If you're a very sexual person - how do you and SO have couple friends?

[Anonymous]

I don't get this- and I don't get a lot of the responses. I have a bunch of male friends that are 100% platonic (generally I am close with their wife/gf/ whatever too if they are attached, which most of the people I know now are), if I were single and they were I would probably be willing to date a lot of them/sleep with them, but that just doesn't compute when these men are in the context of good friendships! I see them more as my surrogate family than a possible person to cheat with! I think it boils down not to how sexual you are (bc I love and have tons of it!) or how attractive the man is (some responses seem to focus on this too much- I have plenty of attractive friends) but how you relate to men in general- there is more than one way to relate to men!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I am NOT a cheater. I am a very sexual person though, and whenever I've had a male friend, it has always led to sex. When in a relationship, I stay away from other males to avoid temptation and feeling that excitement of getting to know an attractive male. I don't know how to just be friends with a male and not feel that excitement or the desire to be flirty. SO and I have been to dinner with couple friends but I find it awkward and would rather just hang out with him alone, or girlfriends.
Can anyone relate to this or offer advice?

You think like a typical male.

[Anonymous]

Going the other way, I tend to avoid friendships with women. I don't repress sexual thoughts about them; I simply don't act on those thoughts in any way. Nor am I tempted to. Because I'm not going to have sex with them, I don't crave their affection or approval. I seek those things from my wife.

Avoiding friendships with them is not usually difficult because, so often, we simply do not share common interests to any great degree.

[Anonymous]

I understand avoiding friendships with the opposite sex in favor of boundaries and to remove any possible temptation, but the question is about "couple friends" which seems very different to me.

[Anonymous]

I'll bet you have Daddy issues. No offense! I did. My Dad did a number on me and my sister. The key is you realize your tendencies, and you don't put yourself in a position to act on them. Good for you and keep doing that.

[Anonymous]

sounds like a mental illnessm or brain damange. i have heard stroke victims who have had partial brian damage or blockage to certain parts of the brain can experience this.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like textbook sex addiction. I love how people write it off as being "very sexual" like it's a higher plane of existence and not a psychological problem.

[Anonymous]

What about married women who flirt with the wives. Yuck. Stay away from us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me preface this by saying I am NOT a cheater. I am a very sexual person though, and whenever I've had a male friend, it has always led to sex. When in a relationship, I stay away from other males to avoid temptation and feeling that excitement of getting to know an attractive male. I don't know how to just be friends with a male and not feel that excitement or the desire to be flirty. SO and I have been to dinner with couple friends but I find it awkward and would rather just hang out with him alone, or girlfriends.
Can anyone relate to this or offer advice?

OP is taking advantage of the fact that a woman can have sex anytime she wants. Do you know how many guys would love to ha e sex with their female friends? She is living a man's dream.

[Anonymous]

There seem to be some real issues here with impulse control, OP.

This most def does not sound "normal" to me.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you're a "very sexual" person. I think you're a promiscuous person, if you've had sex with every guy you've ever been friends with. This sounds like a serious issue - not normal.

[Anonymous]

Yes to sex addiction. See slaa.org
Sexual abuse can underlie the type of thinking and behavior op presents. You lack insight and self esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like textbook sex addiction. I love how people write it off as being "very sexual" like it's a higher plane of existence and not a psychological problem.

Yes pp again. Sex addiction for sure. In addition to slaa look at work of Patrick Carnes.

[Anonymous]

She should totally cover her face and body in black cloths and steer clear from the agora for sure.

[Anonymous]

Hey baby, what's your sign?