Tacky second child shower

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Is it a DC thing?

No, its a southern thing and you are hearing from southern transplants or southern wanna bees who have an obsession with labeling things tacky.

i am not from the south and my now-southern SIL had a second baby shower (even better the hosts sent out a specific e-mail telling everyone where she was registered for #2, thereby eliminating any notion that it was just a celebration) and i think it is the tackiest, rudest, most self-absorbed thing ever. if you can't get the stuff yourself, don't have a second baby.

Wow what a dumb mean thing to say. I really doubt most women are literally begging for gifts at a second shower because their second child will impoverish them. How nasty of you. What happened to a sense of community? And no, I don't even have a second child yet. Also, I guess this would extend to all gifts you don't purchase yourself. God.

[Anonymous]

I got a virtual baby shower invitation and didn't think it was tacky at all. She's a single mom - she got pregnant on an IUD, her boyfriend hung by her because they said she would miscarry when they removed the IUD. She didn't, so he dumped her. And then not only dumped her but moved away so he didn't have to have anything to do with her and the baby. She's a grad student, trying to make a good life, and she has no money. Her friends did this for her just so all of us who are out of town know that she's registered and if want to participate, we can. I will. She needs things for the baby. What's the big deal?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

You're the one who titled your thread "tacky second child shower." So yeah, relax and let people have whatever showers they want and don't invite the shitstorm of criticism that you now caused. Jeez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Top this. My friend is expecting her third. She moved out of the area for the year for her husband's judicial clerkship. Her mom sent out an invitation to a "virtual babyshower". Ie please send gifts to such and such address. TACKY!!!

These people are also fairly well off, but are new money.

now THAT is tacky!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Top this. My friend is expecting her third. She moved out of the area for the year for her husband's judicial clerkship. Her mom sent out an invitation to a "virtual babyshower". Ie please send gifts to such and such address. TACKY!!!

These people are also fairly well off, but are new money.

now THAT is tacky!!

Yeah. Thread winner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got a virtual baby shower invitation and didn't think it was tacky at all. She's a single mom - she got pregnant on an IUD, her boyfriend hung by her because they said she would miscarry when they removed the IUD. She didn't, so he dumped her. And then not only dumped her but moved away so he didn't have to have anything to do with her and the baby. She's a grad student, trying to make a good life, and she has no money. Her friends did this for her just so all of us who are out of town know that she's registered and if want to participate, we can. I will. She needs things for the baby. What's the big deal?

So she did have a shower and the virtual shower invitation was for the out of towners? OK, fine, plus it seems like she is really in need.

However if it's know you are well off a vitual shower for your 3rd is TACKY. To me that just says you just want stuff.

[Anonymous]

People are so dumb. If someone wants to throw a shower for a second baby, and my friends have gladly done it for one another and done so with the intent of celebrating the baby to come, then so what? These tend to be much smaller affairs, no registry (and it has nothing to do with what the parents can afford). Why is it that only first babies should be celebrated?

If you don't like it, don't go. Otherwise, stick a sock in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Top this. My friend is expecting her third. She moved out of the area for the year for her husband's judicial clerkship. Her mom sent out an invitation to a "virtual babyshower". Ie please send gifts to such and such address. TACKY!!!

These people are also fairly well off, but are new money.

You are an awful person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Top this. My friend is expecting her third. She moved out of the area for the year for her husband's judicial clerkship. Her mom sent out an invitation to a "virtual babyshower". Ie please send gifts to such and such address. TACKY!!!

These people are also fairly well off, but are new money.

You are an awful person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

You're the one who titled your thread "tacky second child shower." So yeah, relax and let people have whatever showers they want and don't invite the shitstorm of criticism that you now caused. Jeez.

Did you bother to read the body of the message???? Duh!

[Anonymous]

of course all babies should be celebrated -- but that doesn't mean the mom needs another party and another pile of gifts. perhaps my persoective is skewed because i really do know only one person who had a second baby shower and she is the same person who expects everyone to give her/her kids gifts for every event -- showers plus very large (100+ people) baby naming ceremonies. and yes, i send gifts for every event and every kid. but that doesn't mean people should EXPECT gifts and parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

You're the one who titled your thread "tacky second child shower." So yeah, relax and let people have whatever showers they want and don't invite the shitstorm of criticism that you now caused. Jeez.

Did you bother to read the body of the message???? Duh!

Um, yeah. What did you think this thread was going to turn into? Did you bother to read the body of my message? Duh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

You're the one who titled your thread "tacky second child shower." So yeah, relax and let people have whatever showers they want and don't invite the shitstorm of criticism that you now caused. Jeez.

Did you bother to read the body of the message???? Duh!

Um, yeah. What did you think this thread was going to turn into? Did you bother to read the body of my message? Duh!

You have some serious reading comprehension issues then...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hold on ladies. I never said I think it's tacky. I'm not even from DC. I lived there for several years (I'm from overseas and we don't do showers there).

Jeez!

You're the one who titled your thread "tacky second child shower." So yeah, relax and let people have whatever showers they want and don't invite the shitstorm of criticism that you now caused. Jeez.

Did you bother to read the body of the message???? Duh!

Um, yeah. What did you think this thread was going to turn into? Did you bother to read the body of my message? Duh!

You have some serious reading comprehension issues then...

Oh just fuck off. This is a mean spirited thread. If someone wants to have a fucking baby shower, shove it. This thread is useless. And you're a jerk.

[Anonymous]

I don't have a problem with shower for #2, but when I was invited to my friend's baby shower for #4, I had to decline. That is TACKY. After you have had 3 babies and you are on your THIRD boy, there is no reason what so ever to have another shower. I'd be so embarrassed.