Can't stand SIL and her brats!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get there early, claim your room and the king for your parents-in-law, then set up some cameras a la Big Brother so we can all watch what happens.

Love you!

I agree with this. If you want to be nice bring an extra air matress to give to her family in case her kids can't share a bed.

[Anonymous]

No way would I go along with this, OP. Time for DH to grow a pair and figure this out.

[Anonymous]

Absoultely not. It is not appropriate for children to take the nicer accomodations and adults to be made uncomfortable. Kids can sleep anywhere, on an air mattress for goodness sakes. Not to mention if you and your husband want some romantic time. This is a VACATION for you too.

I would decline. I would get a hotel. I didn't see if you actually paid anything for this cabin. But if you did, I would insist on the rooms being divided fairly. If you didn't I would get a hotel if you can't have a nice accomodation. And I would never, ever vacation with that selfish b*tch again. Make your own time to visit the elderly in laws.

[Anonymous]

Agree with a pp tell your DH to get some balls and tell his brother that this is not going to work.

Or why dont you stop being passive agressive and posting this on a discussion board and tell her NO.

Speak up or dont expect different results.

[Anonymous]

OP, have you shared this thread with your husband? What does he say? I'm curious because we have a similar dynamic in our family and my DH just CANNOT see it. He assumes the best in everyonen and can't see how biting some of his family members are!

[Anonymous]

OP, I think first priority is to get you and DH on the same page. Is DH with you on this or is he passive like his parents?

Kids can sleep anywhere. They are kids. A fun night for them is sleeping on the floor in a disney sleeping bag and not bathing regularly. They don't need preferential room treatment.

[Anonymous]

This reminded me of when I studied abroad. We were put into an apartment with this super rich entitled girl. There were 5 people and three bedrooms. One bedroom had a private bath. The rich girl got the bedroom with its own bathroom (and patio!). While my roommate and I slept in a glorified closet and FOUR of us shared one bathroom.

I should have stuck up for us and the RIDICULOUSNESS that the arrangement was. I was a pushover and didn't.

Don't make the same mistake I did. Entitled people suck. Stand up for your family. And please come back to the thread and let us know how the vacation goes!

[Anonymous]

OP - PLEASE let us know how this turns out. If you want, I am sure there's an army of DCUMers ready to march on that cabin to back you up.

[Anonymous]

OP, please, please, please come back and tell us A. what you did and B. the outcome.

[Anonymous]

WTH is wrong with this woman? Usually these posts are petty but I am sitting here shaking my head...thinking..how in her mind is this possibly even or fair or acceptable???

[Anonymous]

Oh dear god.

[Anonymous]

You know it's bad when DCUM is unanimous in its condemnation. OP, I second the request to let us know what happens. If it blows up, I suggest you print this thread out and hand it to your SIL (Note: SIL, you are a twatwaffle) on your way out the door.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

Ok, thanks for the replies and support. I texted my SIL and asked if we could have a phone conversation tonight. She had her husband ask my husband, and my husband is such a peacemaker he was like, "Yeah, whatever." However, I obviously is. It ok with this, and am going to try to be civil and fair with her, I need to be straightforward but I'm trying so hard. It to start anything for my DH and MIL sake.

To answer a few questions.
Yes, my DH and I did pay, as did my BIL and his wife. My MIL/FIL paid for about 50% and our two families have evenly split 25%. So obviously my PIL should have every final say, and I hate to start trouble as this is a gift to us.

[Anonymous]

OP again.

Yes, I know I've allowed her to behave like this, but I really don't feel like I have the right to say anything sometimes. I know she irritates my DH, but he doesn't want to sour his relationship with his brother.

[Anonymous]

There's a difference between making trouble and calmly explaining that this doesn't work for you. If she chooses to make trouble out of it, that's her issue. You're doing nothing wrong.