Can't stand SIL and her brats!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get there early, claim your room and the king for your parents-in-law, then set up some cameras a la Big Brother so we can all watch what happens.

Love you!

[Anonymous]

Get to the cabin first and "move in". That's what I would do.

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I agree with PP to just laugh and calmly say that a sleeping arrangement needs to be figured out by everyone. No way do adults yield to kids in terms of preference for bed size. And if that's the way it's going to be, then find out where the nearest motel is and book a room or two.

Let us know what happens, OP, and good luck!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP to just laugh and calmly say that a sleeping arrangement needs to be figured out by everyone. No way do adults yield to kids in terms of preference for bed size. And if that's the way it's going to be, then find out where the nearest motel is and book a room or two.

Let us know what happens, OP, and good luck!!!

This. Who the hell does things like what your SIL is doing?? WTF is wrong people?
Don't let her bully you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP to just laugh and calmly say that a sleeping arrangement needs to be figured out by everyone. No way do adults yield to kids in terms of preference for bed size. And if that's the way it's going to be, then find out where the nearest motel is and book a room or two.

Let us know what happens, OP, and good luck!!!

This. Who the hell does things like what your SIL is doing?? WTF is wrong people?
Don't let her bully you.

OP here.

She's just a bitch. I told some girlfriends about her antics, and when they finally met her they told me I was too reserved about my feelings towards her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yep, another Holiday rant!

We are spending a week in one large cabin with my DH, two DC (who are 2 and 5), my MIL/FIL, BIL and his wife and kids. I actually like my in-laws. My MIL and FIL are more like my parents than my actual parents are (rocky childhood). My BIL, my husbands younger brother, is nice, but a pushover. His wife and children are HORRIBLE! His wife is the most self centered, spoiled, arrogant, lazy and whiney person. I try to bite my tounge, but I've never disliked a person as I do her, and her children (11, 8 and 4) are just brats. Ungrateful, disrespectful, mean kids. The only reason I agreed to this vacation is for my inlaws, they are older and soon traveling won't be realistic. I tried to be optimistic but tonight my husband informed me that my SIL has claimed two of the master bedrooms in the cabin. The cabin has four bedrooms, a king, two queens and then a room with two fulls. The plan was that my inlaws get the king, my DH and I get a queen, my BIL and his wife get a king and the four oldest kids share a room (my two-year-old can sleep with us). Well she said her kids don't want to share a bed, whatever, there is a pullout couch. Nope, she decided she and my BIL get the king because it has a larger bathroom and she gets carsick (I guess she thinks we are staying in a mobile cabin?) and that her kids will have the queen, and my inlaws the other queen. She asked if my husband and I could share a full, and then my sons could share the other twins....you know, cause her family is bigger they get two huge ass beds. My family is stuck in the kids room. I'm so pissed, my husband doesn't want me to start anything, but I will NOT be pushed around by her and her kids, and I will not allow her to treat my inlaws like that, since they foot the majority of the bill.

How should I approach this without starting world war III in our cabin? I looked up to see if my family can rent a small cabin nearby but nothing is vacant.

You realize that just because she asked doesn't mean you have to do it, right? You simply needed to say "no". Your are the cause of your own problem.

[Anonymous]

So there's
1 K sleeps 2
1 Q sleeps 2
1 Q sleeps 2

and then one room with 2 full sleeps 4 total?

They have 3 kids... and the deal is that their girls don't want to share a full sized bed.... they think the older girls (11 and 8) are too big to comfortable sleep in the full sized bed together... they need a queen? Or the older girls don't want to share a room with the little kids? What's the rationale, exactly?

So they are saying that they get a K room for parents; and put their 11 and 8 year old in the other Queen... and what happens to their little boy?

And then they want you to share the room with 2 fulls with your two children? Since you probably would be sleeping with your younger one anyhow... ?

I would counter with... that's not going to work for us. How about we take the Queen, and you let your girls sleep one each in the full beds, and our Marcie will bring an air mattress so no one has to share a bed?

[Anonymous]

PP again -- oh wait, you have 2 boys and she has 2 girls and a boy.

Is the issue that the older girls aren't wild about sharing with the younger boys? Could the girls each have their own full bed, and the two boys sleep on air mattresses in the living room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP again -- oh wait, you have 2 boys and she has 2 girls and a boy.

Is the issue that the older girls aren't wild about sharing with the younger boys? Could the girls each have their own full bed, and the two boys sleep on air mattresses in the living room?

They didn't explain. I have no problem with my son staying with us, but making my inlaws sleep in a queen and my entire family sleep on two fulls? While they get a queen and king. It's just one thing that will turn into a thousand more, to prove she and her children are better, or at least deserve better.

[Anonymous]

Ok...bedsharing? Gross. Room sharing ok, but bedsharing is not necessary.

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Anonymous wrote:Ok...bedsharing? Gross. Room sharing ok, but bedsharing is not necessary.

The girls can share a damn bed, they are siblings. If. It their are tons of couches.

[Anonymous]

The same thing happened to us this Thanksgiving (out of town). We got kicked out of our guest room for SIL's kids to sleepover (they are local). We were relegated to a lopsided mattress on a full size bed. We tried to put our foot down, but the passive aggressiveness eventually wore us down.

I feel like we do get stronger each visit. Eventually we will be able to stand up to them.

I love my inlaws. I love my SIL. But, the dynamics are insane. It is a blended family, and MIL and SIL rule like tyrants. Poor DH. He grew up in the mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The same thing happened to us this Thanksgiving (out of town). We got kicked out of our guest room for SIL's kids to sleepover (they are local). We were relegated to a lopsided mattress on a full size bed. We tried to put our foot down, but the passive aggressiveness eventually wore us down.

I feel like we do get stronger each visit. Eventually we will be able to stand up to them.

I love my inlaws. I love my SIL. But, the dynamics are insane. It is a blended family, and MIL and SIL rule like tyrants. Poor DH. He grew up in the mess.

I will never understand when adults put a child's wishes over an adults.

[Anonymous]

OP, people treat you how you allow them to. Just say no. Stand up for yourself. Make a big goddamn stink if need be. Life is too short to let bullies run all over you.

[Anonymous]

Have you responded to her request yet? I would just say "Oh whatever we'll just figure it out when we get there!"
(that's how I avoid confrontation). Then just get there early and claim what was originally planned.

Not the most mature plan, but whatever.