Is it weird to give the new neighbors baked goods?

[Anonymous]

OP, you were nice and all but give the neighbors a break. You probably caught them off guard. They did not expect it and you may have caught them at a busy time, such as still unpacking and getting things situated. I have never had anyone bring me baked goods before. I would be very thankful but in all honesty, throw it in the trash. I have no idea how clean your house is, what is in them, and if you are a clean person. Also, I am a very private person. I do not like to chit chat with my neighbors. A friendly "hi" when we pass is good enough for me. You do not need to know what I do, who I am with, nor do you need to gossip with me about other neighbors. I am not saying this is you, but just understand, that everyone is not as friendly as you.

[Anonymous]

It is a nice gesture. Our neighbors did it for us when we moved into our current place. Were your new neighbors not from the US originally? Maybe it isn't common in their culture?

[Anonymous]

They were assholes.

I wouldn't eat your food because you're a stranger, but I would be highly appreciative of the gesture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got them from a bunch of neighbors upon moving in. If only it was indicative of the "least popular" residents of the neighborhood. Now I would be suspicious.

The sweetest, most helpful, most desirable, most polite, most decent, most classy (really) and genuine, accomplished neighbors we have had have not baked anything. Instead, they have shown genuine interest in us without being nosy. Priceless.

You are pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you were nice and all but give the neighbors a break. You probably caught them off guard. They did not expect it and you may have caught them at a busy time, such as still unpacking and getting things situated. I have never had anyone bring me baked goods before. I would be very thankful but in all honesty, throw it in the trash. I have no idea how clean your house is, what is in them, and if you are a clean person. Also, I am a very private person. I do not like to chit chat with my neighbors. A friendly "hi" when we pass is good enough for me. You do not need to know what I do, who I am with, nor do you need to gossip with me about other neighbors. I am not saying this is you, but just understand, that everyone is not as friendly as you.

Jesus H. Christ.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you were nice and all but give the neighbors a break. You probably caught them off guard. They did not expect it and you may have caught them at a busy time, such as still unpacking and getting things situated. I have never had anyone bring me baked goods before. I would be very thankful but in all honesty, throw it in the trash. I have no idea how clean your house is, what is in them, and if you are a clean person. Also, I am a very private person. I do not like to chit chat with my neighbors. A friendly "hi" when we pass is good enough for me. You do not need to know what I do, who I am with, nor do you need to gossip with me about other neighbors. I am not saying this is you, but just understand, that everyone is not as friendly as you.

Jesus H. Christ.

This person is just expressing her view. Some people are private. I was touched when my neighbors brought stuff, but usually I HATE when people just stop by. Sadly where we live I might be afraid to bring food not just because of food allergies, but also because people are so lawyer happy, I'd be afraid if the person got sick and it had nothing to do with the food I brought, I'd still have a mess to deal with. Have met people who are just crazy enough to get legal over cookies and muffins.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I have seen in the news many lawsuits over fresh homemade muffins. Yeeaaaah.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've lived in four states, and nobody has ever done that for me when moving in, so I'd be shocked. Hopefully smoother than they were, but shocked.

That is sad. I once cooked an entire dinner for a new neighbor moving in. She looked to be about to give birth at any moment and it was hotter than hades. I also brought them (And the movers ice water and iced tea.) Sorry you don't have nice neighbors.

I think my neighbors are perfectly nice. I have no idea who they are - lived here four years. Don't even know when a neighbor moves in or out. Nice means different things to different people. Sometimes it means bringing baked goods and welcoming someone to the neighborhood and sometimes it means giving people space and privacy.

Space and privacy are one thing; having "no idea who they are" after four years doesn't sound very neighborly. I'd be curious to hear your description of "being nice" to a neighbor. In our 50 year old neighborhood that has people of just about all ages, we don't intrude but certainly wave when walking, know each others' names, assist in an emergency, have a few neighborhood get-togethers each year, etc.

Okay. I don't live in the suburbs. I live in a city, on one of those blocks you wouldn't feel safe walking along at night if you were alone. This is an apartment building, not a house. There are emergencies here fairly often I assume, based on how often I see blood all over the hallways and stairs, a stretcher in the "lobby" or EMT people outside. Nobody here waves, except maybe a toddler or little kid. I recognize one neighbor - we've run into each other at a bus stop, and we smiled at each other and said hi and bye, but don't really talk. I don't know her name. There are certainly no neighborhood get-togethers - I ... can't even imagine.

BTW, I grew up in the suburbs, in a house in an upper-middle class neighborhood. No neighbors ever assisted in emergencies and again, there were never any neighborhood get-togethers. Oh wait, one time I didn't have a key when I came home and needed the bathroom - our next door neighbor let me in to use theirs and then I awkwardly sat on their couch while he watched the Oliver North trials.

To me, being nice is holding the door, offering to help carry something heavy up or down the stairs, letting someone else go first on the stairs, etc. When I see really young kids playing in the hallway alone I always ask if their parents know where they are, just to make sure. Hey and here's a fun fact - across the board, the non-white people in my building are nicer than the whites (I'm white).

I live in the city, in the big building and I know many of my neighbors. I have 3 or 4 I can call in the middle of the night if there is an emergency. And, lots of people to drink wine with.

[Anonymous]

Being a private person is one thing - being rude is another. OP's neighbors could have choked out a "thank you".

[Anonymous]

A couple of us in the neighborhood brought over a gift basket for a new neighbor who gave birth about a week after moving in. She was really unappreciate - not even a verbal thank you. Instead, she inspected the items in the basket (a couple of onesies, some hand knit booties and a hat, among other things) as if she was inspecting cockroaches. She then proceeded to tell us that she and her husband didn't plan on living in the neighborhood for that long because they hate the area. Awesome.

Five years later, they are still here. She is still horrible. I make it a point to avoid her.

All of which is to say, you did a kind thing, OP. Sorry that your neighbors are rude.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's weird! We had two neighbors drop off chocolate chip cookies when we moved to our house last year. I was so thrilled that I'd moved into a neighborhood where people actually do that. My guess is that your neighbors have never experienced that and hopefully realized later how cool your gesture was.

[Anonymous]

Are they foreign? Regardless, you did a very nice thing and shouldn't feel bad in the least. They have a lot to learn about being gracious.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you were nice and all but give the neighbors a break. You probably caught them off guard. They did not expect it and you may have caught them at a busy time, such as still unpacking and getting things situated. I have never had anyone bring me baked goods before. I would be very thankful but in all honesty, throw it in the trash. I have no idea how clean your house is, what is in them, and if you are a clean person. Also, I am a very private person. I do not like to chit chat with my neighbors. A friendly "hi" when we pass is good enough for me. You do not need to know what I do, who I am with, nor do you need to gossip with me about other neighbors. I am not saying this is you, but just understand, that everyone is not as friendly as you.

Jesus H. Christ.

This person is just expressing her view. Some people are private. I was touched when my neighbors brought stuff, but usually I HATE when people just stop by. Sadly where we live I might be afraid to bring food not just because of food allergies, but also because people are so lawyer happy, I'd be afraid if the person got sick and it had nothing to do with the food I brought, I'd still have a mess to deal with. Have met people who are just crazy enough to get legal over cookies and muffins.

Are you my recluse neighbor who I've never met or even seen a glimpse of in the past year we've lived in our house??

[Anonymous]

OP - you must have caught them off guard, but it was very kind of you to bring over the baked goods. I wish we'd had neighbors that thoughtful when we moved into our current house. We do have one set of neighbors who are friendly when we see them out in the yard, but the other two are weird and don't even say hi or wave when we see them outside.

[Anonymous]

Are you kidding me? In the middle of a move in and neighbor comes over with baked goods to welcome me to the neighborhood. I wouldnt normally eat a stranger's baked goods but during a move who has time to run out a get something? Stuff like this never happens to me. I'd eat it. Your new neighbors are weird and awkward.