17 year-old DD invited to coed sleepover

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's 17. If she's gonna have sex, she's gonna have sex. But I'm guessing she's not gonna have it in front of all her friends.

Time to snip those apron strings, Mom.

I don't know. Kids today are pretty ... expressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's 17. If she's gonna have sex, she's gonna have sex. But I'm guessing she's not gonna have it in front of all her friends.

Yeah, and I'm sure the house she's going to is a one-room shack where everyone is in view of each other at all times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coed sleepover?

Reminds me of NFTY.

Haha. I was in NFTY-MAR and this reminds me of that too.

I was in JFTY. I hear that CYO wasn't any different.

[Anonymous]

No way, sounds like a bad idea.

[Anonymous]

I did these all the time... in college. Only a year older but... it was college.

I'd have her wait till college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coed sleepover?

Reminds me of NFTY.

Haha. I was in NFTY-MAR and this reminds me of that too.

I was a NFTY advisor. As long as no one gets pregnant, it's probably fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the people here who had the co-ed sleep overs: be honest, you weren't likely to have sex anyway, right? I mean I doubt you had sexual relationships period in HS so it was a non issue. Let's face it, it depends on the kid. You know if your DS or DH is likely to engage in high risk behavior or not. I graduated from one of the more liberal coed (sorry big 3) HS in DC in the early 80's. No way were there any co-ed playmates condoned by parents who's kid's were "date-able". Not to be harsh but, the fat, pimply nice guys and girls could sleep in the same room all night and nothing could ever happen.

I'm the "one to a sleeping bag" poster and I agree that nothing would've ever happened in my group of friends, because we just weren't going to have sex. We didn't do drugs, we didn't sneak alcohol, and we weren't the kids our parents worried about. For the record, we also weren't "fat and pimply". One of my friends was the school's track star. He just didn't need to sleep around and do drugs to be "cool".

[Anonymous]

Why not use this as a good way to make sure your daughter is fully informed and has access to good birth control. That way you can help her make good decisions.

Daughter: what so you think about a coed sleep over.
If he says its fine. Then you can say. Ok. Well let's discuss
Birth control and your need to be a responsible teen and adult if you choose to have sex.

Do you know where to buy condoms? We have put some
Under the sink for you. If you decide to have sex
Always make sure the boy has a condom on.
Only when your in a long term committed relationship
Should you discuss otherwise.

And if she tells you she is old enough to know.
Then you can talk about a gyn appt. so she can
Discuss birth control and make well informed decisions

This from a dh who slept with most every high school
Gf and plenty in college. I knew about using condoms.
Always had them available if needed and never ever
Had to worry about pregnancy. And most girls
We're on birth control by 9th grade for both cycle regularity and safety.

Sex is fun, teach your kids to be safe and then
You don't need to worry.

[Anonymous]

I would not be surprised if some co ed sleep overs end up with a few people having sex.
As others have said, if they want to have sex, they will, whether there's a sleep over or not.

Just be sure your kid is as safe as possible. Pretty soon she'll probably be at college where she can have all the sex she wants. Get her on the pill NOW.