Marital red state/blue state divide

[Anonymous]

'the job' meaning, nothing should be about equal opportunity, gender parity and diversity.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's America, not American. UGH! Must be perim-menopause - HA!

It's "peri-menopause", not "perim-menopause", conservative lady.

Yep, clearly, I need to type slower.

[Anonymous]

Or "more slowly" - LOL. There I go again!

[Anonymous]

OP it sounds like he has too much time on his hands or needs a hobby. Could you refocus his prepping activities into something more productive? Maybe he could start growing food in a garden, learn how to do canning, install solar panels or compost. This is less dangerous than stockpiling weapons and would at least reduce your grocery bills/electricity bills. The composting would get him to take out the trash and do the dishes. You could suggest that he dig a well, that could keep him busy for a while.

I saw my mother go through something similar though not with prepping. Both my parents were conservatives but not crazy ones until the youngest left for college. My mother became one of those obnoxious, crazy conservatives that is always blaming everyone else, terrified and hateful toward anyone other than people just like her and everything that came out of her mouth lacked any logic. I think it was a combination of having nothing to do all day but watch Fox News and Rush Limbaugh, losing your filter as you get older, and just generally being really unhappy about life but not wanting to take responsibility for it. My father simply found it amusing and since he leaned in that direction and never really paid any attention to what she thought or said anyway it didn't bother him.

[Anonymous]

PP, your mother simply woke up. How do I know? Since you are the one essentially calling her nuts, your mind is the one that is closed

[Anonymous]

This thread is fascinating. It sort of predicts the angry Trump voter before Trump the candidate existed.

[Anonymous]

This is a difficult spot for you. I think our current political environment discourages conversation and instead encourages picking a side and sticking it to it and defending it to death. For the first time ever, people seem to care one way or another when in the past politics could be pretty boring. It's extremely divisive now and it's hard to remain moderate. People think you are weak and discount you if you concede any minor point to the other side.

Really hoping that this has an expiration date.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, this is happening to me, too. Moderate Dem married (then) moderate Republican. Both early 50s but with teens still at home. We lived through Bush and Obama in relative peace, but Trump triggered something in him. He didn't even like him when Kasich was in the race, but nowadays he defends even the least-defensible of the man's actions and words.

We can't watch the news together anymore. The few times we have, I have to declare total silence. Our kids clearly feel caught in the middle, even though we have attempted detente (but he just can't help but interject his views--plus I know he talks to them privately).

The comments about middle-age male crisis make sense. He fits the profile for sure.

Still, it's really awful. I know it's sort of perverse, but I'd feel better if I knew I weren't alone. Anyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, this is happening to me, too. Moderate Dem married (then) moderate Republican. Both early 50s but with teens still at home. We lived through Bush and Obama in relative peace, but Trump triggered something in him. He didn't even like him when Kasich was in the race, but nowadays he defends even the least-defensible of the man's actions and words.

We can't watch the news together anymore. The few times we have, I have to declare total silence. Our kids clearly feel caught in the middle, even though we have attempted detente (but he just can't help but interject his views--plus I know he talks to them privately).

The comments about middle-age male crisis make sense. He fits the profile for sure.

Still, it's really awful. I know it's sort of perverse, but I'd feel better if I knew I weren't alone. Anyone?

Sadly, you are not alone.

[Anonymous]

White boys always get a pass. OP, you may need a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Liberals are such unhappy people. They simply cannot regulate their control freak tendencies and are inevitably dissapointed by reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP it sounds like he has too much time on his hands or needs a hobby. Could you refocus his prepping activities into something more productive? Maybe he could start growing food in a garden, learn how to do canning, install solar panels or compost. This is less dangerous than stockpiling weapons and would at least reduce your grocery bills/electricity bills. The composting would get him to take out the trash and do the dishes. You could suggest that he dig a well, that could keep him busy for a while.

This. I wonder if he is trying to have a sense of control and protection? It's better to prep by growing food or making things yourself, or collecting water in rain barrels to garden with. Or take up a hobby like canning, or fementing or beer making. It really sounds like he needs a hobby related to prepping, but that us useful right now and would provide some sort of interest or community. Lots of cool solar gadgets now.

That way he could "prep" and learn skills to survive, not just be paranoid with supplies. And, have a hobby.

For example: A prepper was losing his house to foreclosre so decided to donate all his hoarded prep to Puerto Rico. Saw him on the news and felt sorry for him, it was medical bills that ultimately did him in, not some sort of doomsday. http://newyork.cbslocal.com/2017/10/09/doomsday-prepper-puerto-rico/

Good luck OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you trying to win an argument with your DH? I don't understand how is he prepping without a self sufficient homestead? Sounds like both of you spend a lot of time talking or complaining. Are you? We live in peace in a conservative-liberal household.

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Anonymous wrote:Liberals are such unhappy people. They simply cannot regulate their control freak tendencies and are inevitably dissapointed by reality.

What does this comment relate to, and what does it mean?

It seems to be a random assertion. Am I missing something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Liberals are such unhappy people. They simply cannot regulate their control freak tendencies and are inevitably dissapointed by reality.

What does this comment relate to, and what does it mean?

It seems to be a random assertion. Am I missing something?

I too am confused. The Prepping behavior is what seems uber control freaky.