Is it weird to give the new neighbors baked goods?
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Anonymous
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We got new neighbors this week so we made them some banana bread and snicker doodles. When we went to introduce ourselves and what not they looked at us like we were stupid the whole time! I tried to hold out the baked goods, urging them to take them but they just stared at me. FINALLY the little boy(maybe 5 years old) grabbed the basket. They did introduce themselves but the whole thing was very awkward and I couldn't wait to get out of there! lol.
So are we going to be labeled as the creepy, weird neighbors now? Or were they just awkward? |
Anonymous
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They were awkward.
It sounds like you didn't stay long, just said hello and welcome, and gave them the baked items. Even if it wasn't something I could or wanted to eat, I'd still think it was very friendly for someone to go to the trouble to make me a treat. |
Anonymous
| I've lived in four states, and nobody has ever done that for me when moving in, so I'd be shocked. Hopefully smoother than they were, but shocked. |
Anonymous
We are military, and that type of thing happens all the time when we move. OP, the neighbors were rude. Maybe they have a severe food allergy to everything? |
Anonymous
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OP, you were polite and sweet. How welcoming.
Unfortunately, a lot of young people (and by that I mean younger than mid-40s) and people from city environments didn't grow up around this and don't get it. Small town neighborly values are sadly dying off. Don't sweat it, and keep trying. (Not with these folks--but in general.) |
Anonymous
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Agreed that they were awkward.
We had a neighbor bring us a baked good when we moved in and it was a nice welcome to the neighborhood. |
Anonymous
| Even if they've never been given something by a new neighbor, have they never been given a gift by anyone? It's never happened to me, but if it did, I think I would know how to say "thank-you" and physically take the package from them if they were handing it to me. They sound like they lack simple social skills to me. |
Anonymous
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Duh, of course you did the right thing. We always do this and had it done for us. You neighbors sound like freaks - because even if they didn't know that you were giving them a welcoming gift, unless they are literally sociopaths, they could obviously see you were (1) humans that (2) lived directly next door (3) bearing a gift and saying welcome.
Wtf did they think? Couldn't they figure it out on the spot and give a broad smile and say thanks! We love it here! Then close the door and have junior eat them. |
Anonymous
| When we moved to North Chevy Chase, we got homemade baked goods from 4 or 5 neighbors. It was wonderful. Made us feel so welcome. |
Anonymous
| We got baked goods when me moved in. We gave our neighbors ice cold waters and popsicles when they move here on the hottest day of the year. |
Anonymous
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Even if they were from an urban area, or they had never been greeted by neighbors before, or they had food allergies, or were very surprised, it still sounds like they didn't handle it well.
"Thanks so much for this and stopping by. Unfortunately we have to get back to unpacking, moving is crazy! Thanks again and it was nice to meet you." And then go back inside. |
Anonymous
| I would love it if my neighbors did that for me. |
Anonymous
That is sad. I once cooked an entire dinner for a new neighbor moving in. She looked to be about to give birth at any moment and it was hotter than hades. I also brought them (And the movers ice water and iced tea.) Sorry you don't have nice neighbors. |
Anonymous
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We got them from a bunch of neighbors upon moving in. If only it was indicative of the "least popular" residents of the neighborhood. Now I would be suspicious.
The sweetest, most helpful, most desirable, most polite, most decent, most classy (really) and genuine, accomplished neighbors we have had have not baked anything. Instead, they have shown genuine interest in us without being nosy. Priceless. |
Anonymous
| It's not as common as it used to be, but it sounds like they are ungracious. |