My mom wants to take my DS out of town

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't disagree with those who say no to this. The only thing that gives me pause is that you allow your mother to care for your son so much, including when you go away for weekends. So, you either implicitly trust her or you are looking for a cheap way for a babysitter. Either way, if I were your mom, I might be considering saying no to your requests for help with your son's care. Again, I'm not saying give in. I'm just saying that you might need alternatives to your childcare situation.

I thought the same thing.

As you know OP, this is ultimately your decision, but don't be surprised if you ruffle feathers and step on some toes in the process.

I tend to agree with these posters. I wouldn't let my mom take my son to Miami either. It would be much simpler for your sister to come here. And I'd say that. But it does look like you are willing to use your mother's help when it's convenient for you, and I hope you are compensating her for that.

[Anonymous]

I have to concur with the last posters - it seems like you trust your mom to take care of DS during the day/weekends, etc., but then don't trust her best judgement on taking him on a trip?...granted it involves a flight and new surroundings, but if your mom feels she can handle it, then let her.

Have you expressed your concerns to your mom about the air travel with a wiggly 15 mo. old, your apprehension about dogs at your sister's place, what type of activities they'll do in Miami (I hope not sitting around at your sister's place the whole time)?

These are all valid reasons for concerns, but make sure you don't make it sound like you don't trust your mom which can be very insulting especially since you trust her when it is convenient for you (during the week, weekends, etc.).

[Anonymous]

Let the child go!! I think we all over protective with our children now. Raise your child from day 1 to be independent and not solely reliant on you for care - your mom is not a stranger and surely loves your child. I am a strong believer in raising my child to be independent and to know that there are many that love him - not just me. It is better for me and for my son. A group of people that love my son can raise him better than just me and my husband.

[Anonymous]

No way!!!! I won't be sending my daughter on any kind of trip until she can recite her name, phone number and address without hesitation.