Etiquette - I want to find out what schools my child's friends got into
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Anonymous
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I know the answer is probably "just wait until they bring it up". But...
Our daughter applied to some of the same schools as a few friends of hers from her preschool, and I am curious to see if they got in and will be going to the same place. Can I send an email or make a call to check in and ask? If they didn't get in, I would feel like a total heel. But for all I know the other parents might be wondering the same question about us. |
Anonymous
If you really must.... then the best way is to tell them what your daughter has got, and not ask them about theirs. They can decide what they want to tell you (perhaps email is better, so they do not feel obligated to respond right there or at all, and not with a fake smile!) |
Anonymous
Your curiosity does not create an obligation in others. You are nosey, pure and simple. Leave it alone. It is none of your business. |
Anonymous
| It will naturally come out over the next several weeks. Just let it be. Anything else could be perceived as nosy. |
Anonymous
| Yes, you're just being nosey. |
Anonymous
| Competitive mom indeed. I wonder what variety? Redshirt or Tiger mom? |
Anonymous
| How about, go to the new parent receptions and see who is there? |
Anonymous
Agree - perfect solution! |
Anonymous
I think you just answered your own question. Get a life and stop being so nosy. Respect other people's feelings. |
Anonymous
Really, I doubt it. I wonder whether you would pose the same question if your daughter was rejected from the aforementioned school? I'm sure you would immeidately ask her friends. And if her firends all got in how would you feel then? Did you redshirt your child? |
Anonymous
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I wish there wasn't all this secrecy surrounding the process. We got our waitlist letter on Friday, and saw lots of other school parents that night. A few asked me directly if we had heard, and we shared our info. Perhaps it helps that all the parents I spoke to had applied to different grades, but it felt good to talk openly and freely. Of course, I would not have ever initiated the conversation, and I recognize it was probably a little easier for me since we had a WL letter than flat rejection, which would have felt a lot worse.
If my kid was accepted, I really would keep it all quiet and tell only those people who asked me directly. Otherwise it would seem like gloating. |
Anonymous
| It's a good practice to say where you'll be going but bad form to rattle off the places to which your child has been accepted. |
Anonymous
| Some folk are nosey and others are private. As it should be. Good luck on your interrogatories or depositions of your friends. Some will tell you. Some will not. What will you do then. Issue a subpeona under oath? |
Anonymous
| OP just wants to gloat. There are no legitimate reasons to ask. You will meet the other new parents in the next few weeks at the school's reception. |
Anonymous
Yes, this. Where your dd's friends will actually go is of legitimate interest to you; where they got in but will not be attendin is none of your business. |