Etiquette - I want to find out what schools my child's friends got into

[Anonymous]

Unbelievable, that there are nosy people who would think of asking or starting a conversation just to find out. This is the ugly side of living with the over-striving parents of the DC area. Of course many people are curious where the other kids are going to go to school next year, but most people have better manners than to try to find out by asking point-blank or by forcing the conversation, which is no more subtle than asking point-blank. Believe me, the other kids' parents can see right through you and your scheme, and you will not look attractive.

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP.

Thanks for the feedback. The reason I posted here is because as eager as I am to know I my child with be going to the same school as friends, I had a strong sense it would be inappropriate to ask. That's why I came here. I wanted to avoid making a mistake that would hurt feelings.

Whoever gave the suggestion to go to the accepted family receptions - thank you! Not sure why I didn't just think of that on my own.

Please don't talk down to me. Isn't this forum supposed to be where we can all go for advice?

[Anonymous]

Whoops I'm so sorry about my typos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't talk down to me. Isn't this forum supposed to be where we can all go for advice?

Sure, but when you ask an idiotic question, what kind of answers to you expect to receive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't talk down to me. Isn't this forum supposed to be where we can all go for advice?

Sure, but when you ask an idiotic question, what kind of answers to you expect to receive?

Stand down. Seems like OP's q has been asked and answered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't talk down to me. Isn't this forum supposed to be where we can all go for advice?

Sure, but when you ask an idiotic question, what kind of answers to you expect to receive?

Totally uncalled for.

[Anonymous]

OMG, I was dying to know what happened to a particular friend's kid, but I kept my mouth shut. I didn't say anything to anyone unless they asked. A different friend even chided me. When standing in the hall for preschool pick-up, she told me about the fate of a mutual friend's kid. Kid had been turned down. I knew our kid had been admitted to same school, but since she had not asked, I kept quiet. She later teased me about it, but also said she respected that I was not blabbing it all over the hall at school as other parents were wringing their hands on not getting into first choices.

[Anonymous]

Yeh, I like 23:40's response. We had good friends and their kid was shut out everywhere. I found this out from a mutual friend. So, yes, even though we had just run the gauntlet together on the admission process, I was mum until they asked a few weeks later They were lucky that in the intervening few weeks, their DD got off a W/L and has been very happy at the school, even though it was not parents' first choice.