Can't stand SIL and her brats!
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Yep, another Holiday rant!
We are spending a week in one large cabin with my DH, two DC (who are 2 and 5), my MIL/FIL, BIL and his wife and kids. I actually like my in-laws. My MIL and FIL are more like my parents than my actual parents are (rocky childhood). My BIL, my husbands younger brother, is nice, but a pushover. His wife and children are HORRIBLE! His wife is the most self centered, spoiled, arrogant, lazy and whiney person. I try to bite my tounge, but I've never disliked a person as I do her, and her children (11, 8 and 4) are just brats. Ungrateful, disrespectful, mean kids. The only reason I agreed to this vacation is for my inlaws, they are older and soon traveling won't be realistic. I tried to be optimistic but tonight my husband informed me that my SIL has claimed two of the master bedrooms in the cabin. The cabin has four bedrooms, a king, two queens and then a room with two fulls. The plan was that my inlaws get the king, my DH and I get a queen, my BIL and his wife get a king and the four oldest kids share a room (my two-year-old can sleep with us). Well she said her kids don't want to share a bed, whatever, there is a pullout couch. Nope, she decided she and my BIL get the king because it has a larger bathroom and she gets carsick (I guess she thinks we are staying in a mobile cabin?) and that her kids will have the queen, and my inlaws the other queen. She asked if my husband and I could share a full, and then my sons could share the other twins....you know, cause her family is bigger they get two huge ass beds. My family is stuck in the kids room. I'm so pissed, my husband doesn't want me to start anything, but I will NOT be pushed around by her and her kids, and I will not allow her to treat my inlaws like that, since they foot the majority of the bill. How should I approach this without starting world war III in our cabin? I looked up to see if my family can rent a small cabin nearby but nothing is vacant. |
Anonymous
| Op here, so many typos. Blame anger and autocorrect! |
Anonymous
| It's time to put your foot down. It stops when you say it stops. I didn't really get all the details about the bedrooms but no way in HECK are my nieces/nephews getting a big room while adults are relegated to a small room. Not a chance. MIL/FIL in the huge room, you in a big room, her and BIL in a big room, and her kids can have whatever's left over (I guess the two fulls). Just go in the room, put your shit down, and let the chips fall. Enough. |
Anonymous
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Time to take a deep breath, thank the heavens you are not genetically related to this woman, and respect your husband's wishes.
You could also get to the cabin first and take whatever bedroom you want. |
Anonymous
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Why are you subjecting yourself to this "vacation" OP? No one I know with difficult ILs (usually the MIL or SIL, as it turns out) participates, it is simply not worth it. Either go and succumb to their idea of a "vacation", or stay home and rearrange your sock drawer. Your call.
I guarantee one thing: If you stay home, your husband will appreciate you more than anyone has appreciated another person - EVER. |
Anonymous
| Unless your DH and MIL and FIL are on your side, you will be viewed as a trouble maker if you try to change what your SIL put in motion. At the very least, you have to be sure they won't acquiesce to your SIL's demands when the time comes to pick sides. If you are sure they will stand behind you, then just tell your SIL that her new plan doesn't work for the family. |
Anonymous
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Can you draw for the rooms? That would probably be the fair thing to do.
I have two kids. As of right now, I assume they would share a bed (they are 4 and 6, opposite genders). However, when they are older I would not expect them to share a bed. We would travel with an air mattress though if we were over our allotted bed space. |
Anonymous
Op here! I'm game for that! |
Anonymous
My MIL does not like her, and I doubt my FIL does, he'd just never admit it. They are just so passive, which is why she leached onto this family. My poor BIL is 36 and looks like he's pushing 60. |
Anonymous
We had it planned out in August! We picked this more expensive cabin for her, and it was decided months ago. I have two boys, she has one who is 4. My son (5) was going to share a bed with her four-year-old, and her girls (8 and 11) would share. I honestly don't mind if my son stays with us, he'll end up in bed with me a years. Her damn kids can have their own room, but not my queen bed. |
Anonymous
You go girl! |
Anonymous
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When people propose ridiculously unfair things to me, I just laugh in their faces and say, "You're so silly! No really, let's figure out how to divide this fairly."
BTW, I am the QUEEN of motion sickness and migraines and I can puke in any bathroom that has a toilet, no matter how big or how small. I can also puke into a garbage bag while walking, or a public trash can on the street. She doesn't need the bigger bathroom because she gets motion sick. |
Anonymous
YES. Get there early with your inlaws. Take the rooms that were originally agreed upon. If she complains explain that you all agreed to the original plan and any changes have to be agreed upon by the group. Kids can definitely share and will probably want to. |
Anonymous
| OP, stand up for yourself on this one. Otherwise you might stew for the entire vacation. |
Anonymous
| Get there early, claim your room and the king for your parents-in-law, then set up some cameras a la Big Brother so we can all watch what happens. |