Is it okay to skip my kid's college graduation?

[Anonymous]

Sure, the wedding might be more important and fun than the graduation but your daughter is a hell of a lot more important than your cousin's son.

You go based on people, not the event.

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on the schools. I went to a small college and graduation was a big deal, with a large picnic afterwards. We actually got our real diploma's. I only went to one of my brother's undergraduate graduations at a large university, but skipped the rest of them - including a phd grad. I also think my brothers skipped my grad school graduation. I also skipped one brother's high school graduation, but I was 37 weeks pregnant. My husband also skipped his grad school graduation.

But of course, the daughter appears to want to go to her graduation and wants her family there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tend to think this isn't a real post, but if it is I'd say your child's graduation outweighs your cousin's son's wedding.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is graduating from college in May. Unfortunately, my cousin's son is getting married that same weekend. I would much prefer to go to the wedding. My other kids are planning on going to the wedding as well. They are an eight hour drive apart, so the only way we could do both is if we woke up at 3am and drove up on Sunday in time for the ceremony at 1pm, but then we would miss other weekend festivities and be exhausted. (The wedding is in a location where we could not fly and get there in time.)

When my kid found out we were all planning to go to the wedding instead, she got upset. She claims that since we and she went to her older siblings' graduations from college and law school, we should go to her college graduation. I think she is being kind of self centered. Clearly a wedding is more important than a graduation.

Thoughts?

BS. No brainer, you go to your own kids graduation. Thanks for the laugh, and good luck in life (whether due to your stupid sense of humor or misplaced priorities).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guys, chill out... the cousin's son worked really hard to achieve this wedding. I can't believe you're giving OP crap for wanting to go! Who wants to sit through a graduation (and really, BFD, so you went to school, people go to school every day, biiiiiiiig accomplishment). Borrrrrrrrrring!

And for real, it's not some stranger... it's her COUSIN'S SON. That's like... practically one of her kids.

But anyway, troll, do they even graduation dates this far in advance? Maybe she'll fail some classes and have to wait until next winter.

Hi OP. You must really enjoy acting like a 12 yo...

[Anonymous]

I will pretend this is a real post. Go to the wedding. It sounds like your daughter is already used to you disappointing her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Guys, chill out... the cousin's son worked really hard to achieve this wedding. I can't believe you're giving OP crap for wanting to go! Who wants to sit through a graduation (and really, BFD, so you went to school, people go to school every day, biiiiiiiig accomplishment). Borrrrrrrrrring!

And for real, it's not some stranger... it's her COUSIN'S SON. That's like... practically one of her kids.

But anyway, troll, do they even graduation dates this far in advance? Maybe she'll fail some classes and have to wait until next winter.

Hi OP. You must really enjoy acting like a 12 yo...

Why would you think this was the OP? do people achieve weddings? (You know, like one might achieve graduation...) And her cousin's son being like practically one of her kids... like the kid she's trying to blow off for another event...

ay yi yi... no wonder you guys think the OP is making a serious post.

[Anonymous]

Has to be a Troll. If not, wow, You really suck! You don't deserve to be a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe this is a real post because I have family who calculate all social occasions like this:

Graduation: no alcohol -- not going
Wedding: alcohol -- going

Drinking problem, OP?

It is August. A college graduation would be happening next May. I have trouble believing this OP is already planning wedding travel now for almost a year from now and the DD knows graduation weekend already or is even thinking about it. I'm sorry that would happen in your family but this poster is still just stirring up shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is graduating from college in May. Unfortunately, my cousin's son is getting married that same weekend. I would much prefer to go to the wedding. My other kids are planning on going to the wedding as well. They are an eight hour drive apart, so the only way we could do both is if we woke up at 3am and drove up on Sunday in time for the ceremony at 1pm, but then we would miss other weekend festivities and be exhausted. (The wedding is in a location where we could not fly and get there in time.)

When my kid found out we were all planning to go to the wedding instead, she got upset. She claims that since we and she went to her older siblings' graduations from college and law school, we should go to her college graduation. I think she is being kind of self centered. Clearly a wedding is more important than a graduation.

Thoughts?

No, it's not ok to skip your child's graduation and go to the wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, we all went to college and graduate school.

My youngest went to a much less prestigious school than the rest of us (same alma mater) and she is saying that we don't want to come because it isn't prestigious enough, which is not true. We visited her other siblings more since it was our alma mater, but we would go to her graduation if it wasn't for the wedding.

Wow, just wow. GO TO THE GRADUATION. ACT LIKE YOU'RE PROUD OF YOUR DAUGHTER. Can't believe you need to ask this.

[Anonymous]

My sister was not going to attend her son's college graduation because her DH had not attended his graduation from the same university (this was in the 70's when it was uncool). I read her the riot act and told her she should be there for her son, and we had attended all HER graduations. She ended up going and enjoying herself. I think she must have Asperger's because she is a brilliant scientist but just doesn't get the social stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume this is a troll post as well ......... but if it is not, yours is a seriously fucked up family.

This.

[Anonymous]

True story: My mom chose to attend the dance recital of her 6 year old stepdaughter instead of her own daughter's college graduation. My sister and I have never forgotten this to this day.

Go to the graduation. Trust me on this. It matters a lot.

[Anonymous]

I just graduated from college, and while my parents and I were all surprised when extended family wanted to come to the ceremony, it was no question that we were all going. If my mother had chosen another event over my graduation the damage would have been irreparable. Go to the graduation.

Oh, and fwiw, my alma mater has graduation dates set through 2015, so not that far fetched for op to already know all these dates.