Should my sister invite my in-laws to her wedding?

[Anonymous]

BTW, I find the people who take offense about wedding invitations are people who have never thrown a wedding in this country in recent years. They don't know how expensive it is or hard it is to manage all the people you have to invite when you invite another person. Then they sing a different tune when it's their turn. Were they very involved in the planning or payments of your wedding or anyone else's? If your DH is offended or hurt, you can explain some of this to him.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the relationship between your sister and your in-laws, and the size of the wedding.

I am way closer to my brother's in laws than I am to my own. They've come for every event - wedding, baby shower, etc, for all of my siblings. For any event where I would invite my extended family, I would include my brother's in-laws (including aunts/uncles). But my in-laws would not be invited to most of these things, perhaps only DH's parents, as a formality.

[Anonymous]

Not if it's such a small affair.

Tell you MIL it's a tiny wedding and only close family is invited.

[Anonymous]

OP, express surprise that she is surprised. she is not related to your sister in any way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Not if it's such a small affair.

Tell you MIL it's a tiny wedding and only close family is invited.

+1

[Anonymous]

It depends on culture. My parents would be very offended if my ILs didn't invite them to SILs wedding. In fact, my (Indian) parents are offended that despite the fact that they have reached out to my (Caucasian, Midwestern) in-laws many times over the years and never even receive a phone call back. So much for being the super kind, charity giving, generous Christian type, jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely not! They should NOT expect to be invited.

ditto. ridiculous of your mil to expect to be invited.

We have a tight knit family, i would be surprised for my in laws to expect to be invited to my brother's wedding.

[Anonymous]

No. Your MIL is wrong. Your sister is under NO social obligation to invite them especially having such a tiny wedding.

[Anonymous]

Only in white culture would one set of ILs not consider the other set family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is getting married in October in Philadelphia. They are planning a small affair (think 50 guests at the most). My MIL is "surprised" that she was not invited to the wedding. My parents are not close to my in-laws, and my sister had met them once (at our wedding). Are they committing a faux-pas in not inviting them?

Yikes. No way in hell would I invite my sister's inlaws to anything under 1,000 people going. Since that ain't gonna happen ...

I barely know, and don't particularly care for, my sister's MIL. What a crazy thing to expect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if my sisters wedding is large and my parents and my in laws are friends?

You need to start a fresh thread, pp. People are responding to the original post, which is FOUR YEARS OLD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BTW, I find the people who take offense about wedding invitations are people who have never thrown a wedding in this country in recent years. They don't know how expensive it is or hard it is to manage all the people you have to invite when you invite another person. Then they sing a different tune when it's their turn. Were they very involved in the planning or payments of your wedding or anyone else's? If your DH is offended or hurt, you can explain some of this to him.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if my sisters wedding is large and my parents and my in laws are friends?

You need to start a fresh thread, pp. People are responding to the original post, which is FOUR YEARS OLD.

If your sister wants to invite them, she should invite them.