Should my sister invite my in-laws to her wedding?

[Anonymous]

No, they shouldn't be invited. My DH asked the same question when my brother was planning his wedding. I have next to no relationship with my ILs, so why on earth would my brother invite them to his wedding. I'm sure it came from my MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely not! They should NOT expect to be invited.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

well in certain cultures it is expected. OP did not state if this is the case.

[Anonymous]

I'd be furious if she invited them! I didn't even want those mean-spirited drama seeking nuts at my own wedding.
If the families are close I think it's a lovely gesture, otherwise give me a break. Your MIL has too much time on her hands if this throws her into a tizzy.

[Anonymous]

What if my sisters wedding is large and my parents and my in laws are friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:well in certain cultures it is expected. OP did not state if this is the case.

Then we should assume OP is talking about American culture. .....as every PP but you seems to have assumed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is getting married in October in Philadelphia. They are planning a small affair (think 50 guests at the most). My MIL is "surprised" that she was not invited to the wedding. My parents are not close to my in-laws, and my sister had met them once (at our wedding). Are they committing a faux-pas in not inviting them?

They shouldn't expect it, but it does happen. When my husband's brother got married, I thought it was very kind he and his fiancee invited my parents. My mom wound up offended they weren't also invited to the rehearsal dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely not! They should NOT expect to be invited.

ditto. ridiculous of your mil to expect to be invited.

Agree. Your MIL is being silly.

Often comes with the territory

The earlier your sister learns to ignore her, the better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:well in certain cultures it is expected. OP did not state if this is the case.

In those cultures, a 50-person guest-list is pretty rare.


I agree with others that it's not required in a wedding this size.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if my sisters wedding is large and my parents and my in laws are friends?

It's always fine to invite them if they are family friends. However, they are not related to the couple being married so there is no obligation to invite them, especially if they barely know each other and the wedding is small.

[Anonymous]

No.

Shouldn't even be a question with a wedding of 50 ppl.

If/when the guest list hits 200 then maybe...

[Anonymous]

Your MIL is cray, that is insane. My ILs would be excited for an opportunity to come up and watch our baby though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely not! They should NOT expect to be invited.

This. My ILs wanted to be invited to my brother's wedding. I thought it was weird but I did have my brother invite them, because I was only one year into my own marriage/didn't know how to say No. I think they came to check out the whole affair/whether it was fancy, relatives, guests, etc. Whatever. It was a fancy wedding.

[Anonymous]

If your in-laws saw each other regularly, then yes. In your case, no.

For example, if you hosted several family holidays together annually (Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve or Day, etc) and they saw each other regularly, then it would seem courteous to invite them as extended family because they socialized together. In your case, they've met each other once at your wedding, so they really aren't social, no invitation is necessary.

[Anonymous]

No. This is so weird.