I Resent People With Money

[Anonymous]

OP, do you really wish I would or think I should just write you a check? I understand wishing you'd win the lottery or something but to resent people with money and think they should share with you seems a little off to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you really wish I would or think I should just write you a check? I understand wishing you'd win the lottery or something but to resent people with money and think they should share with you seems a little off to me.

Do I spend my time actively thinking about it? Not normally. Do I sometimes lie awake in bed on days where my every neuron is on fire, and I'm staring into a completely unknown future? Sometimes. I do feel like giving me money is a better use of your resources than other things you might spend it on.

I don't see the need for a huge house. It takes up land that may be used for other housing to give more people shelter. It uses up a ridiculous amount of energy and natural resources, costing this nation money.

New cars I feel are only needed when your current one is no longer working, and I really do not like cars that get less than 30mpg.

Whereas I could use the money for medical treatments that would allow me to be a productive member of society. I could try a new leg brace, or buy a scooter so that I can get around my college campus easier. I could to physical therapy, or try acupuncture. I could do so many things that will help me figure out my new place in the world, and where I belong and where I can do the most good and make the most difference.

Please understand that I'm not attacking you (general you here), or how you made your money or what you spend it on. I'm merely venting and ranting about my situation, and despairing the large gap there is between you and me. I'm happy that you lead a comfortable life. I just wish that I could, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I resent people who think at the age of 22 that they have the right to judge anyone.

I resent anyone who thinks they have a clue what sacrifices I made when I was 22 to get to where I am.

I resent anyone who thinks because I have a six figure income, that my life is carefree or that I should not have any complaints.

I resent anyone who believes that they are entitled to anything.

Life is fickle, sometimes bastards are born into wealth and sometimes saints are born into poverty.

Wow -- that's a lot of resentment! Does that anger get in the way of leading a happy life for you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP if you continue to feel this way you will NEVER get out of the situation you're in. You're thinking is toxic and unproductive.

I am 47, when I was 22 I worked THREE jobs to pay my rent. Couldn't afford a bed so I slept on the floor. I saved my money, waited till I was 31 to get married. Found a great partner who shares my beliefs and who lifts me up, not drags me down. Together we have achieved a lot but in the time we NEVER felt sorry for ourselves. Stop using your health as an excuse. People with way more health issues than you have gone very far in life. Achieved a great deal financially, spiritually and personally. Try having your arms and legs blown off....

Well, good for you. Did you work your THREE jobs while having MS?

I bet you are a Republican.

Disgusting.

My 57yo DH has MS. He was diagnosed 30 years ago and is doing fine. He walks with a limp, and cannot manage long distances, but on the whole he lives a normal life and works a normal job. He hopes to work for another 10 years before retiring.

OP, I agree with the PP that at 22yo you are not the peer of most DCUM'ers. Comparing yourself financially to 30-60yos is not useful to you.

I do hope you are getting good health care - when my DH was diagnosed there was nothing to be done, but there are effective drugs available now. Be sure to seek out the best possible treatment.

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Good for him! But surely you understand that if he lost the sight in one eye for a month (like OP) or had another serious impact due to his MS, he would not be "using his health as an excuse" if he was unable to work because of it. Absolutely people with MS can live normal lives, but there are also times when MS can have such serious impacts that it can be very challenging to hold a full time job.

Look, I'm a left-leaning Democrat and have as much sympathy for OP as you do. I disagree with the "using health as an excuse" PP who sounds like an ass. But OP has two issues going here:

1. Money
2. MS

RE #1, OP is 22yo. MS or not, she should by no means expect to be as financially stable as those of us who have been working for decades. She just shouldn't, it is not realistic or reasonable and it is non-productive for her to hang out on boards with people who have been in the process of career- and asset-building for years.

RE #2, I feel for OP, my DH has MS, I GET IT. But MS is not a death sentence. It is not even a disability sentence anymore. There are lots of very effective treatments out there and OP should make use of them right now, before the MS progresses.[/quote]

I just wanted to point out that the course of MS is quite variable. Not everyone has the relapsing remitting kind with mild symptoms. Some people are quite debilitated by it. I think it's important to point this out. We don't know how the disease affects the OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you really wish I would or think I should just write you a check? I understand wishing you'd win the lottery or something but to resent people with money and think they should share with you seems a little off to me.

Do I spend my time actively thinking about it? Not normally. Do I sometimes lie awake in bed on days where my every neuron is on fire, and I'm staring into a completely unknown future? Sometimes. I do feel like giving me money is a better use of your resources than other things you might spend it on.

I don't see the need for a huge house. It takes up land that may be used for other housing to give more people shelter. It uses up a ridiculous amount of energy and natural resources, costing this nation money.

New cars I feel are only needed when your current one is no longer working, and I really do not like cars that get less than 30mpg.

Whereas I could use the money for medical treatments that would allow me to be a productive member of society. I could try a new leg brace, or buy a scooter so that I can get around my college campus easier. I could to physical therapy, or try acupuncture. I could do so many things that will help me figure out my new place in the world, and where I belong and where I can do the most good and make the most difference.

Please understand that I'm not attacking you (general you here), or how you made your money or what you spend it on. I'm merely venting and ranting about my situation, and despairing the large gap there is between you and me. I'm happy that you lead a comfortable life. I just wish that I could, too.

I totally understand everything you are saying and you make a very convincing case for what Americans call "socialized medicine". We are a very selfish society for leaving people with chronic health conditions to fend for themselves like this.

BTW, if you do want to try acupuncture there are a few "pay as much as you can" community acupuncture clinics in the area. There is one in Adams Morgan and another in Silver Spring. Here's the link to the Adams Morgan one (which I think has a waiting list): http://www.littlebirddc.com/ Looks like this is the one in Silver Spring: http://www.ourspaceacupuncture.org/index.html

[Anonymous]

Wow, people here already advertising and selling services to get money out of you.
Google best bet diet for ms. It is restrictive gluten free diet with a lot of supplements, but some claim it has helped them


Find out what you need to study to be able to get residency in the uk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you really wish I would or think I should just write you a check? I understand wishing you'd win the lottery or something but to resent people with money and think they should share with you seems a little off to me.

Do I spend my time actively thinking about it? Not normally. Do I sometimes lie awake in bed on days where my every neuron is on fire, and I'm staring into a completely unknown future? Sometimes. I do feel like giving me money is a better use of your resources than other things you might spend it on.

I don't see the need for a huge house. It takes up land that may be used for other housing to give more people shelter. It uses up a ridiculous amount of energy and natural resources, costing this nation money.

New cars I feel are only needed when your current one is no longer working, and I really do not like cars that get less than 30mpg.

Whereas I could use the money for medical treatments that would allow me to be a productive member of society. I could try a new leg brace, or buy a scooter so that I can get around my college campus easier. I could to physical therapy, or try acupuncture. I could do so many things that will help me figure out my new place in the world, and where I belong and where I can do the most good and make the most difference.

Please understand that I'm not attacking you (general you here), or how you made your money or what you spend it on. I'm merely venting and ranting about my situation, and despairing the large gap there is between you and me. I'm happy that you lead a comfortable life. I just wish that I could, too.[/qu


People can live whatever lives they want as long as they have money. This is a free country. Sorry that you have money problem and health issue.

[Anonymous]

Oop, if your college is paid for, then transfer to a university in UK. A study abroad thing, you will not have to worry about healthcare costs and will be able to try out all the treatments.
And don't come back

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry OP, that you have MS! I would not wish that on my worst enemy.
And I fully support your right to vent loudly on DCUM.
Of course you know yourself that PPs are right, and that there is nothing to be done but fight through it, however unfair it is.
You should wean yourself off DCUM and choose another profession, because it is probably that spoiled moneyed atmosphere that throws you off.

My mother's first MS crisis (blindness, like you), occurred at 26. Luckily, hers is the slow-developing kind, and at 62 she can still walk around but not use her hands for any detailed work (writing, cooking, etc).
She was fortunate to meet my father, who supported her all her life. They were quite poor in their 20s, and we lived in a dingy studio apartment for the first 3 years of my life. Then life was good to them, mainly through my father's hard work.

You are in the significantly more difficult position of paying and caring for your own self.
Please join a local MS network - it will work wonders for your mental health!

Big hugs, and best of luck to you!!!

Just want to say that my mom also has MS and her symptoms started in her 20s. She got the temporary blindness and it went away without any medication. She refuses to take anything for MS but is very health conscious and doesn't eat sugars, artificial ingredients, alcohol, etc. She is 65 years old and walks very slowly and gets pain/numbness but is ok thankfully. It is very important to reduce stress. She is very spiritual and just doesn't stress over the small stuff. There is hope, and there is a lot you can do to help yourself through your eating and lifestyle. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

OP: Try to do what most women on this thread have done......marry rich and then you too can spend all day posting on DCUM without a worry in the world about the money part!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you really wish I would or think I should just write you a check? I understand wishing you'd win the lottery or something but to resent people with money and think they should share with you seems a little off to me.

Do I spend my time actively thinking about it? Not normally. Do I sometimes lie awake in bed on days where my every neuron is on fire, and I'm staring into a completely unknown future? Sometimes. I do feel like giving me money is a better use of your resources than other things you might spend it on.

I don't see the need for a huge house. It takes up land that may be used for other housing to give more people shelter. It uses up a ridiculous amount of energy and natural resources, costing this nation money.

New cars I feel are only needed when your current one is no longer working, and I really do not like cars that get less than 30mpg.

Whereas I could use the money for medical treatments that would allow me to be a productive member of society. I could try a new leg brace, or buy a scooter so that I can get around my college campus easier. I could to physical therapy, or try acupuncture. I could do so many things that will help me figure out my new place in the world, and where I belong and where I can do the most good and make the most difference.

Please understand that I'm not attacking you (general you here), or how you made your money or what you spend it on. I'm merely venting and ranting about my situation, and despairing the large gap there is between you and me. I'm happy that you lead a comfortable life. I just wish that I could, too.

I think you'd be better off praying/wishing for good health or rallying for better healthcare than seeking better ways for your neighbors to spend their money. It's just unhealthy and certainly unproductive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hear you, OP. There is a quality called, "greatfullness," I think, that is severely lacking around here. People pissing and moaning about "choices" that the vast majority of us will never have.....

There's also one called "gratitude." I feel it when I read these posts and think about my education.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you really wish I would or think I should just write you a check? I understand wishing you'd win the lottery or something but to resent people with money and think they should share with you seems a little off to me.

Do I spend my time actively thinking about it? Not normally. Do I sometimes lie awake in bed on days where my every neuron is on fire, and I'm staring into a completely unknown future? Sometimes. I do feel like giving me money is a better use of your resources than other things you might spend it on.

I don't see the need for a huge house. It takes up land that may be used for other housing to give more people shelter. It uses up a ridiculous amount of energy and natural resources, costing this nation money.

New cars I feel are only needed when your current one is no longer working, and I really do not like cars that get less than 30mpg.

Whereas I could use the money for medical treatments that would allow me to be a productive member of society. I could try a new leg brace, or buy a scooter so that I can get around my college campus easier. I could to physical therapy, or try acupuncture. I could do so many things that will help me figure out my new place in the world, and where I belong and where I can do the most good and make the most difference.

Please understand that I'm not attacking you (general you here), or how you made your money or what you spend it on. I'm merely venting and ranting about my situation, and despairing the large gap there is between you and me. I'm happy that you lead a comfortable life. I just wish that I could, too.

OP, I am giving you a hug through the computer. When you have a good day, do try an reach out for support through some of the suggestions here. XO

[Anonymous]

You sound depressed to me. I have a permanent physical disability for which there is no cure. My health is ina downward spiral at the moment, I need surgery that will leave me bed ridden for at least a month. Depression is very common with people who have my conditions , we feel cheated at a normal life, just when things are going well we get sick, and the money it costs is insane.

Hang in there. If you are on DCUM you have access to the Internet, search for local government services such as free medical care, job services, etc. contest your unemployment benefits denial. make getting a job and help your full time job.

get off this forum, take control of your life. You can absolutely do it! When I was born the drs told my parents to put me in an institution and wait for me to die, that I was a burden on society, it was the only right thing to do. I put myself through college and grad school, have a doctorate degree. I paid off my student loans, my house, my car, my wedding, and the IVF to make sure my kids wouldn't inherit my disease. There are tons of times I feel down, that no one who is healthy understands, but then I look in the mirro, get out of bed and get going. This isn't a socialist society. I take care of me!

Go kick some ass!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I resent people who think at the age of 22 that they have the right to judge anyone.

I resent anyone who thinks they have a clue what sacrifices I made when I was 22 to get to where I am.

I resent anyone who thinks because I have a six figure income, that my life is carefree or that I should not have any complaints.

I resent anyone who believes that they are entitled to anything.

Life is fickle, sometimes bastards are born into wealth and sometimes saints are born into poverty.

Wow -- that's a lot of resentment! Does that anger get in the way of leading a happy life for you?

I was thinking the same thing.

Then again, OP worrying about other people's cars and homes is also a bit scary.