Does your spouse use you as an excuse not to deal with his family?

[Anonymous]

22:44 - MIL is extremely mad at the world (especially me, as I am different from her, God forbid) and SILs are relentless to me as they are to DH. BILs are removed, they hate the family. Does any of this sound familiar to you? At this point, I wonder if we could support each other? Does this sound crazy? I know its hard.

[Anonymous]

I dated a great guy who was like this. I accepted it because it was easier to be the bitch or bottleneck with the fam and say no to them than to have my softie bf get walked all over because he couldn't say no. At least they listened to me.

[Anonymous]

PP here. If you know DH is never going to address the issue, and you do not want to give the obnoxious family the satisfaction of you telling them what you really think, then they do not leave you many choices. DH is a grown adult and should be dealing with them, but if/since he doesn't I do not expect to be willing or able (it would necessitate many professionals) to have DH or his birth family see their behavior is so very wrong. They simply are wrong and are not my responsibility. My life was going fine before I knew them, DHs life was not. They are not my problem. It has nothing to do with them ever admitting how rotten they are, because that will never happen. I simply choose to spend my time in other ways, rather than be bullied by them the way DH has always been. I can't undo 40 years of abuse by them, unfortunately. Nor should I be expected to.