If you're a very sexual person - how do you and SO have couple friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I am NOT a cheater. I am a very sexual person though, and whenever I've had a male friend, it has always led to sex. When in a relationship, I stay away from other males to avoid temptation and feeling that excitement of getting to know an attractive male. I don't know how to just be friends with a male and not feel that excitement or the desire to be flirty. SO and I have been to dinner with couple friends but I find it awkward and would rather just hang out with him alone, or girlfriends.
Can anyone relate to this or offer advice?

OP is taking advantage of the fact that a woman can have sex anytime she wants. Do you know how many guys would love to ha e sex with their female friends? She is living a man's dream.

This is a total lie. Married female, and I'm lucky if I get it once a week. I assure you I'd like it much more often than that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I am NOT a cheater. I am a very sexual person though, and whenever I've had a male friend, it has always led to sex. When in a relationship, I stay away from other males to avoid temptation and feeling that excitement of getting to know an attractive male. I don't know how to just be friends with a male and not feel that excitement or the desire to be flirty. SO and I have been to dinner with couple friends but I find it awkward and would rather just hang out with him alone, or girlfriends.
Can anyone relate to this or offer advice?

OP is taking advantage of the fact that a woman can have sex anytime she wants. Do you know how many guys would love to ha e sex with their female friends? She is living a man's dream.

This is a total lie. Married female, and I'm lucky if I get it once a week. I assure you I'd like it much more often than that.

To Married female who's not getting enough at home. I guarantee that if you dropped a hint to any male you know, 9 times out of 10, they'd bone you.

[Anonymous]

OP - I don't know how to fix your problem, but I can tell you that you are not the only person like this. My wife and I have a couple we are friends with and the wife is super sexual/flirty with men she's around- especially me and especially once the wine is flowing. My wife notices. She's a little weirded out, but chalks it up to the wine. However, I have been around her in other situations with other men and she's got a thing for guys she's close to - especially at work.

I have no idea if she's cheating, but she definitely gets to the line by sitting in laps and touching and such. She did disappear upstairs during one get together with a married coworker/friend at a party a their house and I swear something went on.

The husban is great, loves us - we love them, but I can tell sometimes we don't talk to them for a few weeks after she gets a little sauced and starts getting too close to guys.

It's a thing - probably that need to feel the rush of the beginning of a relationship. I like that feeling too, but since I'm bad about sleeping with women who are not my wife and I hate myself for doing it, I really stay away from relationships with women if I can. It never ends with a wave goodbye... if you know what I mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I am NOT a cheater. I am a very sexual person though, and whenever I've had a male friend, it has always led to sex. When in a relationship, I stay away from other males to avoid temptation and feeling that excitement of getting to know an attractive male. I don't know how to just be friends with a male and not feel that excitement or the desire to be flirty. SO and I have been to dinner with couple friends but I find it awkward and would rather just hang out with him alone, or girlfriends.
Can anyone relate to this or offer advice?

OP is taking advantage of the fact that a woman can have sex anytime she wants. Do you know how many guys would love to ha e sex with their female friends? She is living a man's dream.

This is a total lie. Married female, and I'm lucky if I get it once a week. I assure you I'd like it much more often than that.

To Married female who's not getting enough at home. I guarantee that if you dropped a hint to any male you know, 9 times out of 10, they'd bone you.

I know this is not the topic at hand but this really bothers me- some of you seem to think it is just so easy, that women alone hold all the power and can have sex anytime they want. It simply is just not the case...

signed
a single female

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I am NOT a cheater. I am a very sexual person though, and whenever I've had a male friend, it has always led to sex. When in a relationship, I stay away from other males to avoid temptation and feeling that excitement of getting to know an attractive male. I don't know how to just be friends with a male and not feel that excitement or the desire to be flirty. SO and I have been to dinner with couple friends but I find it awkward and would rather just hang out with him alone, or girlfriends.
Can anyone relate to this or offer advice?

OP is taking advantage of the fact that a woman can have sex anytime she wants. Do you know how many guys would love to ha e sex with their female friends? She is living a man's dream.

This is a total lie. Married female, and I'm lucky if I get it once a week. I assure you I'd like it much more often than that.

To Married female who's not getting enough at home. I guarantee that if you dropped a hint to any male you know, 9 times out of 10, they'd bone you.

I know this is not the topic at hand but this really bothers me- some of you seem to think it is just so easy, that women alone hold all the power and can have sex anytime they want. It simply is just not the case...

signed
a single female

It's not as easy as we think, but I imagine it's easier than you think -- if we're just talking about sex and if you're willing to initiate in a relatively direct kind of way. Certainly I woman is going to have better luck asking 10 strangers "wanna go have sex?" than a man would.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I am NOT a cheater. I am a very sexual person though, and whenever I've had a male friend, it has always led to sex. When in a relationship, I stay away from other males to avoid temptation and feeling that excitement of getting to know an attractive male. I don't know how to just be friends with a male and not feel that excitement or the desire to be flirty. SO and I have been to dinner with couple friends but I find it awkward and would rather just hang out with him alone, or girlfriends.
Can anyone relate to this or offer advice?

I know this is not the topic at hand but this really bothers me- some of you seem to think it is just so easy, that women alone hold all the power and can have sex anytime they want. It simply is just not the case...

signed
a single female

POst your email and I gaurantee someone will be humping you by midnight. Maybe even me.

[Anonymous]

"POst your email and I gaurantee someone will be humping you by midnight. Maybe even me. "

this...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I am NOT a cheater. I am a very sexual person though, and whenever I've had a male friend, it has always led to sex. When in a relationship, I stay away from other males to avoid temptation and feeling that excitement of getting to know an attractive male. I don't know how to just be friends with a male and not feel that excitement or the desire to be flirty. SO and I have been to dinner with couple friends but I find it awkward and would rather just hang out with him alone, or girlfriends.
Can anyone relate to this or offer advice?

OP is taking advantage of the fact that a woman can have sex anytime she wants. Do you know how many guys would love to ha e sex with their female friends? She is living a man's dream.

This is a total lie. Married female, and I'm lucky if I get it once a week. I assure you I'd like it much more often than that.

To Married female who's not getting enough at home. I guarantee that if you dropped a hint to any male you know, 9 times out of 10, they'd bone you.

I know this is not the topic at hand but this really bothers me- some of you seem to think it is just so easy, that women alone hold all the power and can have sex anytime they want. It simply is just not the case...

signed
a single female

It's not as easy as we think, but I imagine it's easier than you think -- if we're just talking about sex and if you're willing to initiate in a relatively direct kind of way. Certainly I woman is going to have better luck asking 10 strangers "wanna go have sex?" than a man would.

You have a point. As a single women I don't think asking complete strangers is the way to go, even if I am looking for something that is just physical. My point is human interaction is much more complicated than approaching strange dudes for sex, I am sure I would have some takers in that scenario- but I could also end up in someone's trunk never to be seen again. Women have to be somewhat more cautious about selecting random mates I guess. So in theory it is easier- but how does one take advantage of that without being labeled "easy"?

[Anonymous]

midnight eh...I will have to think about that one!

Maybe I am just too cautious but I set up an encounter online (through a different site) and I had a contingency plan in case I never came back (I was seriously convinced this person had a sex dungeon and if I was "bad" I might not be let out again!!)

Sorry now I have really derailed this thread!!

[Anonymous]

"My point is human interaction is much more complicated than approaching strange dudes for sex, I am sure I would have some takers in that scenario- but I could also end up in someone's trunk never to be seen again. Women have to be somewhat more cautious about selecting random mates I guess. So in theory it is easier- but how does one take advantage of that without being labeled "easy"? "

Use the buddy system.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I'm genuinely curious...why would this way of thinking make me insecure? I'm willing to look into this possibility if most people don't have this issue.

[Anonymous]

You have no way to relate to men non-sexually. This is not healthy or normal. Do you have any female friends? Does the thought of hurting their feelings by acting inappropriately towards their spouses not give you pause?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have no way to relate to men non-sexually. This is not healthy or normal. Do you have any female friends? Does the thought of hurting their feelings by acting inappropriately towards their spouses not give you pause?

I think you're having a hard time reading or understanding my post. I do not cheat or sleep with men who are spoken for. My point is that I intentionally avoid certain situations.

I do have girlfriends and feel at ease with them because there is no sexual attraction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

To Married female who's not getting enough at home. I guarantee that if you dropped a hint to any male you know, 9 times out of 10, they'd bone you.

I know this is not the topic at hand but this really bothers me- some of you seem to think it is just so easy, that women alone hold all the power and can have sex anytime they want. It simply is just not the case...

signed
a single female

[Anonymous]

FLIRTING is inappropriate, OP. You aren't exactly in the clear just because you don't fuck your friends' husbands. The fact that you avoid *couple friends* bc you can't control yourself and behave within social norms is not normal or healthy.