Should my sister invite my in-laws to her wedding?
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Anonymous
| My sister is getting married in October in Philadelphia. They are planning a small affair (think 50 guests at the most). My MIL is "surprised" that she was not invited to the wedding. My parents are not close to my in-laws, and my sister had met them once (at our wedding). Are they committing a faux-pas in not inviting them? |
Anonymous
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Definitely not! They should NOT expect to be invited.
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Anonymous
| No. If this was a big wedding with hundreds of guests, maybe a sister's in-laws would get an invitation. But a small wedding of 50 people, not expected. |
Anonymous
ditto. ridiculous of your mil to expect to be invited. |
Anonymous
| I had a wedding this size and did not invite my only sib's in-laws. |
Anonymous
| For that kind of a relationship and that size of a wedding, I would agree with PPs that MIL should not have expected an invitation. However, I don't think that's necessarily a given in general. My sister is getting married this summer and my ILs are invited. But it's a larger wedding (150) and my parents have a decent relationship with my ILs. My sister knows them very well too (has been to their house for events/holidays quite a few times etc). |
Anonymous
| In this situation, sister's in-laws would not be invited. But both my and DH's younger brothers invited both sets of our parents to their weddings. Both weddings had about 120 guests, and everyone had met on multiple occasions. Plus, my parents and my ILs get along really well. |
Anonymous
Agree. Your MIL is being silly. |
Anonymous
| No, definitely not. That's strange that they would even think they would be invited if your parents don't socialize frequently. Some people think they are "family" just because two people got married. |
Anonymous
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HA! I was just talking about this yesterday...my SIL's parents invited themselves to my wedding and offered to play keyboard for my processional since I had no live music at the venue (not a church). I had 50 people at my wedding.
Yes, it was a bit weird, but they are very nice elderly people and just wanted to be involved in my wedding. So I let them come and play, it was fine. |
Anonymous
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No...
That's weird that your IL's assumed they would be invited. |
Anonymous
Agree. |
Anonymous
| OP here. Thank you everyone for your responses. I too thought it weird that my MIL would even bring it up with DH. My in-laws only have one other couple as their friends so I think they were hoping for a social event to attend, even though it is out of town. Fortunately, they are only complaining to DH. |
Anonymous
I agree. For an affair that small, every invitation should be for someone your sister and husband to be absolutely want to come to the wedding. My sister's wedding was large - 500 plus guests - and she invited my ILs because we all live in the same area and see each other fairly regularly, etc. |
Anonymous
| Besides they should be babysitting for you while you are at the wedding |