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Anonymous wrote:She stays with us a few nights a week as we live closer to where she works. The thing is, he doesn't cry like that for anyone else. DH's dad just visited for a few days and he was perfectly happy to hang out with him and has been fine with other relatives. I don't always go in and intervene, but when he is hysterical and hardly breathing because he is crying so hard, I usually go in and calm him down. There have been days he has cried for almost an hour with her while I get myself and older DS ready without me going in. Eventually he falls asleep and sleeps until they leave for daycare. She still offers him a bottle most days, but he hasn't taken more than half an ounce from her in a couple months.
The biggest issue is her not reading his cues and not listening to our advice - she holds him tightly and piles on blankets and he gets sweaty... she also never lays him down to let him stretch out and play and always insists he is tired (because all she wants to do is sit and rock him and watch Fox News).
Stop this arrangement with your mother. Just stop. You wouldn't put up with it from a provider you were paying. It's making you unhappy, and it's making the baby unhappy...you yourself put quotations around "help." You also mention you've tried for a couple months. That's long enough.
Find another arrangement, and don't think that your mother is going to become anyone other than who you know her to be already just because you had a kid.
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