAIL you your diploma.

Yes, I know people like that myself. But if the graduation ceremony is important to the graduate - then parents of the grad should go. If the graduate is blowing the whole thing off, feel free to miss it, of course.

Total troll.

We're actually the opposite, making our DD go to her graduation next year. She was a very troubled teen and it took a lot of years to get her life together. Counseling, rehab, tough love, we all went through hell. She's gotten her life together and went back to school and will be graduating next spring.

She claims graduation isn't a big deal and we don't need to come, but we want to celebrate it as a major milestone and accomplishment in her life. We are very proud of her and want to make sure that as a family we mark this occasion.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't see the big deal. I never attended any of my graduations.
Not high school, not for by BSc, not for my MBA.

I don't need to put a gown on, they MAIL you your diploma.

Yes, I know people like that myself. But if the graduation ceremony is important to the graduate - then parents of the grad should go. If the graduate is blowing the whole thing off, feel free to miss it, of course.

Total troll.

We're actually the opposite, making our DD go to her graduation next year. She was a very troubled teen and it took a lot of years to get her life together. Counseling, rehab, tough love, we all went through hell. She's gotten her life together and went back to school and will be graduating next spring.

She claims graduation isn't a big deal and we don't need to come, but we want to celebrate it as a major milestone and accomplishment in her life. We are very proud of her and want to make sure that as a family we mark this occasion.

Congratulations on your daughter's graduation. I think I'd be pushing her to go if I were in your shoes, too. But there are other situations where the diploma is really all the grad wants. I know that's hard to believe, but I've seen it with my own eyes.

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TROLL alert. Get a fucking life OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys, chill out... the cousin's son worked really hard to achieve this wedding. I can't believe you're giving OP crap for wanting to go! Who wants to sit through a graduation (and really, BFD, so you went to school, people go to school every day, biiiiiiiig accomplishment). Borrrrrrrrrring!

And for real, it's not some stranger... it's her COUSIN'S SON. That's like... practically one of her kids.

But anyway, troll, do they even graduation dates this far in advance? Maybe she'll fail some classes and have to wait until next winter.

Nice try OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure this is a troll, too, but this actually happened to me. My father wasn't going to attend my law school graduation because he wanted to go to....wait for it....work. No big presentation, no big deal closing on that day. He just didn't want to miss a day of work. In the end I booked him a plane ticket so he could fly in at the last minute (we are not rich). It was ridiculous. In retrospect I wish I'd just let him miss it and live with it since it was such a huge hassle for me.

Same thing in my family except no last minute change of heart. It sucked, period.

The sad thing is OP has admitted they could, in fact, do both. They just dont want to because they'd be "exhausted."