When do I cave to Facebook?

[Anonymous]

I let my DDget a FB account toward the end of 8th grade. She is now 16 and never goes on FB.. Only Instagram, snapchat, tumblr etc.. She said FB is out for teens so OP let your DCget a FB account, they will quickly be moving on to something else

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my view, I would not focus on "caving to Facebook." My HS kids have not used Facebook in a couple years and my college kids have not used in longer than that. If you focus on Facebook, your kids will be a step ahead of you by next month. Because the "hot" social media apps are ALWAYS changing, I would adopt a policy involving ALL social media.

I not naive enough to think that my kids have not done a a workaround but here are a few that we implemented across the board (only with HS ages and below):

1. Password is shared
2. Must "friend" me, DH or cool, hip but VERY protective Aunt.
3. Any app on any device (plus texts) is subject to inspection on demand and without notice.
4. If we find out that you have a "dummy" account for the parents, accounts must be closed and all electronic devices will be confiscated until further notice but not less than 90 days.
5. Posting of age inappropriate material - see item 4.

Educator here. You're one heck of a parent, and I applaud you! Bet you're raising some wonderful kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I allowed it when DD turned 14, with the caveat that she had to accept a friend request from me (with my promise that i wouldn't EVER comment on her wall).

Every so often I'd call her over, have her put in her password in front of me, and I'd go look through her account, to see what, if anything, she was hiding from me on there.

I feel sorry for your daughter.

+1 What you are doing is so bad for your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way in hell is my middle schooler getting a Facebook account, sorry.

If there has been anything that parenting has taught me, it is...

Never,ever say. "no way in hell"

[Anonymous]

My brother let my niece sign up just before 13. Not because she wanted to but because teachers at her magnet school used it regularly to communicate. The summer before she started that year there were a lot of assignments posted to it. And the students communicated with each other about assignments using it. She's hardly ever on it except for school related things. She's almost 14 now and is active on Instagram and Vine.