Tacky second child shower

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't have a problem with shower for #2, but when I was invited to my friend's baby shower for #4, I had to decline. That is TACKY. After you have had 3 babies and you are on your THIRD boy, there is no reason what so ever to have another shower. I'd be so embarrassed.

Ever hear of a shower just for consumable items? Things like diapers, diaper cream, baby shampoo, etc. All of the 2d and 3d showers that I've attended were of that nature (though sometimes people brought blankets and things). Those things are always needed, first. Second, for the showers I've attended, we are talking a small group of friends, small gifts, celebrating mom and baby. I don't care if it is the first or the fourth. I don't see that there is anything tacky about it.
(FWIW, I only have one DC so have not had a second shower; indeed, my first was super small).

What a bunch of delicate flowers some of you are. Honestly . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Top this. My friend is expecting her third. She moved out of the area for the year for her husband's judicial clerkship. Her mom sent out an invitation to a "virtual babyshower". Ie please send gifts to such and such address. TACKY!!!

These people are also fairly well off, but are new money.

Wow, tacky times 100! So much wrong with that!

[Anonymous]

You know what is tacky? Calling someone "new money."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Top this. My friend is expecting her third. She moved out of the area for the year for her husband's judicial clerkship. Her mom sent out an invitation to a "virtual babyshower". Ie please send gifts to such and such address. TACKY!!!

These people are also fairly well off, but are new money.

Wow, tacky times 100! So much wrong with that!

Calling someone new money is tacky, but a virtual shower? That is outrageous. Gift grubbing to the tenth power. Wow. People will take things pretty far, won't they?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have a problem with shower for #2, but when I was invited to my friend's baby shower for #4, I had to decline. That is TACKY. After you have had 3 babies and you are on your THIRD boy, there is no reason what so ever to have another shower. I'd be so embarrassed.

Ever hear of a shower just for consumable items? Things like diapers, diaper cream, baby shampoo, etc. All of the 2d and 3d showers that I've attended were of that nature (though sometimes people brought blankets and things). Those things are always needed, first. Second, for the showers I've attended, we are talking a small group of friends, small gifts, celebrating mom and baby. I don't care if it is the first or the fourth. I don't see that there is anything tacky about it.
(FWIW, I only have one DC so have not had a second shower; indeed, my first was super small).

What a bunch of delicate flowers some of you are. Honestly . . .

My circle of friends includes mothers of 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, and 11 children. We have a shower for every new baby. It is a time to celebrate friendship, motherhood, and a new life. We treat the mom-to-be to lunch or breakfast, and the presents are small treats for the mother (chocolate, massage oil, bath salts) or small treats for the baby (a diaper cake, a gift card to Target we all contribute to). Sometimes, if several women are expecting at the same time, we have a shower for all of them at once, and just pass a card around. When the babies are born, we arrange for a meal drop-off for at least the first two weeks, and often the meal is accompanied by another small gift.

I guess, possibly, if the shower includes a registry for expensive items, that could be tacky, but that is not the definition of shower that I know. A shower is a time to share birth stories and sisterhood. I love them, for baby #1 or #12 or whatever!

[Anonymous]

I think we'd all be much better off if women ran the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

Are you the OP? because you wrote "tacky second child shower" in your subject. is this some kind of joke?

[Anonymous]

"Calling someone new money is tacky, but a virtual shower? That is outrageous. Gift grubbing to the tenth power. Wow. People will take things pretty far, won't they?"

Yup. Like professional maternity photos. What's up with that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Calling someone new money is tacky, but a virtual shower? That is outrageous. Gift grubbing to the tenth power. Wow. People will take things pretty far, won't they?"

Yup. Like professional maternity photos. What's up with that?

New poster. This thread is so interesting. Never heard of a virtual shower, and the only time I've heard of professional maternity photos was on Real Housewives of Atlanta - did anyone else see the hideous pickle photos?

To each their own.

I think I should throw myself a divorce shower! Shower me with wine, and bath salts, and nanny gift certificates, and clunky silver rings to replace my wedding bands!

[Anonymous]

Oh God, Michelle Duggar is back again. People who have a dozen children are whack jobs.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have a problem with shower for #2, but when I was invited to my friend's baby shower for #4, I had to decline. That is TACKY. After you have had 3 babies and you are on your THIRD boy, there is no reason what so ever to have another shower. I'd be so embarrassed.

Ever hear of a shower just for consumable items? Things like diapers, diaper cream, baby shampoo, etc. All of the 2d and 3d showers that I've attended were of that nature (though sometimes people brought blankets and things). Those things are always needed, first. Second, for the showers I've attended, we are talking a small group of friends, small gifts, celebrating mom and baby. I don't care if it is the first or the fourth. I don't see that there is anything tacky about it.
(FWIW, I only have one DC so have not had a second shower; indeed, my first was super small).

What a bunch of delicate flowers some of you are. Honestly . . .

My circle of friends includes mothers of 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, and 11 children. We have a shower for every new baby. It is a time to celebrate friendship, motherhood, and a new life. We treat the mom-to-be to lunch or breakfast, and the presents are small treats for the mother (chocolate, massage oil, bath salts) or small treats for the baby (a diaper cake, a gift card to Target we all contribute to). Sometimes, if several women are expecting at the same time, we have a shower for all of them at once, and just pass a card around. When the babies are born, we arrange for a meal drop-off for at least the first two weeks, and often the meal is accompanied by another small gift.

I guess, possibly, if the shower includes a registry for expensive items, that could be tacky, but that is not the definition of shower that I know. A shower is a time to share birth stories and sisterhood. I love them, for baby #1 or #12 or whatever!

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's tacky. If you don't want it decline to have it or if it's for someone else don't go or contribute. Not everyone keeps baby stuff for years and sometimes the second baby is a total surprise. Some kids are spaced far apart.

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Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

You're the one who titled your thread "tacky second child shower." So yeah, relax and let people have whatever showers they want and don't invite the shitstorm of criticism that you now caused. Jeez.

Did you bother to read the body of the message???? Duh!

Um, yeah. What did you think this thread was going to turn into? Did you bother to read the body of my message? Duh!

You have some serious reading comprehension issues then...

Oh just fuck off. This is a mean spirited thread. If someone wants to have a fucking baby shower, shove it. This thread is useless. And you're a jerk.

Here we go again. The lowly have come out from under their rocks from the dark depths of the underbelly of DC area society...to enlighten the rest of us with their vocabulary and impress us with their polish.

People can do whatever the heck they want of course, but the OP asked if it was tacky and IT IS. Maybe it offends some because they did or would do the same exact thing -- have a party for themselves just so they could mooch off others and get freebie gifts. Sorry but thats what it looks like to many because that's precisely the motivation. That's why it's so tacky!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

Are you the OP? because you wrote "tacky second child shower" in your subject. is this some kind of joke?

IF YOU READ THE FREAKING BODY OF THE MESSAGE YOU'LL SEE I WAS ASKING IF CALLING A SECOND BABY SHOWER TACKY IS A DC THING.

Got it? Or should I be louder next time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

Are you the OP? because you wrote "tacky second child shower" in your subject. is this some kind of joke?

IF YOU READ THE FREAKING BODY OF THE MESSAGE YOU'LL SEE I WAS ASKING IF CALLING A SECOND BABY SHOWER TACKY IS A DC THING.

Got it? Or should I be louder next time?

No OP, you're an asshole because you got the exact argument you solicited about whether a second baby shower is tacky. DID YOU READ THE TITLE OF YOUR OWN FREAKIN THREAD?
You are seriously an idiot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

You're the one who titled your thread "tacky second child shower." So yeah, relax and let people have whatever showers they want and don't invite the shitstorm of criticism that you now caused. Jeez.

Did you bother to read the body of the message???? Duh!

Um, yeah. What did you think this thread was going to turn into? Did you bother to read the body of my message? Duh!

You have some serious reading comprehension issues then...

Oh just fuck off. This is a mean spirited thread. If someone wants to have a fucking baby shower, shove it. This thread is useless. And you're a jerk.

Here we go again. The lowly have come out from under their rocks from the dark depths of the underbelly of DC area society...to enlighten the rest of us with their vocabulary and impress us with their polish.

People can do whatever the heck they want of course, but the OP asked if it was tacky and IT IS. Maybe it offends some because they did or would do the same exact thing -- have a party for themselves just so they could mooch off others and get freebie gifts. Sorry but thats what it looks like to many because that's precisely the motivation. That's why it's so tacky!

You're an asshole too.